2147. Three Little Words: How They Work


Those three little words are overrated. Oh, I don’t suggest they not be used. I suggest that due diligence be paid to the likely impact they have on the sexes, because they register differently both in delivery and reception.

A man’s words impact his mind but don’t program his heart. A woman’s words program both mind and heart. Her “I love you” leads her to also act it out, which reinforces that she does love him. It doubles the dosage of obligating her to him, because her heart and mind are much more closely interconnected than those of males.

Men are quite different in how they hear three little and other words. He hears them, but they don’t register deeply within him; they do little to impress him. His ears are not the sensitive and believable sensors that hers are. If her loving actions accompany or follow her words, then he can begin to believe her love. Men believe what they see and figure out; they don’t believe what they are told until they see evidence of actions that support and reinforce.

On the delivering end, a man says, “I love you.” It isn’t the same obligation that her words carry, because unlike women his words don’t program his heart. Unless his words originate with his heart as the result of his having acted over time as if he loves her, his words mean little although they may carry intent. (But what’s that old saying about the road to hell is paved with good intentions?)

That’s why commitment promised by men ends up disappointing women who act on a man’s words. Commitment primarily serves men, because in matters of love their words are relatively cheap while women value them the same way that women value their own words.

Manly devotion serves women, but it requires time, his actions, and her patience for a man to program his heart with actions that please him for pleasing her and that end up favoring her above all others. Her femininity, uniqueness, and patience keep him interested long enough for him to find virtues that accumulate into fascination and to whom he devotes his interest above all else. Then a man loves her (as women wish they would from the get go).

To men, words are for the purpose of getting what they want. They are hunter-conquerors and competitors. Words are their weapons when physicality is inappropriate; when might can’t make right; and when faced with feminine mystique, female modesty, and appealing vanity that they can’t comprehend much less understand well enough to compete for fear of losing.

In other words, the immovable objects of the dominant sex can be moved by the irresistible force of the superior sex when women pay less attention to masculine words, exploit their feminine nature, and induce men into figuring them out rather than the reverse.

 

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7 responses to “2147. Three Little Words: How They Work

  1. Cocoa

    Never believed nor relied on a man’s words. They know when likes listening to nice sweet words and they use it to get what they want. Women should outsmart them in this arena.

    Sir Guy, i think the number of the post should be 2147.

    Your Highness Cocoa,
    Thanks for the tip; correction made.
    Guy

  2. KitKat

    In other words — men are liars and don’t trust what they say. You just keep making men sound more appealing.

    Your Highness KitKat,

    I’m not saying that at all. Just reporting how their nature is made up much in opposition to that of females. Of course, some may lie. But the point is that women turn over their self interest to a man based on the nature of females. As if men speak and hear the same ways that women do. Also, women put their self-interest into the hands of a man without testing for truth, without comparing his words with his actions, without delaying conquest so that she can separate lies from truth.

    Men can be no more appealing than women make them successful as mates.

    Guy

  3. Beloved

    EDITOR’S NOTE: MY RESPONSE IS IN CAPS following your questions in lower case. Also, I broke your text into different paragraphs for clarity of reading. Guy

    Hi Guy, so about this whole conquest, her being “defeated” thing. How does that work? REMEMBER, I’M TALKING ABOUT THE NATURE THEY ARE BORN WITH AND IT PLAYS OUT THIS WAY. HE SEEKS TO CONQUER HER FOR SEX, WHILE SHE SEEKS TO CONQUER HIM FOR PERMANENT MATING AKA AS MARRIAGE TODAY.

    Let’s say he really does love her. LOVE BY WHOSE DEFINITION? MEN DON’T LOVE AS WOMEN DO, SO IT MATTERS. COLOR HIS LOVE AS DEVOTION EXHIBITED THROUGH ACTIONS THAT PLEASE HIM FOR PLEASING HER. WITHOUT THAT, THERE’S VERY LITTLE LOVE AS WOMEN DEFINE IT IN A MAN’S HEART.

    What is 1st sex like for him if he does indeed love her? WHO KNOWS? BUT I WOULD THINK CONSIDERATE OF HER WISHES BUT STILL DEMONSTRATIVE OF HIS DOMINANCE. SEX IS A MAN’S FAVORITE WAY OF EXPRESSING DOMINANCE AND PROVIDES SO MUCH SATISFACTION AFTERWARDS.

    What is he thinking of her at this moment since we know sex is not about love for him? WHO KNOWS? HARD TO TELL. BUT CONQUERING GLORY AND CONFIRMING OF DOMINANCE COMES TO MIND.

    Isn’t conquest like one person defeating an opponent (enemy)? ONLY IN THE SENSE THAT THAT’S HOW THEY ARE DESIGNED AND MADE, TO COMPETE THE FIRST TIME AND ARRANGE COOPERATIVELY FOR SUBSEQUENT SEX UNDER THE LEADERSHIP OF WOMEN, THE IRRESISTIBLE FORCE, THE SUPERIOR SEX.

    How does someone feel dominant (thru sex) over someone they supposedly love? LOVE HAS LITTLE TO DO WITH IT. HIS NATURE URGES HIM TO STRENGTHEN/REINFORCE HIS DOMINANCE, WHICH HE DOES INSTINCTIVELY WITH HARD THRUSTING AND DEEP PENETRATION TO LIFT THE WORTH OF ERECTIONS AND CONFIRM HIS ABILITY. ORGASM PROVES THE RIGHTNESS OF HIS EFFORT.

    I feel that having sex with a man is a losing situation due to how men think of it, not women. OOPS! YOU MISSED SOMETHING, DARLING. WOMEN LOSE IF THEY YIELD WHEN IT’S NOT IN THEIR BEST INTEREST. THEY ARE IN CONTROL. RIGHT GUY, THEY WIN. WRONG GUY, THEY LOSE. MEN ONLY LOSE WHEN A WOMAN REFUSES TO YIELD.

    WHAT DOES IT MATTER WHAT MEN THINK DURING INTERCOURSE? IN THE WOMAN’S VIEW OF THINKING, HE DOESN’T THINK. HE’S INTENT ON PROVING HIMSELF TO HIMSELF. DURING ROMANCE, LEAD IN, FOREPLAY, AND INTIMACY AFTERWARDS, HIS THOUGHTS MEAN A LOT. BUT, AGAIN, SHE’S IN CHARGE. IF HE DOESN’T THINK IN WAYS THAT APPEAL TO HER, SHE’S FREE TO BACK OFF AND CLOSE NEGOTIATIONS. TO YIELD IS TO TURN HIM OVER TO HIS NATURE: KIND AND CONSIDERATE, OR WILD, DOMINANT, BEASTLY, OR WHATEVER.

    THAT DESCRIBES THEIR NATURES BEFORE LOVE AND LESSONS LEARNED IN LIFE BECOME INVOLVED. HER SEXUAL ASSETS ARE GOD-GIVEN TO MAKE MEN DANCE TO FEMALE MUSIC. SHE LOSES WHEN SHE DOESN’T. AND SHE LOSES IF SHE FAILS TO UNDERSTAND WHAT A MAN’S LOVE LOOKS LIKE.

    Thanking you in advance for a wonderful & hopefully well-explained ( I don’t always “get” it) answer. YOU’RE WELCOME. FEEL FREE TO COME BACK IF AND WHEN YOU DON’T “GET” IT. THAT IS WHAT HELPS ME CLARIFY PRINCIPLES AND CONCLUSIONS THAT ARE HARD TO DIGEST.

  4. Beloved

    I guess my question was if he loves her does she mean something different to him during sex than another woman? I think your answer is…no, any woman providing sex is virtually the same to him. His love for her is a different thing altogether. He doesn’t even think about his love for her during sex. Right?

    Your Highness Beloved,
    Yes, that’s pretty much the male nature. However, the kind of “love” she expects is affection, and he’s as well-trained at providing it as she conditions him during courtship. IOW, if she wants more affection, she needs to train him ahead of time to provide it.
    Guy

    • Miss Kitty

      so true Guy… SINCE many men say ‘i’m not affectionate’ it means SHE DIDN’T ‘TRAIN’ HIM BEFOREHAND.. and now, when you see young couples, you see why…. the girl starts being ‘affectionate’ with him, thinking she would get affection, but men aren’t that way…

      Your Highness Miss Kitty,
      Right on, darling. Men don’t do things the female’s way.
      Guy

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