I expect much heat about this article, so I want to hedge. Don’t judge it on the first read through. I welcome contrary arguments, as some dialogue may clarify or amplify a daily event that women don’t credit enough.
Background. Women long for happiness. The adolescent mind considers it a goal, and so adolescent-minded females never find it. The mature female’s mind understands happiness as a process; a roadway with ups and downs where gratefulness floods her spirit to outshine discouragements.
Problem. Modern women are unhappy both individually and as females. Oh, they have many things for which they are grateful, but they lack gratitude for their selves. Witness the discouraged, dispirited, and often demoralized faces and unattractive attire of women in public everywhere. Witness those that dress as men do or use shoddy or careless attire. Very few seem uplifted with any kind of happy spirit!
Solution. Now, what stimulates a woman’s gratefulness for herself? What puts her on the happy road? Don’t say a man either.
One essential daily event leads to it. When she executes that event with pride and energy, each day brightens and shines. The more deliberately she makes it happen, the more easily gratitude rises to keep her encouraged and happy.
Eureka! So what’s the event? The morning ‘pretty-time’! Cleansing, freshening, grooming, and dressing to make herself pretty to herself, before she does anything else for anybody else. Everyone has to honor her ritual and compensate for her being temporarily unavailable. (Except infant care only if no one else can do it.)
- Since everything and everybody else claim the rest of her day, her morning ritual comes first and rates as unalterable.
- Pretty-time elevates her in her mind. It simultaneously protects and arms her to handle upcoming tribulations. She thus takes control one day at a time, and when repeated endlessly, her gratefulness builds for who she is. (Sense of being in control reinforced daily also helps prevent depression.)
- She finishes pretty-time feeling GREAT about herself. It’s the strongest possible foundation for facing life with grace, patience, and understanding. Why? Because she graces herself with self-greatness fed by prettiness, which enables patience and understanding, and she has some left over. (The ultimate expression of power is forgiveness. When mom forgives, harmony floods the home. When mom isolates herself in early morning, she signifies her ultimate power to ‘switch the world to ON’ and do it her way. Can her forgiving spirit be far behind?)
- If she lets kids, husband, breakfast, extra sleep, work, money, squabbles, or whatever outweigh her need for pretty-time, she for that day disqualifies herself to be at her best and happiest. (Adjustments become easier, if her ritual remains primary and habitual.)
- Women should be morning people, but many are not. They may have it tougher, but pretty-time can ease if not cure it.
- Single women and those married without kids should make pretty-time strongly habitual, before newcomers arrive in their lives. (She’s not ready to face the world until she’s ‘fixed up’, so why shouldn’t she fix herself up for herself?)
Instead of paying the fare to jump aboard, women throw themselves under the happy bus. They do it by rolling tiredly out of bed, throwing on an unsightly robe, mumbling about their problems, disrupting breakfast routine with irritation or anger, rushing to prepare for everybody’s departure including their own hair and clothes, and feeling droopy for the rest of the day. All energy wiped out by one simple miscalculation: She didn’t start her day by proving to herself that she’s prettier than most everyone else.
A much better way exists, if she but takes charge and puts it into practice: Pretty-time is her time, and it always comes first thing on rising. Period. End of discussion. When women don’t do it, they cheat themselves, and the people around them don’t appreciate them as much.