I love it when pretty women have something to add here.
Many women are skeptical when they first come upon this blog and its contents. Although I believe the contents spread their own merit, some women have incorporated these principles into their lives and brightened their future. Don’t take it from me. Take it from them. Read on.
Thank you Guy for the testimonial page. I have learnt to revel in my femininity on this page. Where I thought it was weakness before…It is now strength. Having gone through a difficult childhood I was cynical about male female interactions and always expected them to go wrong (they did!) most because I focused on the male weaknesses without finding things to be grateful for. Finding my place as a gifted feminine woman has made me stronger…..but not “in your face stronger” I can roar…and purr. Many people say I am one of the best people to work with in my workplace. (some comment they dont even know why I am still single)….come to think of it neither do I
. Thank you so much Sir Guy, Your mal-alignment has and is making me more and more aligned each day. My favourite teachings in your blog have been “jack about jack” virtual virginity and dear daughter….her jewels are particularly insightful. Keep up the good work Guy! I hope to invite many female friends to partake of this spread of wisdom. Thank you so much for pulling me out of my cynicism about males.I now belive our male female differences is what makes us all special.
Your Highness Princess Blossoming,
You’re most welcome. Your progress makes me proud for having participated.
Guy
Although I have (almost) always lived by these principles (my mom was a perfect example to me of femininity and submissiveness) I am amazed at how many times I need to be reminded about them. Not so much reminded to do them as to make it clear in my mind why I live this way and why my marriage has been such a success. All that I have been living has been confirmed on this blog.
I married my husband of 19 years when I was just 17 and one month old and we had a good marriage. I related to my husband the same way I saw my mom relate to my dad. (They are happily married for almost 40 years.) But than I began to read feminist literature and began to apply what I was reading to my life. After a few years things just fell apart and I went into a deep depression. My husband became withdrawn and I didn’t know if I could keep this marriage together.
A while later a dear friend gave me the book by Helen Andelin called Facinating Womenhood and I ate it up. It was filled with the truths I had lived before I came across the feministic stuff. The same truths Guy gives us here on this blog. I now do my best to live the feminine life Helen and Guy wrote about. What bliss, freedom and joy!
Today my husband and I have the wonderful marriage. He is my best friend and I love, accept and admire him more each day. We have 8 children so far and we are looking forward to more. It’s a good life.
Your Highness Tracy,
Thank you for the confirmation. I wish more wives could find a good husband and exploit it with the feminine joy of raising a large family.
Guy
I have only recently started reading this blog. After going through premarital counseling with my pastor, I was still feeling frustrated that me and future hubby weren’t making any progress and started looking for advice. When I first came across the site I was looking for a way to cohabitate peacefully until I had enough money to leave him, but after reading a few topics decided to try once more. Now honestly; using the advice Guy gives was very difficult because of my upbringing; but I bit the bullet, stuck to the advice, and most importantly kept my mouth shut. It took several weeks, but my future hubby slowly started to come around just as Guy described. We have had much better interactions in the past few weeks and I have gotten just the responses I’ve been DEMANDING all this time just by NOT demanding. Funny how life works. We still have work to do, but we are surely on the right track.
Thank you soooooo much Guy!
Your Highness Try2Bchristian,
You’re most welcome. Your progress makes me proud for having contributed.
Guy
I’ve gotten a lot of advice from a lot of people. But Guy’s advice- not just about dealing with men, but dealing with life- has a ring of hard-hitting truth to it that gripped me. Guy is more openly right wing than anyone I’ve ever had in my circle of friends or relatives; and he’s also one of the only people who has ever given me advice that seems to reflect how life is, not how it should be. I feel like his advice is helping me to be a stronger and more confident woman and a better person, not just better at dealing with men. Although I don’t always agree with what he says, much of it has more practical application and merit than most of the comfortable philosophies and advice that I’ve picked up over the years. I hope that I’m not going to sound over-effusive when I say that I wish I had a father and that he was something like what I imagine Guy to be like.
Your Highness D,
Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
Guy
Dear Guy,
Thnk you so much for your effort to create this blog. I cannot thank you enough. For helping women understand what men really think that they never say. Ever since I chanced upon this blog through ‘the art of being feminine’, instead of reading women magazines like ”cosmopolitan”, I now turn towards this blog. Through this blog, I realised that attracting a guy is not just about being hot and sexy that is oversold by Hollywood, but more abt being classy, stylish, feminine and neat while looking attractive simultaneously. I used to think that virginity is really outdated and is worth nothing now, but reading your blog helps me to understand the worth of virginity and modesty for a woman; in that it allows a man to discover more about the other strengths of a woman and to look into her character, besides her sexuality. I really do appreciate your effort to maintain this blog. This is really good education for women. Every woman should read this!
Your Highness Thankful Woman,
Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear. Thanks, too, for the kind words.
Guy
There came a point in my life when I knew things were not right, within myself and around me. But I didn’t know what. I prayed earnestly for answers. Then I found your blog, Sir Guy. Now I know my prayers have been answered. I am a different person and a different woman because of you. I KNOW my life will be different now. In a good way
God bless you for your kind work for women. For a man with no daughters you sure do know a lot about how little girls think! I must say a special thank you to Her Highness Lady Grace too. Without her, perhaps your good work may never have come to fruition? Who knows. It’s true what they say: when a man finds a good wife, he finds a good thing! Now thanks to you both, I can aspire to being ‘a good thing’. Thank you and God bless you and yours.
Your Highness Joanna,
You’re most welcome. Your progress makes me proud for having participated.
Guy
I love this blog. Has helped me in managing my ‘Mr. Good Enough’, who chased me, got me and grew totally complacent. In my earlier mindset, I was ‘an open book’- a complete antithesis to treating ‘self as treasure’. So made the classical mistakes of full disclosure and seeking affirmations from the world.
Sir AGM, I may not comment much but I am one of your most indebted readers. I truly appreciate the time and effort taken by you to help us. I keep on recommending the blog to my friends. But alas the seekers come when they are ready.
Hi,
I am a 30 something engaged woman. I think it is essential to promote harmonious relationships between men and women- especially in these male bashing ages.
Although I do not subscribe to everything u said in your blog, I really appreciate it. I have kept a lot of your article for my use. And I hope one day to transmit this wisdom to my own children.
Your Highness Lucille,
Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman signs up for this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
Congratulations on your engagement. May all your dreams turn into blessings.
Guy
Wow,
If these testimonials and site are hilarious, why are you taking the time to read and post? Wow! In my country we call this cognitive dissonance.
You don’t have to agree but at least you could **show some respect** or keep your distance.
People with an amount of mental health associate only with people, activities and sites who align with their way of thinking, feeling and being. A healthy mind creates healthy habits and how you do anything is how you do everything.
Y
My first and best testimony is that God is GOOD, He is REAL and that every moment I spend with Christ as my Savior just gets better and richer! My second testimony is that I got married recently to Mr. Good Enough and I couldn’t be happier. I give thanks to God for the day I stumbled across this blog and for Mr. Guy for the wisdom he has provided in abundance and his truths about men and relationships. After much blundering and error, I took these truths to heart and they have helped things to blossom in my life. My then-boyfriend-now-husband (“TBNH”) and I had been together for many years and loved each other but commitment never seemed to materialize. Due to our Christian faith, it was no question as to celibacy so the virtual virginity was already in place. However, due to childhood experiences and a long line of “strong, independent, feminist women who didn’t need men” in my family, including my mother, I was lacking in the subtle arts of femininity and womanhood. My journey has taken me far and God has done much to change my heart but everything continued to gel when I found this blog. I realized that I had not allowed my TBNH to pursue me or to qualify himself for me. I had been willing to excuse much behavior that should have been addressed as undesirable or below my expectations. In hindsight I remember that he was extremely gentlemanly when we began dating but I had gotten him out of the habit by trying to be so strong, independent and “equal (read competitive)” that I actually discouraged his behaving that way. What I did was to change myself first. I spent much time with God asking Him to help me to gain womanly wisdom and to become more like Christ and a godly woman – meek, kind and humble. Where I had been a sort of a loud mouth, aggressive type before, I strove to quiet myself (not for him but for myself because I knew that I would be happier this way). My life became much more peaceful and centered as a result. I also began to cultivate my appearance, which my mother had sadly taught me to neglect from a young age. Mr. Guy’s “morning pretty time” has done wonders for my own thoughts about my beauty and desirability and has made a tremendous difference in my interactions with others. Lastly, I decided that I was worthy of a good man who was looking for a good relationship and that I wasn’t satisfied with my TBNH’s lack of commitment and decided to end things. It took about 3 weeks for him to decide that it was me he wanted all along but I didn’t give in right away and let him pursue me. He did and all of the gentlemanly behavior and the feeling of being cherished and adored that I had in feminist fashion bullied out of him came rushing back. When he realized that I respected myself too much to date him without a clear plan for marriage, we got married. It is wonderful to feel “won” and to have such a good and loving husband. He has jumped into our marriage and love with both feet and I can see now how my past feminist behaviors hindered things between us. God changed my heart and I know that He will continue His work in me until Jesus comes. God bless you, Mr. Guy for all of your advice and guidance and the confidence you gave me to truly believe in myself and my worth as a woman. The greatest lesson I learned in all this is to Trust God!
I think I have been reading your blog for around a year now. During all this time I have learned to reverse the social and cultural brainwash that feminism and secularism together with the school system have harmed relationships between men and women. I used to wear a lot of masculine clothes, like jeans and pants and unfeminine tops and didn’t even try to talk to guys.The atmosphere of university is definitely not a friendly place, men and women do not seek each other for something else than casualness, outside of that you are pretty much invisible in campus. The mentality of many females is to be a strong and independent individual who should focus merely on her career and job, putting marriage and serious relationships much later maybe in her 30′s. While this sounds good , we are missing the reality of what happens to our bodies and the declining of all the right conditions to have a child or proper husband. We ignore that men are hardwired to seek for younger females, to defend, protect and court women but she has to shape all that and do her part by engaging in feminine behavior.
I actually got a date with a gentleman at Uni, and next week I have my second date with him after applying all the principles I have read here. Sure I made a mistake or two but the trick is not to get too comfortable at the beginning and always to recover yourself .
You have to apply yourself everyday and not let TV, magazines and culture downgrade you to a common street woman who gives herself away to easily there’s an art to dating that modernity destroy it, find it in this blog, it will work miracles in your life with god by your side as well.
Thank you Sir Guy for encouraging my hope and seek of fun again. You made me realize that the seriousness of dating/courting/marriage and life is only as serious as you make it. It is very serious to me. I am a forever student of life. Alas there is a difference in the meaning of life and the meaning of living. You have heavily pointed out to me and maybe others how fun it should be. I work towards that equilibrium. The lightheartedness has returned to my soul and a smile has never seemed more easier these days. Ironically, my real life situations haven’t changed much, if at all. But I know it first starts on the inside. Lately, the bible hasn’t been too far out of my reach and I talk to God daily.
Thank you, Sir Guy.
Many peace and blessings, to us both!
Lady Kaikou
I wore a dress and heels to work today for the first time in my life. The reaction was stunning!!!!! I felt my feminine power for the first time in my life. I am still trying to process it all! I thank God I found your page.
Your Highness Daughter of Thunder,
I love it when pretty women discover their feminine influence and glorify their part of society.
Guy
EDITOR’S NOTE: Her Highness Gonemaverick has been a loyal reader for 4-5 years. Although silent for a few months, she recently chose to start this new year with a significant and greatly appreciated thought at post 1550. I copied it to this Testimonial page.
Guy
“Sir Guy,
“still as sharp as ever.
“many of us who were miraculously led to this website (myself in 2008) had anxieties about men. how you soothed our fears and turned us into the brave and feminine women we have become. you taught us not to be scared to lose a man in our attitude. how valuable that advice has proved to be because we are respected and put on pedestals in the relationships we are in. it’s all thanks to your counsel here.
“i wish the same for Mandi. i will admit, Sir Guy’s counsel requires nerves of steel. but following it through and “changing yourself” is the best gift a woman can give herself.
“keep up the good work, wise Sir.”
Sir Guy,
i never went anywhere! i was and still am a loyal reader. i come here everyday! i have never missed a single post since then. i call your blog, “the gospel according to Sir Guy.” where else would i go?
Your Highness Gonemaverick,
Having not heard from you for so long, I presumed you’d been away. In any event, I love it when pretty women are both loyal and cite my errors. Thanks and I will remove the misconception.
Guy
Funny you should mention gospels, Gonemaverick. My mother – who is not internet-savvy & does not visit this site – calls me a “disciple of Guy” because I am constantly sharing with her what I read here. She often says, “I don’t know who Guy is, but he’s certainly changed your life for the better.” She has a great deal of respect for you, Sir Guy, on account of how she has seen me change/improve over the past year. She has a copy of your book, because she wants to learn “what its all about.”
In addition to what I wrote above, I’d like to share my compliments ~
WWNH is so insightful and has so inspired me to change myself!
It inspires questions I cannot help but ask as I work toward understanding
my own nature and my man’s. Not only has my marriage transformed in the
process, but other family members & long-time friends have remarked that I have “grown up a great deal” in the past year & that I “seem like a more grounded person.”
Thanks to you!!
Respectful regards,
Anne
Your Highness Anne,
Thank you. I don’t run ads. I get a little remuneration from book sales. My ‘real paydays’ arrive serendipitously with comments like yours and those of other pretty women. You can imagine how Her Majesty Grace smiles and says, “See, I told you….” She keeps my fuel tank topped off.
Guy
Reading the Virtual Virginity series is very painful. Wish I had known this before I did everything wrong.
Your Highness Widow12,
Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
Guy
Sir Guy,
Thanks are in order.
I have read this blog religiously (how I start my mornings) for almost 2 years. It seems like just yesterday, I discovered your blog during a huge turning point in life and yet your wisdom is as refreshing as ever. I drink it up like a cool drink of water on a bright sunny day.
You wrote me at the beginning of the year to say I was you most prolific commenter of 2012. Thank you for letting me flood your blog with my thoughts and questions (you were patient every step of way). Though there is still a long road ahead, I made a huge step today. I couldn’t be more proud of how I carried myself today. Thank you, thank you, thank you (I cry as I write this)! You’ve helped me more than you know!
Though I may never meet you face-to-face, please accept my virtual smile and blessings to Grace and family.
With love from the bottom of my heart.
Lady Kaikou
To Guy and all the lovely ladies who comment,
I happened to stumble on this blog while taking a study break and reading another dating blog-the address to this site was provided in the comments section. I want to say thank you for this forum, as it gives me hope as single guy at 31 entering his professional life that there are young women out there who share my views about traditonal dating and courtship-I’m that guy who is romantic at heart, but wants the guidance from women to tell him what he needs to do seperate himself from the boys and players-I also don’t just casually date or hook up for the sake of instant conquest.
I’ve seen the game played from observing my friends and some family members and then having friends who are girls ask me for advice-of course they never listen, they want me to say that bad boy will come around and sweep them off their feet, when in reality I know guys like him will come to me and brag about their latest conquest. I can’t sugar coat the truth, so I tell them-from what I told you about this type of guy, do you still want him? They say yes because they’re smitten by them. Or they’ll keep going back to guys who allow them to be their moms.
It’s a wonder as an Indian guy born here why I haven’t just thrown my hands up and have my family set me up with someone. So here’s my point, because I share the traditional belief about dating and courtship, is it ok for me to say this up front to the girls I meet? Thanks again!
Sir HandsomeDarkKnight,
Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another man joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
I’ll respond further on Saturday morning. In the meantime, I invite the ladies to respond. Let’s see what they have to say.
Guy
Sir Guy,
Thank you for the words of welcome. I look forward to the responses. I will say, in one of your earlier posts I read, you described me to a T when talking about boys at a young age: I was the boy in pre-school, kindergarten, and 1-5 who was happy anytime I did something to make a girl laugh smile or go aww. When I go out on dates it’s after I’ve Pre screened the girl by at least conversing with them-attractiveness draws me in (I like the modest, pretty, girl next door look). If I can’t have a conversation for more than 5 minutes I know to move on. Regarding you comments about romance being about sex for guys, I’m keenly aware of that because the moment I kiss a girl, sex will likely be offered (but I haven’t earned it) so my dates never go past the second date when I kiss early. Conversely though, when I do the opposite, and hold out from kissing, I get friendzoned, and this last girl I took on our first date a few weeks ago rejected my second date because she said she didn’t have and never will have romantic feelings for me? I’ve been in a 13 year damned if you do damned if you don’t rut. So that’s me in a nutshell. At times it can be hard, but then I keep telling myself she’s out there and that’s what inspires me never to lose faith.
HandsomeDarkKnight,
I am a 21-year-old girl. You describe perfectly the situation I’ve witnessed at college for the past four years. It really is unfortunate. Kudos to you for not following the crowd.
What do you do after you are “Friendzoned”? Do you remain friends? I recommend doing so. There’s just something about a man who expresses interest in me but doesn’t get all bent out of shape if I say no. He still wants to be friends even if I say no to dating (don’t confuse this with spoiling me, treating me as a girlfriend when I said no, etc. This type of behavior would make me lose respect for the man). The first two times my boyfriend (almost 3 years now) asked me out, I said no. He was a close friend and I could not imagine in a million yearrrrrs dating him. When he asked me out the third time I was still reluctant, but I figured he had been such a good friend for me for seven years, how could I not give the man a chance? That said, I was in the right mindset. I had been reading this blog and realized that I should objectively look for good husband traits such as good character.
Your friends who tell you about their player boyfriends are probably not in that mindset yet. I too used to ask my boyfriend (then friendzoned friend) for advice about the player guys and I too didn’t listen. I didn’t change my ways until I stumbled upon Sir Guy’s wonderful posts.
Where do you find girls looking for good men other than those who are lucky enough to stumble upon WWNH? Do you go to church? If not, that is an ideal place to meet ‘good girls’ Online dating is good but not as good as church. Bars not so much. Most of my friends who go to bars are concerned with handsomeness and entertainment rather than morals, integrity, etc.
Is it okay for you to tell girls you have traditional beliefs about dating? I like if a guy had traditional beliefs about dating so I would be pleased if he said so. On the other hand, my feminist friends would be completely freaked out because “you are sexist”. So, you’d attract the traditional girls but repel the feminists, perfect right! I don’t think it’s necessary to say it though, girls will figure it out by your actions.
Anonymous,
Thank you for the reply. I stay friends with the girls who say no in a way that doesn’t come off as rude, and who actually are interested in being friends-my friend Jessica was the perfect example, after she said she just wanted to be friends, I went about my life but she made the effort to make sure we stayed friends which I respected. Once I do get friendzoned, I continue being myself, but I don’t treat them like girlfriends to respect their wishes and maintain my own dignity.
The girls I ask out were typically ones I met at school or through family and friends. When I go to bars or clubs, I’m just there to socialize with my friends, I don’t approach girls in that environment.
I’ve asked my family’s Hindu priest to help introduce me to girls, and she’s thrilled to do it. The reason, I asked about letting girls I meet know about my traditional dating beliefs is because I do want them to know I’m interested but want to take it slow. Interesting that feminists would find that sexist, I never considered that they might.
I wouldn’t be surprised if Jessica, once she starts looking for husband material, gives you a chance. We always remember the ones who are good to us.
Feminists (as Sir Guy uses the term in this blog) see traditional dating as men asserting that they are better than women. For example, I recently had a conversation with one of my feminist friends about chivalrous door-holding. Feminists are offended if a man holds the door for them “because they are a woman”. They think the door-holding symbolizes the man thinking he is better than her. Supposedly the man thinks, “women are so weak they can’t even hold the door themselves”.
As far as friends go, Jessica was a really good friend to me whenever I least expected it. The one friend that I know I could’ve and should’ve been a better friend to-the only other time that I feel this type of disapointment is when my sister and my mom are not happy with me. I know she came into my life to show me what’s it like to experience enduring love for someone, because over time, she definitely got me to fall in love with her hard, but today’s the first day I can say it. Before today, I didn’t know what I felt. I don’t know if she’ll give me a chance or not-I don’t expect it-I just want her to find someone who knows he wants her and won’t be afraid to tell her, and treats her right. As far as myself, my unshakeable faith in God tells me he will give me another opportunity to love someone.
As far as feminists go, it’s sad and funny that they harbour such sentiments. I do it for no other reason because I’m a kind person.
Sir Handsome Dark Knight,
I arose this morning to see several new posts from you. You’ve got your act together. Be confident in yourself and especially what you have to offer a good woman. Two cautions: 1) Quit thinking about finding a mate, and a good candidate will show up. Conduct yourself as a tradition-bound gentleman in all your exposures to women. 2) Don’t try to tell and convince a date, girlfriend, or other woman about your worth to them. Let them conclude for themselves who and what you are from the actions you take in everyday matters, dating, friend zoning, and extended relationships.
Her Highness Anonymous added some good thoughts in a nearby post.
Guy
P.S. Don’t habitually explain yourself and don’t complain about women. Find gratitude in yourself, your life, and each woman, date, and friend. Here’s a tip about something yet to be posted: Cheerfulness breeds gratitude and vice versa.
G.
Guy,
Thank you for your reply and appreciate the advice.
Your first caution is probably the hardest one to do especially since my best friends and most of my brother figures in my family have mates. So I can’t lie and say I don’t get lonely at times, I do. But I do conduct myself as a true gentleman in all exposures to women, I’m blessed to have wonderful women role models and sisters and cousins in my family-and the men in my family definitely raised me to treat women with respect.
As for caution 2, I made that mistake a frw times in my twenties, and quickly realized that was foolish. Gratitude, Cheerfulness, Happiness and Love for myself and all people is a life style I chose to live by.