What follows isn’t really as complex as I make it. It’s much simpler and more natural, because it primarily happens subconsciously and gradually over time. But every bit of a woman’s fascination builds like this.
An intuitive process springs instinctively from the female heart. Women crave to be fascinating. Deceiving themselves, some try to achieve it directly. But Nature doesn’t work that way. They have to depend on men. The fascinating woman emerges indirectly as the result of interactions with and feedback from men. It’s not about chasing fascination itself but by exhibiting uniquely feminine qualities that men appreciate and long to be associated with.
Women wish the background of their personality held endless fascination. But each faces an inevitable fact of life. Much like the primal female urge to feel important to someone else, her fascination requires feedback to confirm it. So, utilizing the different natures of men and women, she appeals to all men in order for a few to find her fascinating and even fewer still to capture her interest as her potential mate. (For example, constant charm or positive attitude outperform the same things turned off and on for specific people or occasions. Constancy creates stability of personality and makes her more predictable, which men admire because they don’t like surprises.)
Consequently, to advance her life agenda, she has to fascinate men and then screen out the ‘trash’. Men benefit from the free fascination. The mere presence of a fascinating woman is therapy for a man in need. She benefits from fascinating enough men until Mr. Good Enough finds her enchanting and precious.
Each man determines whether or not each woman is fascinating. Each quality he admires becomes a virtue. The more virtues he identifies consciously and subconsciously, the more fascinating she appears. It’s the leading part of the process by which a man perceives the promise in a woman that makes him resolve to marry her. Thus, fascination is the major ingredient of her promise as potential mate. (Modern men may marry less-than-fascinating women, but such arrangements turn temporary before too long. Men can too easily admire the feminine qualities in other women.)
The process works like this. He perceives personal qualities, admires those individual attributes, and subconsciously converts each into virtue. Admires each for the attraction it holds for him. He capitalizes on virtues, such as great cook, highly attractive, or ardent encourager. The accumulation of virtues morphs into promise of how she can improve his present and future life. After all, if she isn’t fascinating to him, he’ll not be very interested in marrying her.
However, this quirk exists in male nature to the eternal confusion of women. Her ability to provide sex is a virtue before conquest but not afterward. Even great sex doesn’t remain a virtue. Her unconquered uniqueness fades away after conquest. It’s part of the change that men undergo afterward.
Fascination comes before promise. The more admirable her qualities to men and not her girlfriends, then the more virtuous and the more fascinating she is. Her promise as potential mate grows out of that.