7. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part 1

Testosterone hardens a male’s head and heart for survival early in life. A good woman can soften his hard-headedness after many years as a couple. Testosterone fades in old age and softens his heart. Feminist theory, propaganda, and pressures try to soften his head and heart before Nature allows, and so men rebel and women pay the price. When men don’t highly value integrity in others, they likely lack it themselves. This makes vow-keeping much more difficult for such men.

Men have little natural interest in making things safer, until they foresee or face endangerment. They also have little interest in family compatibility, except as it first makes their job more significant as producer, provider, protector, problem-solver.

She offers her honor. He honors her offer. Men thrive with on her and off her. 

For a man to respect a woman, love is the only legitimate reason for her having sex with another man. The new raunch culture practice of sealing male friendships with sex puts participating young women out of bounds for winning a man’s enduring love. He’s cuckolded by her every male friend, whether she actually did it or not.

Modern women avoid femininity, provide pre-marital sex, act like guys, smother their man with devotion, and try to appear ordinary. Men marry them, but they don’t stay married. Men don’t marry guys, and they stay with the woman they consider extraordinary female.

A man stays with a woman when she fulfills the image and expectations he held before they married. If she changes, as most women do, her surprises register unpleasantly, irritatingly, or worse.

To a man, his woman’s constructive criticism is still nagging.

A man’s devotion dies, when he’s not appreciated in an upbeat fashion for who he is and what he does.

If shack up or marry up is not the man’s idea—absorbed, intertwined, and integrated with his dreams about her and jointly achieving goals with her over a considerable length of time—then he will not long honor whatever relationship arrangement they enter. Theirs will be temporary, if she talks him into any kind of relationship.

Feminine mystique attracts men and holds their interest. An air of secrecy and generally being hardtoget draws men into a woman’s aura of charm. It keeps her in charge and puts men on the defensive. It’s the opposite of her chasing him, and it forces each man to prove his worth to her—if he chooses to pursue her.

When he perceives charming but strong resistance to his first priority, sexual conquest, it pushes him deeper into the role of seller, which proportionally reinforces her as the buyer.

Female modesty tames males. It’s a woman’s greatest counterbalance to male domination. Modesty keeps men at a distance and empowers a woman to avoid and prevent embarrassment. It keeps men on the defensive about female sensibilities, which weakens male domination.

The foundation of a man’s love is respect for a woman. Romantic love, mostly based on infatuation and lust, does not require a man’s respect. Plus, romantic love fades after a year or two. Enduring love, if it’s to replace the romantic kind and not also fade away, requires his respect that she earned early and continues to maintain.

Feminine adherence to moral standards helps earn masculine respect. Moral standards serve women and children predominantly but only when women promote and push morality such that it suppresses extreme male domination and aggression and violence.

Female-designed customs and manners calm men. By women insisting on and upholding social and domestic standards, men learn they must please women to enjoy feminine endorsement.  

Hard-headed feminine gentleness beguiles males. It adds to both her mystique and influence. (Gentleness is a great feminine strength far removed from a weakness.)

Respect to, gratefulness for, and dedication pledged to and kept with one man inspires masculine fidelity, but it doesn’t guarantee it. As hunter-conquerors, men can be tamed, civilized, domesticated and acclimated to monogamy when women lead by example. Of course it’s not fair, but men have little interest partnering with only one woman—unless women sell and reward them for both husbanding and fathering.

Virginity is under valued by modern women. Women desire men that know how to satisfy them sexually. With her, experience counts. Men desire females that other men have not had. With him, it’s beating out all those other guys. So, it’s not virginity so much to men as it is her sexual inexperience by which he can measure his competitive prowess.

Men expect this first in a relationship: a cooperative and helpful rather than a competitive and offending spirit. Next, they expect respect and gratitude for who he is and what he does. The former invites him to partner, the latter holds him as partner.

Modest and celebratory apparel crowns pregnant women as heroes to men. T-shirt wearing, beer-belly pregnant women destroy their attractiveness. They send a loud message that they don’t give a damn whether others admire them as mother and him as father. In fact, they make their man look like a chump—his woman brags of what she sees as ugly, and men see as wonderful prospect for the future. 




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9 responses to “7. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part 1

  1. AR

    Yep. A balance of gentle deference and modest posession of her own body (even after marriage) makes a woman the goal that he’ll never stop pursuing. There’s always more to take, he’ll never have enough…and every time he “wins” his respect for her deepens because he was made to realize the worth of what she gives him. When she (or church or society) demands monogamy as the price of continuing the pursuit, he feels he’d be mad to give up this treasure chest of devotion for a woman who’s willing to break up a marriage.

    Perhaps there is something men should be doing to make women realize the worth of what they offer to the relationship, which would encourage healthy mutuality in this area of respect and gratitude. I’m not sure what this would be, however. My husband often points out that we are basically living in a matriarchal society. It’s all too easy for women to act as if every husband is a dopey do-nothing Ray Barone. Perhaps because feminine independance is so valued (“girls can do anything boys can, but boys can’t do everything girls can”) that men feel they have nothing unique to offer society, women, or homes. A really great wife might lionize her husband a bit. I know mine deserves it.

  2. AR

    I think you are very right. These are indeed the laws and the wisdom of feminine and masculine nature.

    I do believe, however, that there is a freedom in Pure Love that goes beyond natural love; that hard as it may be, it is possible to love someone in opposition to our nature and its laws, to rise above those things and to embrace someone simply because you have freely chosen to do so. That will be the most honorable marriage of all.

    Not in any way to challenge the truth of what you speak of here.

  3. Miss Dawn

    “Hard-headed feminine gentleness beguiles males. It adds to both her mystique and influence. (Gentleness is a great feminine strength far removed from a weakness.)”

    Forthe love of God could SOMEBODY tell me what this means: “Hard-headed-feminine-gentleness”

    Could we get this is laymans terms?

  4. GuyMaligned

    Hard-headed means thinking that keeps his and her emotions in check. Feminine means using typical female thought processes with no effort to clarify into man-think. Gentleness means ruling the situation with a kind heart. AGM

  5. Ellie

    “Virginity is under valued by modern women. Women desire men that know how to satisfy them sexually.”

    Are you sure this is a priority for a virgin? She is not familiar in this arena to desire this in a man. A woman who values her virginity does not put a high premium on being sexually satisfied, nor does a man having “experience” mean he is good in bed.

    Before I was married, I wanted to meet a man as chaste as myself, and together we learned to please eachother (a slow but worthwhile process…I know he did not go through this experience with other women and it is special for me). I have a feeling you are wrong here for most women that are virgins until marriage…we do not want experienced men, but I do admit male virgins are harder to find.

    Your Ladyship Ellie,

    You are correct in all you say about virgins. Well expressed too.

    My quote addressed the preponderance of modern women that shape cultural values and devalue virginity in both concept and practice. It’s part of their assertively claimed masculine-style sexual freedom that values orgasm over intimacy, sexual expertise over appreciation of females, and sexual appetite over character.

    Thanks. You spike the punch of dialogue with verve.

  6. Ellie

    Too, for myself, finding a man with matching morals was a high priority. I find it odd that a woman who keeps herself pure for marriage would want a man that did not, and had casual relationships in the past. I doubt many would. It’s a poor match for a lifelong relationship. A man who treats women casually and has had experience with many is rather repulsive.

    I appreciate your posts a great deal, but as a woman, I would never presume to know what men truly feel and think, and as a man, you can’t presume to do this either. I don’t feel many women desire experienced men, but men who are experienced tend to pursue more, so this is the type that many women around her asking for dates. There is a lot more to this than simply “men want virgins, women want experienced men”. There is nothing special about sex on a wedding night with a man that has been sexually active with other women in the past, and may continue to be so casual in his outlook on sex with different women.

  7. easybreezy

    [Ellie said:] “I don’t feel many women desire experienced men, but men who are experienced tend to pursue more, so this is the type that many women around her asking for dates. ”

    Yep- seems to be true. I feel intimidated and uncomfortable around very sexually experienced men, or at least, men who continually treat sex as casual. But it seems that they are the ones who pursue the most, ask for dates, are fun to hang out with platonically, etc….often because they have an agenda while the “nice” guys are often SUPER slow to pursue and sit idle. There are men who have been very active in the past and are now celibate until they meet the right woman. This I am more comfy with.

  8. Southern be

    Sir Guy

    I just do not understand this …”Modern women avoid femininity, provide pre-marital sex, act like guys, smother their man with devotion, and try to appear ordinary. Men marry them, but they don’t stay married. ”

    Why in the world do men marry them? Especially given the impact of divorce on his self-admiration, ego, status as father, financial resources, day to day peace. Do men not consider this? Too short-sited living in the present? Marriage itself is not seen as such a big deal to men the way it is to women?

    Please Sir would you help me understand the inner workings of men in this regard.

    Your Highness Southernbelle,

    Well done, honey. You answered yourself in the second paragraph. They can tolerate or even desire the conditions you cite. Add these to yours:

    • Desire to not be responsible; avoid failures.

    • Desire to have a woman lead their life, perhaps mother-like dependence. (You can imagine where that begins?)

    • Willingness to take the easy road in life and play a minor role to that of a strong, or masculinized, woman.

    • Low sense of significance, low self-image, low self-esteem. All expected to be fed or allow small-time success as contributing to a woman’s big successes.

    • Liking to live under the guidance of a manipulative woman who can read and provide the wants hidden within his psyche.

    You amaze me with the speed that you learn from the blog. Thank you.


  9. Southern Belle

    Well Sir reading your reply I felt yuck and disappointed in your confirmation of what my heart already knew BUT then your compliment sure did lift my spirits! Compliments from you Sir sure does make this Southern Belle smile.

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