362. Mr. Good Enough


Women are starting to choose ‘good enough’. Smart move, especially for those unable to find their Mr. Right and mature enough to know and accept the practical and emotional differences.

1.     It enables marriage sooner. She may know a ‘good enough’ or two worthy of practical comparison with her dream-like Mr. Right.

2.     It exploits female strengths. This improves her chances for identifying his potential for domestic harmony. Practicality usually wins over passion in choosing a life partner.

3.     Lower expectations produce less dissatisfaction. His shortcomings become more easily tolerable,  and she’s just the relationship expert to handle those things. He’s less likely to become Mr. Wrong.

4.     ‘Good enough’ opens the door to finding devotion instead of just commitment. Maybe not her devotion to him but his to her, and that’s more important for fulfilling her hopes and dreams.

Some women will choke on this, but her devotion to him will arise according to her actions that respect, endorse, and appreciate his efforts and who he is as husband and father. Such actions program her subconscious favorably, which is the source of emotions, and what we call the heart.

Let me close by quoting the lady blog author at http://theartofbeingfeminine.blogspot.com/

CHOOSE INTELLECTUALLY – LOVE AFTERWARD

NOTE: The previous post, #361, is companion to this one. I suggest you view it also.

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3 responses to “362. Mr. Good Enough

  1. Hello again, Melina here. Thanks for the mention! Keep up this wonderful work of yours.

    I have also added your link to my article…..

    http://theartofbeingfeminine.blogspot.com/2008/10/think-and-act-like-hard-to-win-prize.html

    I really like what you have to say. I see we both have politically incorrect blogs lol 😉

  2. Reina

    Dear Guy,

    I read your response to easybreezy’s questions on traits that cause women to lose respect for a guy and such, but am looking for additional information.

    Ok, I am all for Mr. Good Enough now. I am generally picky (that is what everyone tells me) and am pretty sure I have the bad traits down that I need to weed out. I just am uncertain as to what exact traits make him “good enough” and perhaps your take on what right away would make him “Mr. Wrong.” Would you care to elaborate?

    Thank you!

    Your Loveliness Reina,

    “…what exact traits make him ‘good enough’ and perhaps your take on what right away would make him ‘Mr. Wrong’.”

    I suggest the females’ natural approach: What traits, habits, and attitudes can’t or won’t she live with—those identify Mr. Wrong.
    Men not disqualified are good enough for further screening using these precepts:

    • Mr. Right doesn’t arrive until he fulfills many years of family responsibility, over which she has immense influence in preventing Mr. Wrong from emerging unexpectedly.

    • Mr. Wrong is the guy that she can’t envision ever becoming Mr. Right.

    • Mr. Good Enough shows promise that he could become Mr. Right. She chooses the best of the lot.

    Guy

    • Reina

      Thank you, Guy!

      “Mr. Right doesn’t arrive until he fulfills many years of family responsibility, over which she has immense influence in preventing Mr. Wrong from emerging unexpectedly.”

      Well, I don’t want Mr. Wrong showing up at all, but how much control do I have over that if I picked wrongly? That’s why I am just trying to make sure I screen appropriately ahead of time.

      Your Ladyship Reina,
      You’re so right. The secret’s in the screening. As the lady blog author says at http://theartofbeingfemiine.blogspot.com,
      “Choose intellectually, love afterward.”
      Guy

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