448. VIRTUE—Magnet for Males —SECTION II

We know that men judge women mainly by their outer appearance. So, women focus on the males’ habits.

Women give men no credit for reading the inner woman, and, admittedly, men don’t do it well. But, men perceive subliminal messages that feed their self-interest, however weak, wrong, or garbled the signals.

Conquering thoughts fill a man’s mind. Simultaneously, his subconscious registers many messages that women either send by design, ignorance, or chance. The messages accumulate and synthesize into his interpretation of her virtues, from which he intuitively predicts her value to his present, future, or both.

Virtue ‘credits’ accumulate from her attire, grooming, attitude, and behaviors that emphasize:

©     Modesty rather than sex.

©     Persona rather than a specific shape.

©     Self-sufficiency rather than need-for-attention.

©     Self-respect rather than easytoget.

©     Hardtoget rather than low self-esteem.

©     Respect for other women rather than trying to steal their man.

©     Self-confidence rather than worry.

©     Avoiding shame and guilt rather than recovering from it.

©     Enjoyable femaleness rather than sense of inferiority.

©     Inner strength rather than emotional weakness.

©     Open pleasantness rather than anger.

©     Prettiness rather than comfort.

©     Neatness rather than sloppiness.

©     Hits as compliment rather than taking offense.

©     Morality imposed over the immoral.

©     Authority rather than vulnerability.

©     Character rather than uncertainty.

©     Standards rather than wishy-washiness.

©     Mystery rather than disclosure.

©     Need for respect rather than popularity.

©     Unmarried sex as taboo rather than okay.

©     Female pride rather than faked masculinity.

The value that men place on these and other factors varies by individual. But the accumulation and synthesis of messages determines her virtuous character, her value to his present and future.

The next post describes learning about virtue.


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5 responses to “448. VIRTUE—Magnet for Males —SECTION II

  1. Jessica

    Beautiful post!

    U are amazing…Im working on honing each and every one of these characteristics…

    Thank you :0)

    Your Ladyship,
    Thank you. I love it when pretty women tell me such things.

  2. What a wonderful post. I can’t wait to read the rest and will be sure to send this on to both of my daughters living here at home..

    Your Highness Helen,
    Thanks. I love it when pretty women tell me such things.

  3. Sarah

    Sir Guy,

    After finding your blog through Thinking Housewife, I want to thank you for your insightful message to women lost in our laissez faire culture (even within Christendom)!

    For my part, I always like a checklist. The attributes mentioned above will be copied into my journal and studied. I can’t wait to see how my husband adores me when I get all, or most, of them mastered!

    Your Highness Sarah,
    Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.

  4. Cocoa

    Hi sir Guy,
    I agree with all the ladies above in regards to this series and I have couple of questions:
    1) “Open pleasantness rather than anger.” Lately I was wondering more about anger or more accurately becoming really upset in public, hearing bad news, experiencing unfair treatment (happened to me recently). How should a respectable, sensitive and feminine woman carry herself? I tend to be upset and on the verge of becoming angry, should I leave the place straight away? How to deal with those feelings in public to, as much as I could, retain my self respect and self image?

    2) “authority rather than vulnerability” don’t you see vulnerability as part of the female nature and that authority comes naturally to males? I can possibly see that vulnerable females are quite attractive, however females with this sense of authority are not so much so. But you could be referring to it in some other context. If so, can you please clarify.

    Thanks in advance sir Guy.

    Your Highness Cocoa,

    1) Silence and departure are the best way to handle anger anytime. Leave ‘them’ to figure you out. People believe more easily what they figure out for themselves, which makes them more likely to change in your favor.

    2) Yes, a sense of vulnerability is part of the female nature. But men see virtue when a gal hides it, and presumes some authority on her own behalf that hides vulnerability. If vulnerable, he doesn’t have to work very hard. If she’s an authoritative figure in her own right, a guy has a lot of work to convince her of his worthiness in her life.


    • Cocoa

      Many thanks sir Guy, #1 a sound advice and very close to my nature.
      #2 now that you clarified, I completely agree , especially with “if she’s an authoritative figure in her own right” . Would you say that a good man would not take advantage of an authoritative female if once or so her vulnerability betrayed her?!

      Your Highness Cocoa,
      Yes, he would not.

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