1942. Compatibility Axioms #281-290


281. The only window of opportunity to change a man opens before and closes after his sexual conquest of her. What she screws is what she gets, until his natural hard-heartedness mellows and hard-headedness softens much later in life. [117]
282. Some women are not true to themselves. They act phony to capture a man. Men marry expecting wife NOT to change, but she does. If she’s phony before marriage, she turns into a woman he did not marry. [117]
283. Women marry and expect their husband to change, but he doesn’t. Change is unmanly, but a man relents when necessary to convince, court, and conquer a unique woman viewed as extraordinary and marriage candidate for him. [117]
284. A woman’s openness with a man does not serve her until after years of marriage and maybe not even then. Men as hunter-conquerors like tough targets, difficult game, hard-to-get prizes that first challenge and later provide frequent reminders of their manliness. The woman that makes it easy for him to understand her—or to take up residence with her—trains him against her best interests. [117]
285. They are different. A man takes his relationship for granted. She reads it as his taking her for granted. Both are just following their nature. As the relationship expert, she has the burden to compensate. [117]
286. The way a person dresses plays a major role in how they behave. Other people judge them accordingly. Therefore, our attire and grooming generate judgments about us, and people act on those judgments when they deal with us. Husbands are people too. [120]
287. Extra grooming and dressing up not only improves her appearance. It improves the picture she has of herself, lifts up self-worth, heightens self-gratitude, sponsors happier thoughts, breeds self-confidence, and intensifies her ability to deal successfully with her husband. (For further details see articles 806, 1146, 1440, 1441, and 1752.) [120]
288. If women don’t want to light up the world men live in, men are released to ‘uglify’ it in their own style. Dress codes notwithstanding, the way women dress and groom themselves shapes the appearance and much of the morale of both home and workplace. [120]
289. Her sexual history disclosed to a man earns or lowers his respect. In general, closeness to virginity earns respect. Promiscuity detracts. [121]
290. A man can hardly help but judge his woman harshly about her unmarried sexual history. It’s the male nature, although men feign disinterest or deny it so they can discover more. [122]

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One response to “1942. Compatibility Axioms #281-290

  1. Sis

    “A woman’s openness with a man does not serve her until after years of marriage and maybe not even then. Men as hunter-conquerors like tough targets, difficult game, hard-to-get prizes that first challenge and later provide frequent reminders of their manliness. The woman that makes it easy for him to understand her—or to take up residence with her—trains him against her best interests.”
    This one I could use more encouragement with, he is always asking me what I’m thinking, it bothers him not to know what is on my mind,or what is worrying me but then I always regret telling him after the fact. He closes right up.

    Your Highness Sis,
    You may be flooding him with too much info. 1) Disclose as little as possible; let him pull it out of you. 2) You may be solving your own worries and problems, which leaves him no room to help. If you have everything well in hand, he can add no value and releases you to continue. Men rescue damsels in distress, but you have to have a problem you can’t solve. Given that situation, he may find more interest in what you have to say.
    Guy

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