We know it’s uppermost, but females should disguise marriage in their mind anytime they deal with men not their husbands. Were we blessed with a daughter, her mom and I would have passed these principles (not absolutes) to her.
♫ Encourage boyfriend to talk about his parents, siblings, and friends. Not in the private or sensitive sense, but in the sense of hearing his views and appreciation of others’ characters, interests, and standards. See what he admires and disdains, and how he grew up. You need to know him better, and it all plays a part in your decisions about his worth to you.
♫ Neither take nor allow shortcuts that reflect poorly on his or your character. Expect both of you to live up to something bigger than yourselves, and your relationship to be guided by something bigger. It’s another way for Mr. Good Enough to prove his worth. If he won’t live up to your morality and standards during courtship, he surely won’t in marriage. But you have to have some standards up to which he sees you live.
♫ Invite him regularly and often to attend church. You should be highly modest, feminine, classy, attractive, above average, and admirable-looking to men and women in the congregation, whether he’s with you or not. You’ll find it much easier to convince him church is important in your life, if you dress the part. The less skin you show, the more church means to you, which is a good standard to have and demo.
♫ You compete with other females. If you don’t look great each day, they may look better, men may have less interest in you, and that marital someday may never come. Let men see you in ‘conquer’ mode too. Habitually prettify yourself first thing each morning and wear your best game face. Do it for your self-confidence, self-respect, and intrinsic female worth relative to others rather than for men specifically. See #806 for details.
A few more principles are forthcoming in tomorrow’s post 874.