A man’s unwillingness to show affection often triggers the need for ‘relationship maintenance’. It’s the most popular complaint of women, because most don’t get enough. In a woman’s view, her man’s affection affirms his love and reinforces her sense of importance. She needs to be confirmed, but instinct keeps him focused elsewhere. He may show enough affection while still trying to conquer her. After his conquest and romantic love fades away, however, she doesn’t get enough affection and her longing for ‘relationship maintenance’ stirs the pot of incompatibility.
When women try to encourage their man to demonstrate love more openly, they often produce dismay, disappointment, and depression for themselves. This happens because the key to getting men to demonstrate more love is not what most women think and do—namely, to try to talk their man into understanding the female dilemma. Once romantic love fades after a year or two, men have little interest in strengthening emotional bonds. It has all been accomplished in his view.
Furthermore, the talent for showing affection must be cultivated earlier in life, or it likely won’t appear in adulthood. A man’s ability and willingness to show affection is dependent on two factors: (1) How he was raised. (2) Figuring out for himself without being told by his woman that he should show her more affection. However, the second is dependent on the first. Consequently, a man’s childhood is critical for the display of enough affection and betterment of a woman’s married life.
That’s the bulk of the story about affection. Females of every kind either teach males how to show affection or women’s expectations are not fulfilled. Of course, it starts with mothers, and that comes tomorrow at #1768.