I recently assembled a new section, perhaps the most important topic I have undertaken in almost six years of daily posts to this blog. Titled MAKE MARRIAGE WORK, it’s so important that I promoted it to my navigation menu at top of blog. New entries will be added by numbered posts, so you should check back frequently for additions. It’s a startup checklist, if nothing else, on the long road of either planning a successful marriage or recovering from one in need of rescue.
Assessing the results in society (what we all do) and culture (why we all do it), I concluded this. For over five decades women have listened only to women about capturing and holding a man. As that unisex mindedness continues, the female identity dissolves in political acid, womanly relationship expertise crumbles, and girls and women unwittingly teach that sexual freedom is more important than being respected by boys and men whose love arises only from a foundation of respect. The availability of unmarried sex diverts manly eyes and ambitions, stalls and sours the development of devotion to one woman, and discourages men from helping fulfill female hopes and dreams.
The results are three: 1) Women lack the art of developing lasting relationships and cultivating the teamwork required to harmonize family life. 2) They blame men for it. 3) Unmarried men don’t give a s***; they have been taught that devotion to one woman isn’t expected, morality isn’t important, sex is paramount, thoughts of marriage are foolish, and divorce means financial strangulation.
You may view Make Marriage Work as contract template, covenant model, or negotiating checklist. With woman in the lead, couples can and should use it to spot premarital red flags, clarify marital disharmony, negotiate agreements, and melt pledges into devotion in courtship and otherwise turn the man’s thinking toward marital compatibility rather than just her earning his commitment by using sex.