1866. RANDOM THOUGHTS—Group 80


  • Ingratitude and pretty smiles are enemies. You can’t smile with ungrateful thoughts in your mind. Being truly grateful makes you smile and vice versa. Since happiness arises out of your gratefulness, smiling and being happy fight against ingratitude.
  • All women are pretty in their hearts if not their minds. They are only beautiful when a man says they are. Why? First, they want to believe men, because they use beauty to compete with other women. Second, they can’t trust female competitors. Third, they don’t believe other females because they view them as just encouragers.
  • Marriages fail mostly from irritants and unanswered demands that ruin the likeability of one or both spouses. Love and commitment just aren’t enough to hold them together after dis-likeability devours devotion.
  • The argumentative woman eventually turns sour. It suppresses smiles, hides prettiness, and smothers likeability.
  • Women who seek the perfect future—especially by enhancing home and kids at the expense of the wife-husband connection—lose their perspective on what’s practical for husband to provide, protect, and tolerate, namely his respect and love.
  • Girls are born with the conviction they are pretty. Boys are born with the conviction they are handy. They set out early in toddlerhood to demonstrate their respective blessings—and most importantly, confirm it to themselves. (Parental displeasure with immature efforts damages respect for parents.)
  • In my schooldays, boys were scared of girls. For example, they wouldn’t think of copping a feel in school. ‘Boys will be boys’ didn’t apply to relationships with the opposite sex. Girls upheld a chaste reputation, and it kept boys from ruining their own reputation among girls. Get a bad name among the girls and you’d never get a date to sit and neck in the car. (The generation of girls just before mine owns a huge credit for developing the Greatest Generation that won World War II.)

 

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  1. Jodi

    Could you explain bullet point #5, I understand untill you say namely his respect and love.

    Your Highness Jodi,
    Respect of his woman is the foundation of a man’s love and providing/protecting is the expression of it. If what she demands makes providing/protecting impractical, then she overloads or obstructs his ability; his respect falls and love plunges. (And yes, ‘his’ woman. If he lacks the sense that he ‘owns’ her, he lacks the interest to provide/protect. Men first take care of that which is theirs.)
    Guy

  2. Jodi

    EDITOR’S NOTE: I RESPOND IN BOLD CAPS TO your questions in lower case. ALSO, I’VE INSERTED PARAGRAPH BREAKS FOR EASIER READING. GUY

    Thank you Guy, if providing/protecting is his expression of it would you say they better he provides, meaning the more money he makes the more love/respect he has for his wife? NO, I WOULDN’T SAY THAT. THE MORE HE DEDICATES THE MONEY HE MAKES TO WIFE AND FAMILY INSTEAD OF HIMSELF AND TOYS, THE MORE LOVE/RESPECT HE HAS FOR THEM.

    I think that on the other hand if a woman is constantly worrying about money and trying not to spend anything, feeding the family poorly and in other words trying to be wise and live below their means this can sometimes discourage a man. TRUE! SHE’S SENDING SIGNALS THAT HE’S NOT GOOD ENOUGH, WHICH HE TRANSLATES AS INSIGNIFICANCE, WHICH IS A MAN’S GREATEST FEAR AND ESPECIALLY WHEN HIS WOMAN’S ACTIONS IMPLY IT.

    I think he wants to feel as if he is providing an adequate living for his family and the best thing a wife could do (besides pretty time) is to be truly thankful for his efforts knowing the responsibility he carries, being as hopeful about the future as he is, not bringing him down trying to make him more realistic, and actually spending his money in a way that makes everyone feel well provided for. Would you agree? YES!

    Also how can a wife support her husband in his battle to provide without accepting self-imposed guilt for not providing and still show sympathy and concern for her husband. KEEP ADMIRING WHAT HE DOES, WHAT HE IS, WHAT HE DREAMS OF, WHEN HE TRIES HARDER, WHEN HE OVERCOMES, AND EVERY OTHER SPECIAL FEATURE, ACCOMPLISHMENT, AND STRENGTH THAT HE POSSESSES.

    A few things I think about that you said was that the wife should naturally find worth in providing good relations in her family than actually producing, or something along those lines. YES, HARMONY IN THE HOME NOT ONLY MAKES HIM FEEL GOOD ABOUT HIMSELF BUT MAKES HIM SEEK COMFORT THERE. IT SHOULD BE YOUR PRIMARY TARGET.

    Also, when I helped my husband with his work (He’s self-employed) I started to neglect the family, dinner, house cleaning, we worked too hard, and I was miserable and felt bad. Now I see that my natural concern is a clean house, clean clothes, food prepared, children on track, my appearance etc. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated! WHERE DOES HUSBAND CONSIDER YOU THE MOST VALUABLE? IF YOU HAVE NO CHILDREN, FAVOR HELPING HIM UNTIL HE INDICATES HIS CASTLE NEEDS MORE OF YOUR ATTENTION. IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN, FIND A WAY TO MAKE HUSBAND FEEL GOOD ABOUT WHAT YOU DO. YOU INTUITIVELY KNOW WHAT’S BEST FOR ALL CONCERNED, BUT HE MAY NEED SOME SPECIAL TREATMENT TO BECOME CONVINCED THAT YOU’RE RIGHT. NOT MORE RIGHT THAN HIM, NOR RIGHT BY PROVING HIM WRONG, BUT RIGHT BY HIM YIELDING TO YOUR SEED PLANTING AND OTHER INDIRECT WAYS OF BRINGING HARMONY INTO BOTH RELATIONSHIP AND HOME. FROM THE WAY YOU ALREADY THINK AND WRITE, YOU HAVE THE BATTLE WON. YOU JUST HAVE TO SMOOTH OUT THE WRINKLES OF PEACE.

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