♂ First-time sex with each woman is a conquering event, after which he rates her as keeper, standby, or dumpee.
♂ For the hunter-conqueror, the greater his target’s perceived virtue, the greater her value and his inspiration to keep trying.
♂ Hard-to-get means other guys failed before him. So, it enlarges the self-stroking of a man’s ego.
♂ He offers his strengths for her to appreciate. If she shows no weaknesses, his strengths fade in importance, and so does she.
♂ His respect for his woman softens a man’s heart, and her gratitude for him softens his hard-headedness.
♂ His trustworthiness as mate is wrapped within her gratefulness for him as husband and father, provider and protector, and those other things he deems critical to his current and significant mission in life.
♂ His woman’s grooming and appearance in public add to or detract from him. Other men look at her, but they also take the measure of him—or so he either thinks or desires.
♂ Husband wants wife to look queenly yet unavailable, beautiful but unattainable. Something special enough to gain masculine admiration of him yet make men realize they can never have her. That’s a major, major input to his sense of significance.
♂ If a man has flaws before they marry, each shortcoming will magnify afterward.
♂ Husband wants wife to remain the woman she was before their marriage. But she insists on changing herself, because her life is now different. Or, she was a phony before marry up, and her true side emerges. Either way, it’s not good for longevity together.
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