About gifts: Think as men tend to think of unearned gifts as bribes and earned gifts as rewards, and what follows will make sense. To grasp the underlying nature of these events, love and associated passions have been set aside.
About sex: Three results describe female motivations about unmarried sex. Allow conquest to capture a man, bribery. Provide it to please a man, hopeful of something. Provide it to hold a man, bribery. It all has to do with her intention. (See last entry below about sexual fun and games and post 578 about married sex.)
About couples: When unmarried sex comes cheap and easy, men don’t truly appreciate it beyond physical gratification and ego strokes for conquering her. It settles in his psyche as pleasurable but unbinding. She bonds but he doesn’t.
About bribes: The environment, spirit, and intentions surrounding sex as bribery differ greatly from sex as reward. The unmarried bribe kills off the reward of married sex in the male psyche. Marital permanency suffers.
About promises: If it seems this way, it is: Unmarried bribery diminishes marital opportunity for her, because she gives away her greatest reward with his conquest. So, she has less ability to reward him for what he earned by marrying her. In the natural world he heads for the altar not for what she promises but for the promise he sees in her wifely potential, likeability, and sex in that order.
About rewards: Men do whatever women require for men to have frequent and convenient access to sex. If earned by marrying a virtual virgin, it’s his reward for finally conquering her. If unearned because of premarital sex, it’s temporary and discourages his greater effort to keep her pleased with him. One of these options brightens the female marital future much more than the other.
About mistakes and fun and games: Unmarried sexual relations have no place with a man she hopes to keep forever. Virtual virginity enables recovery from mistakes and sexual adventurism.