Three obstructions continuously challenge the female gender and threaten every woman that seeks happiness with a man. This is another tough subject to make clear, and I anticipate daily articles built on these themes.
I — How to use rather than slave under his major strength—male dominance!
II — How to minimize the effect when wife convinces herself that husband loves his job more than her!
III — How to neutralize a man’s natural urge to conquer sexually attractive females that he’s not yet conquered.
Male dominance in men parallels the importance of sexual assets in women. Self-protection is vital. Just as diligently as women protect their greatest asset against unwilling intrusion, men protect and preserve their greatest asset against women. Women can be directly persuaded to yield. The stubborn streak that permeates the male ego and will doesn’t weaken except under the charming and indirect pressures of a woman to whom a man has become devoted.
Women inherit the burden to convert their man’s resolute dominant attitude into a blessing for home and family. They have three options: fight it, accept it, or use it. Those who fight it encourage emotional firestorms that breed incompatibility. Women who accept a man’s dominance without counter pressures are soon ‘rooster-pecked’. Women who make productive use of it promote compatibility and harmony in the home.
Men conquer women when couples have sex the first time. It’s a significant event, a self-admiring accomplishment for men. On the other hand, women have two opportunities to conquer men. First, they get a man to the altar before yielding sex. Those that do have little need for the second; they have for the most part already learned to handle and live amicably with his dominance. Second, they learn to rule the rooster while deliberately claiming and apparently yielding to him the role of ruling the roost. Her conquest is a delicate process sustained such that it enables her to keep the rooster dedicated to brightening their future and fulfilling her hopes and dreams.
You ladies are endowed with relationship expertise that enables you to figure it out for yourselves. Experts can outsmart non-experts. If you get your man devoted to you and to the altar without yielding sex, you effectively contain his dominance within acceptable boundaries. Failing that, you are sufficiently endowed to outsmart him in negotiated settlements. You have abilities and incentives to match, negotiate, and satisfy mutual interests such that he sees no need to impose his will on you or others.
Perception is everything, so whatever appears to be, is. Success follows trying to make all issues favorable to him, us, or children—but not you. The more apparent to him that you want to get your way, the more likely you lose. The more apparent his interests are protected first, the easier for you to use his major strength. The toughest part is making his interests broaden to encompass your wifely and motherly interests.
When experts first learn to sell someone on an idea, they find within themselves underdeveloped resources worthy of being exploited. Women possess a natural and immense array of resources that tame male aggressiveness and dominance. Feminine mystique, female modesty, monogamous fidelity, marital charm, pleasant likeability, unexplainable patience, attitude of gratitude, smiles that signify admiration, and eagerness to appreciate, respect, and admire their man. God, Nature, and hormones more than adequately prepare them for whatever the task to deal successfully with men.
Love isn’t a major player on the field of dominance. Generally, the more respected and likeable she appears in his eyes, the less inclined he becomes to impose his will and perhaps offend. Thus, his view of her promise as good for him reduces his need to be dominant.
As one would expect, her pushiness and nagging produce effects opposite of those she intends. Both habits spur and energize a man’s natural urge to escape her permanently while he temporarily acquiesces to her pushiness and nagging.
Women have no rules to follow or guidebook to study. It’s too uniquely interpersonal, so she has to figure it out and do it herself. She has only her instinctive beliefs plus what she can learn about men. Many listings in the CONTENTS page are relevant and useful.
In the grand scheme of life, few things are more vital to a woman’s happiness than gratefully taming male dominance to fulfill her hopes and dreams
Next: Theme II follows at post 1833 and III at 1834.