The manly behavior that singles, wives, and exes described here over the past five years leads me to conclude that many modern men remain adolescent in thoughts, values, and behaviors. They fail to mature mentally, mostly because they aren’t taught before puberty to emulate mature adults and then coached to make it habitual in the teens. With such boys, their hearts and minds are empty of mature thinking when they enter adolescence. The existing vacuum sucks up from peers the immature teenage values and beliefs that last for life.
Consequently, women need keys to unlock the female-unfriendly side of a man and uncover what they likely face in a life with him. Adult-adolescent men show themselves to be immature in some or many of these red flag ways.
- They are fixated on sex. When the subject comes up, they have a difficult time changing the subject either by themselves, or if someone else expects it.
- They also seem fixated on the sexier parts of the female body. They favor big breasted females, cleavage, shapely backsides, long legs, erogenous zones, the skimpiest and tiniest of coverings, pornography, and anything else that reminds or involves them with sex. One part is the favorite by which they judge women. They have little compunction to talk about it especially to guys.
- They favor or even seek new sexual adventures at home and elsewhere.
- They shy away from personal responsibility in matters with which they are unfamiliar. They’re motivated more by fear of failure than prospects of success when dealing with something strange.
- They prefer fast moving and heavy action movies to little- or no-action stories with character development.
- They don’t read books routinely.
- They easily become bored. Chick flicks drive them crazy.
- They tend toward laziness and are full of reasons not to do the necessaries.
- They strongly favor entertainment over fulfilling a responsibility.
- They enjoy playing with children according to adolescent conditions but have little regard for the expectations of the children with whom they play.
- They dodge, ignore, or try to minimize financial responsibility for both mate and children.
- They take immense offense, plead ignorance, and reject or ignore suggestions of any need for relationship maintenance.
- They have a ready and highly defensive answer anytime blame is cast their way.
- They’re inordinately self-centered and usually very selfish in one or more aspects of life.
- They favor hanging out with the guys. As it is with women, they don’t want to be alone. If they have to be, they’re more comfortable with a guy.
- They would much rather take than give. Giving of themselves doesn’t come easily or naturally to them.
- They are much like women in this regard. They expect recognition or reward for simple things that mature men consider a duty. For example, helping out when wife’s sick, or ‘rescuing’ mother-in-law when she needs groceries.
- They view themselves extreme in some aspect of life, be it physical strength or agility, mental ability, musical talent, talk ability, charming personality, unflappability, good looks, debate (argumentative) skills, attractiveness to females. They excessively rely on whatever they consider their best.
- They abhor the pain of deferred gratitude and lack common sense about money. Or, they pinch pennies so tightly it pains those for whom they’re responsible.
Just a personal opinion, but men married to flat- or small-breasted women have mature, female-friendly, and admirable character traits beyond that of men that chase or marry big-breasted women. If I’m right, it means that young women who make themselves sexier to attract men end up attracting the immature adult-adolescents. The young women more modest and less exploitive of their sexiness end up fishing from the pool of more mature men.