You ladies may want to kill me for today’s post. I don’t claim eternal truths, just put forth some thoughts that usually escape females looking for marriage.
- You invite a guy over and try to impress him with a nice dinner built around the theme of romance. Candlelight, soft music, etc. is your thing, not his. It does, however, symbolize sex to come. A better trap, to my thinking, would be a family-type, not sloppy, after work, meat and potatoes thing. Show him how neatly, prettily, and harmoniously you can build an excellent after work, homey atmosphere. Sex should not follow, because withholding sex leaves his conquest mission unfulfilled, adds value to you, and brightens his view of the future with you.
- By promising romance and convincing yourself that you’re sufficiently committed to it to fix him a dinner, you scare him off at the worst or leave him unknowledgeable about your feeding skills at the least. The stage set for romance means trap laid to him; except for the promise of sex, it scares more than attracts. Gourmet food or fancy cooking may interest him, if he has a hobby interest in it. But usually, cooking to you translates into feeding to him. Romance to him also implies sex to follow, but you shouldn’t, hadn’t, oughta’ do that. Virtual virginity works best to accomplish marriage.
I don’t claim greater success will come from the above, just that the female romance theme is a gal and not a guy thing, and perhaps women should try something else.