In his comment at #1116, Sir Some Other Guy asked “what is going on” with this? “I consistently find that women perceive being treated as a princess by a man to be repulsive to them. It makes him seem weak. It makes him not attractive. I will admit that [your mileage may vary]. But I find that for women, arrogance = strong man, = attraction.” His clear headedness warrants this daily article.
For simplicity, I use arrogance to also represent other non-physical expressions of male dominance that women find appealing. And Some Other Guy is right—arrogance = strong man = attraction.
UNMARRIED TO EACH OTHER. Women naturally gravitate toward masculine arrogance. They’re naturally fascinated by what’s not fully understood but which can have significant meaning to them—intrigued by masculinity itself, by what they themselves lack, and by what they know to be of benefit to them if they can but harness it to their advantage.
Women learn how to handle and live with male dominance by exposure to arrogant manifestations. It reflects manly independence (that women sense they lack), suggests inner strength (disregard of what people think), and—most of all—earns respect for both the arrogant man and his gender. A man’s arrogance hints at courage, hides interests, disguises character, and generates mystery. (Women naturally use mystery dealing with men, and so they’re fascinated by its use.)
Incidentally, a fine line exists between teasing females and showing arrogance. The former pleases and makes them smile or blush at the attention, but it does little to generate female-male attraction. Such reactions, however, please men. The latter, arrogance, partially or fully infuriates women and yet generates attraction. It pleases women to see it and arrogant men know it full and perhaps purposely well.
No doubt women are socialized and conditioned for greater assertiveness against manly arrogance. However, I believe the attraction comes mostly from their nature. Arrogant men stimulate women to respond competitively. Instinct tells women they can and should compete with men for unmarried sex. Also, instinctive relationship expertise tells women they can change whatever they find incomplete about a husband, once they complete the capture. The consequence is attraction, women for arrogant men and by implication male dominance.
You may recall from other posts that men change dramatically after conquering a woman for their first sex together. Well, women change dramatically after marriage in order to curb husbandly arrogance. What happens to most brides is the rest of the story—tomorrow.