1966. Compatibility Axioms #361-370


361. Men delight in easy conquest. It adds temporary value to her, but devalues her as keeper. [132]
362. Few things expose a man’s character more readily than being repeatedly denied sex by a woman on whom he has set his sights for conquest. [132]
363. Boys raised with little affection before puberty neither provide nor respond well to affection later in life. [132]
364. Hunter-conquerors can be grateful and possess good intentions, but their drive to conquer another woman never completely dies. It’s the male nature, and only devotion earned by one woman discourages it. [132]
365. A woman’s refusal for unmarried sex builds virtue. It earns a man’s admiration and respect, which energizes his imagination and convinces him that she will probably be faithful to him. (“If she won’t yield to my talent and charm, she won’t yield to anyone else either,” or so he thinks and if her other signs don’t cause questions.) [132]
366. Courtship without sexual relations teaches boys and men to suppress their aggression and honor a female’s standards and expectations. The process also exposes males to her non-sexual qualities that earn admiration and are seen as virtues. [132]
367. Easily available, unobligated, and unmarried sex aids the conquerors’ pursuit. On the other hand, men must work harder to impress and ‘sell’ themselves as guardians of female interests when women abstain outside marriage. [132]
368. Fathers may acquiesce, but they don’t take kindly to mothers accepting and supporting the inevitability of a daughter’s unmarried sexual activity. [132]
369. Failure of a man to honor a woman’s standards and expectations—e.g., claiming her sexual history to be none of his business—means more failures will follow after conquest regardless of what he says before that monumental event. [132]
370. A man’s initial love of a woman is based on respect earned about her virtue, self-respect, and likeability as mate. His enduring love is overwhelmingly sustained by her respect and gratitude for who he is and what he does. (Very different from women, so see the next article, 1967, to be published tomorrow.) [132]

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6 responses to “1966. Compatibility Axioms #361-370

  1. Catherine

    Regarding 368: Saw some prom ‘dresses’ at the local shopping mall yesterday. Featured garments were barely as long as a t-shirt from top to bottom. If even a gentle breeze passed by… eek! Pretty young ladies might find something more respectable and lovely on e b a y or other websites. 🙂

  2. Heather

    I have a problem a few weeks ago my ex bf who I haven’t seen for 2 yrs but spoke too not often. The times he contacted me throughout the 2 yrs was to give him another chance and he always wanted to know if I had a bf or what I was up too. Which I never explained to him what I was doing. He recently contacted me and apologized. He explained to me that he what he did wrong, and that he want another chance and begged to try our relationship again. Well I agreed he seemed honest at first, but he started behaving the same way when I decided not too see him again 2 yrs ago. The problem was he was talking to another girl when he was with me. And he is doing the same thing right now. I told him what I want from a relationship, which was I want a serious relationship that hopefully leads to marriage. I haven’t contacted him since the last time we spoke about 3 weeks ago. I haven’t not seen him in person we just called each other. He hasn’t contacted me since then we don’t live far from each other. Should I contact him and cut him off or should just forget about it and not contact him anymore? Do men still contact there ex GF and if so why? For a man his age I was expecting a decisive attitude and sticking to it he 32 yrs. His words never match his actions.

    Your Highness Heather,

    Everything of importance is in your last sentence. He’s untrustworthy and should be dumped from all contact. You’ll get a better understanding in tomorrow’s article, 1967.

    Incidentally, welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.

    Guy

    • Heather

      Yes, you are correct. My gut is telling me to not believe him, but part me had hope that it may work out since he was my first love. But I have to do what’s best for me. Thank you

  3. My Husband's Wife

    EDITOR’S NOTE: MY RESPONSE IS IN CAPS following your questions in lower case.
    GUY

    “363. Boys raised with little affection before puberty neither provide nor respond well to affection later in life. [132]”

    This is really true. My husband’s mom gave him little and now as an adult (also very demeaning–yet overly affectionate to his dad–elevating his dad to God-like status), he reports affection making him feel awkward [AWKWARD BECAUSE IT IS AN UNEARNED GIFT. IF HE DID SOMETHING TO WARRANT AFFECTION, IT MEANS HE PROBABLY MADE A MISTAKE] and he can’t understand why he is/feels the way he does [HIS NATURE]. He also frequently mentions he’s a “bad husband” because he’s not affectionate [THAT’S A SIGN HE’S DEVOTED TO YOU, FEELS SOME GUILT, BUT NEVER LEARNED TO INITIATE AFFECTION FOR NO REASON.] I’ve asked him if “being affectionate” is something that he’d like and he drew a complete blank. [MAY I SUGGEST THAT YOU FIND MORE SIMPLE WAYS OF EXPRESSING AFFECTION, DON’T COMPLAIN AND DON’T EXPLAIN, AND JUST LET HIS MELLOWING NATURE PICK IT UP FROM YOUR DAILY AND ALMOST SENSELESS EXAMPLES. ESPECIALLY SHOW IT WHEN THANKING HIM FOR ACCOMPLISHMENTS.]

    Regarding this statement, a have a few questions about this sort of man as an adult.
    1. Is it normal for moms not to be as affectionate with their sons, so that their men just end up more non-affectionate in general? [NORMAL? NO. I KNOW A MAN WHO RECEIVED VIRTUALLY NO AFFECTION AND NO RECOGNITION OF ACCOMPLISHMENTS IN CHILDHOOD. THE FATHER PREVENTED IT BECAUSE HE THOUGHT IT TURNED BOYS GAY. SOMETHING SIMILAR COULD HAVE BEEN AT WORK IN YOUR CASE.]

    2. Does the man see affection as non-essential–or might he just not know how to deal with it when given or provide it naturally? [AFTER ABOUT THE FIRST GRADE, BOYS GROW UP WITHOUT THE NEED FOR IT. THAT SHAPES THEIR LIVES EXCEPT AS MOTHERS AND SISTERS DISPLAY AFFECTION SUFFICIENTLY AND SINCERELY ENOUGH THAT BOYS GROW USED TO IT AND LEARN TO LEAN ON IT HABITUALLY FOR RECOVERY FROM DEFEATS.]

    3. Is this something he could learn? If so, how could a wife help? [I MENTION SOMETHING ABOVE.]

    4. Is HE missing out as a result? My gut says there is something “missing” between us in that sense. I think he knows it too and hasn’t a clue how not to make it “awkward.” [GET RID OF THE BEDROOM TV AND WORK ON INTIMACY. THE BENFITS TO YOU MAY CARRY OVER TO HIM.]

    A note to women looking for husbands: It’s really important to know how his mom treated him and what he thinks of his mom because this WILL affect a marriage greatly and its a challenge to deal with after marriage.

  4. Catherine

    Sir Guy,
    May I read your thoughts on this? Mother attacks or criticizes Daughter harshly, and Father responds by being super attentive to Mother. Mother’s euphoria causes Daughter’s daily life to improve, but only as long as the euphoria lasts. Mother learned the way to get Father’s attention is by harshly handling Daughter, so when in need of attention, Daughter is the target. Daughter seems to inspire Father’s help, but what is going on with Mother? Any hope for Daughter on this roller coaster?

    Your Highness Catherine,
    Too tough to figure out with any detail. However, I suspect the mother regresses into a self-centered adolescent and well-developed habit. The daughter may not learn another way to get attention and may use the same tactic to get her man’s attention sometime later. She may duplicate mom for lack of what else to do.
    Guy

    • Catherine

      🙂 Gentlemen are never more handsome than when they effectively help pretty ladies, even without much detail. 🙂

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