Ladies: Mrs. G. yesterday described the aftereffects of husband cheating. I might as well do the same for wife cheating.
- If he cheats, she wants to talk. If she cheats, he wants to walk.
- Suspicions about her cheating in the future arise routinely, multiply, and magnify much more easily than suspicions wife has if husband cheats.
- Her sexual infidelity haunts husband the way endless guilt or his emotional infidelity haunts women. How many others? When? Who’s next? Did she enjoy it? More than with me? How extensive and permanent their passion? Where at? Who that know us saw them?
- Her cheating is much more than a mistake. It effectively destroys the marriage. Not because they can’t make up, but because he can’t live with thoughts about the competitor(s) that beat him out of his most prized possession. Nothing he has done EVER drove her to do such a thing. (His nature more than fact perhaps.)
- He’s also disturbed by betrayals. Primary affection for him, betrayed. Confirmation of his sexual abilities, betrayed. Dependence on him, betrayed. Payback for his loyalty, betrayed. Motherly example for kids, betrayed. Giving up his independence, betrayed. His investment in providing/protecting her, betrayed. Her appearance as loyal and faithful wife, betrayed. Her emotional fidelity, which he’s probably not thought about before, betrayed.
- In the end, if you notice above, he focuses much more on what other people think than does the cheated-on wife. Her infidelity shatters his competitive role among other men. If he can’t “keep his woman at home,” he’s not a real man, which smashes his significance on the competitive rocks of masculine despair.
Mrs. Guy adds this: Whether for fun, thrills, passion, or revenge, when women cheat they weaken the moral fabric of society. Not by lobbing immoral grenades, but by NOT exemplifying and defending moral standards that benefit women and children. As women go, so goes society.