142. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part 7


First-time sex with each woman is a conquering event, after which he rates her as keeper, standby, or dumpee.

For the hunter-conqueror, the greater his target’s perceived virtue, the greater her value and his inspiration to keep trying. 

Hard-to-get means other guys failed before him. So, it enlarges the self-stroking of a man’s ego.

He offers his strengths for her to appreciate. If she shows no weaknesses, his strengths fade in importance, and so does she.

His respect for his woman softens a man’s heart, and her gratitude for him softens his hard-headedness.

His trustworthiness as mate is wrapped within her gratefulness for him as husband and father, provider and protector, and those other things he deems critical to his current and significant mission in life.

His woman’s grooming and appearance in public add to or detract from him. Other men look at her, but they also take the measure of him—or so he either thinks or desires.

Husband wants wife to look queenly yet unavailable, beautiful but unattainable. Something special enough to gain masculine admiration of him yet make men realize they can never have her. That’s a major, major input to his sense of significance.

If a man has flaws before they marry, each shortcoming will magnify afterward.

Husband wants wife to remain the woman she was before their marriage. But she insists on changing herself, because her life is now different. Or, she was a phony before marry up, and her true side emerges. Either way, it’s not good for longevity together.

[More jack about Jack can be found at posts 135, 132, 114, 97, 91, and 7. Search on the number or scroll down.]

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3 responses to “142. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part 7

  1. MLaRowe

    “Husband wants wife to look queenly yet unavailable, beautiful but unattainable. Something special enough to gain masculine admiration of him yet make men realize they can never have her. That’s a major, major input to his sense of significance.”

    Dear Sir Guy,

    I am so grateful for you and your blog. Can you elaborate more on the above. How can I make sure they realize they can never never have me?

    Your Highness MLaRowe,

    When men get overly friendly or worse, invoke your husband. Either into the situation, thoughts, or if he’s available, direct attention. You know, “You reminded me, thanks, I have to pick up something for my darling hubby.” Or, if he’s nearby, “Honey, what do you think about what this guy just said?” or something similar that rejects the guy’s theme and injects domestic/marital thoughts and ideas.

    That is, change the subject by using hubby either in spirit or actuality. It confirms your marital connection and discourages although it may not stop ill-intended intentions. Your repeated references to husband will, however, stop a guy’s efforts. It tampers with his significance and will disabuse him quickly of trying to find mutual interest with you.

    Guy

    • Cocoa

      And regardless of what’s happening at home, always show respect and never complain. The “other” guys do try to pull a complaint here or there or dissatisfaction. They try to demean your husband, that’s when your slapping business comes in handy.
      After they get it at last -hopefully- they either leave you alone, they might avoid mentioning him at all, they actually sometimes try to befriend your hubby and some, dear O dear, they just never give up but they will be forced , if they want to associate with you, to respect you and your husband.
      Once someone said to me after talking about our traditional cuisines “oh, you must be trying to poison your husband” I looked at him straight in the eye (I do have scary eyes when I’m angry) and said slowly and clearly “and why on earth would I poison the only man in my life, the father of my children!” It was interesting the look on his face and the search for an exit.
      It’s tough!

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