We know that men judge women mainly by their outer appearance. So, women focus on the males’ habits.
Women give men no credit for reading the inner woman, and, admittedly, men don’t do it well. But, men perceive subliminal messages that feed their self-interest, however weak, wrong, or garbled the signals.
Conquering thoughts fill a man’s mind. Simultaneously, his subconscious registers many messages that women either send by design, ignorance, or chance. The messages accumulate and synthesize into his interpretation of her virtues, from which he intuitively predicts her value to his present, future, or both.
Virtue ‘credits’ accumulate from her attire, grooming, attitude, and behaviors that emphasize:
© Modesty rather than sex.
© Persona rather than a specific shape.
© Self-sufficiency rather than need-for-attention.
© Self-respect rather than easytoget.
© Hardtoget rather than low self-esteem.
© Respect for other women rather than trying to steal their man.
© Self-confidence rather than worry.
© Avoiding shame and guilt rather than recovering from it.
© Enjoyable femaleness rather than sense of inferiority.
© Inner strength rather than emotional weakness.
© Open pleasantness rather than anger.
© Prettiness rather than comfort.
© Neatness rather than sloppiness.
© Hits as compliment rather than taking offense.
© Morality imposed over the immoral.
© Authority rather than vulnerability.
© Character rather than uncertainty.
© Standards rather than wishy-washiness.
© Mystery rather than disclosure.
© Need for respect rather than popularity.
© Unmarried sex as taboo rather than okay.
© Female pride rather than faked masculinity.
The value that men place on these and other factors varies by individual. But the accumulation and synthesis of messages determines her virtuous character, her value to his present and future.
The next post describes learning about virtue.