Womanly beauty and virtue are like vapors. They condense into usefulness when admired by one man. Beauty incites his sex drive. Virtue—every uniqueness that a man admires—stirs his interest to marry her.
With their minds off sex, men much prefer a woman that is loveable rather than loving and respectable rather than respecting. They more highly value a woman from imagining rather than actually feeling her up. Consequently, unmarried women develop better relationships when they use modesty instead of exotic/erotic, rely on respectable actions rather than affectionate words, and substitute moral guidance for sexual freedom. They do best by making themselves more attractive, respectable, and loveable—which start with neatness, pleasantness, and likeability respectively.
Dressed frazzled, uncaring, and bulging, women lose much of their importance to others, which means they are less important to themselves, and vice versa.
Strong-willed masculinity makes men more grateful and dependable mates, albeit less empathetic. Seemingly more needful of womanly attention, they easily reinforce their mate’s sense of self-importance for providing it.
Strong-willed femininity makes women more respected, virtuous, and likeable as mates, albeit more dependent. Seemingly more needful of manly support, they easily reinforce their man’s sense of self-admiration for providing it.
Women who like themselves as a female tend to act more modest than others. It works in reverse too: The practice of modesty tends to make women like their femaleness better. By not letting life’s incentives and pressures twist them into copying masculine virtues, values, and behaviors, women increase their sense of self-worth, self-respect, self-confidence, and self-image. Each reinforces her potential to be even more important to herself, others, and her gender.