Modern guys are infamous for dealing poorly with women that show an interest in a man. Passivity, reluctance, or disinterest dealing with a woman can originate with many emotions and preferences. The first half-dozen reasons follow.
♦ Men can’t love what they don’t respect. Lack of immediate respect caused by her appearance means that she has little or nothing to offer him. She’s probably okay for sex, he thinks, so let her make the first moves.
♦ Sex is so cheap elsewhere that he sees little need to show interest. Anyway, men score better by playing vague and unavailable, because modern women don’t play the female counter-strategy their foremothers developed long ago: HardToGet.
♦ He’s picky, non-adventurous, or too uncomfortable away from his hi-tech toys.
♦ If her interest is obvious, it turns him off except for sex. If she’s that interested in his undeserving Self even before he ‘launches’ his full-self into romancing her, what will she do with other men who do nothing?
♦ More fear: Is she really interested in me? Can I trust what I think I perceive from her? Her appearance and actions don’t match. He presumes she has standards. He’s unsure how to discover what they are, so he fears offending her or showing his own lack of ‘smooth’.
♦ Commitment to another woman won’t prevent a show of interest but will come out if and when his conscience kicks in. This can take seconds, minutes, hours, or days, if he has a conscience about loyalty, devotion, personal responsibility.
Part 2 day after tomorrow.