They differ in so many ways. Women seek emotional fulfillment and they go after it. Men expect sexual fulfillment but they also expect not to have to work hard for it. They will work hard to conquer a woman but not work hard for sex with her afterward.
Emotional fulfillment builds and accumulates as a female associates and loves other people. Her self-centeredness easily yields to other-centeredness. Others return her respect and love. The complexities of living provide pleasure, unless she detects a lack of emotional fidelity in her boyfriend, lover, or husband, but those are other stories (#1352 for boyfriends and #1356 for husbands).
However, career dedication, self-actualization, and masculine-like behavior flood the psyche of modern females. They pursue numerous non-feminine objectives that provide only temporary if any emotional fulfillment. They focus on the present instead of building an emotionally fulfilled future. They bypass marriage, avoid or delay children, and defer living up to someone other than Self. Also and especially relevant here, they overlook, begrudge, or otherwise don’t provide sexual fulfillment to the men in their lives.
They don’t get what they want out of life, because they don’t pursue what produces it. Much as men do, they pursue present-day cognitive satisfaction rather than future-enhancing emotional fulfillment. They don’t like or trust their own female selves, and so they look to others for inspiration, guidance, or example. Consequently, they learn to fish in poisonous waters for emotional fulfillment that never comes. Waters such as these extreme examples: celebrity worship, immoral behavior, anti-religious beliefs, and duplicating the sex and food appetites of men.
Unless a young female dreams to seek another destiny, she best fulfills feminine hopes and dreams by building, sustaining, and breathing happiness into a family. She may not realize it for many years, perhaps in her forties, but the urge to nurture and blend a family will eventually pester her with sorrow or remorse.
Later in life the lack of emotional fulfillment pains modern women deeply. Many find life relatively empty, especially if promiscuity was part of earlier life. They long for a man or wish their present mate could be more emotionally involved than he has been ‘trained’ by modern women. The girlhood craving to be cherished never fades completely from the female heart and mind.
Men are different. A man gets sex and expects to routinely move on to other women. Sexual fulfillment has to find him. When it happens, it keeps him focused on whoever provides it. Fulfilling a man sexually makes a woman’s shortcomings overlookable and her faults forgivable and easily forgettable.
To provide sexual fulfillment, his woman needs to elevate him three ways: As the great provider, he deserves frequent and convenient sex. As the family kingpin and supreme family leader, he outranks and out-deserves their kids. And, ultimately, the source of his supremeness flows from his inherent studliness. Perhaps not in her mind but necessarily and perhaps exaggeratedly in his, he’s the greatest of lovers for her and she would have no one else. Continuously present in his heart and mind, that’s sexual fulfillment. (And oh how easy for her to let his convictions slip away as she associates too gregariously or suspiciously with other men.)
She also needs to show gratefulness for him and his efforts, cheer him to success in his workplace, and teach the kids to do the same. As those blessings accumulate alongside his sexual fulfillment, he craves to stick around and enjoy it for life.