2162. ATTENTION, Ladies

I regret interrupting the flow of Mid-life Dating series, but I must tend to an admin matter.

Recently I was taken out behind the woodshed and verbally paddled for my blog attitude, style, and etiquette. I bump the issue to you for confirmation or denial.

I need the truth and ask for it clearly rather than dearly. I can handle both as I’ve been making mistakes for 80 years. I can also improve whatever needs it. Of course, my accusers will read your responses.

I don’t mind the criticism unless you ladies feel the same way. Therefore, I ask for your opinion in a simple format. For each paragraph number below, cite your response with simple terms such as yes, no, true, false, sometimes, never, always, frequently, constantly, agree, disagree, or whatever else you choose. One word for each number is all I need although you may use whatever reports the truth as you see it.

  1. My attitude is directly or indirectly disrespectful of readers.
  2. I was told that I frequently reflect anger, am critical of people, or belittle my readers.
  3. As the accusation goes, when someone says something that I specifically disagree with, I’m short tempered, short sighted, and inconsiderate to both men and women who disagree and others by implication.
  4. The example of poor etiquette is my using upper case text when I respond to many questions embedded in long comments. Unknown to me, use of upper case on the net is called shouting and is therefore demeaning. Is that so? You read it that way? (Incidentally, I have no other effective way of inserting my comments within a long series of questions from readers. If I answer many at the bottom, it makes for too much duplication or too tough reading. Caps avoid that.)
  5. Do you get the idea that I put readers down, demean them, disrespect them, or doubt their worth as a person, woman, reader, visitor, questioner, dater, mother, single mom, sex addict, former child, fearful person, girlfriend, wife, grandmother, lesbian, or transgendered mate? One exception: super-activist or radical spreader of Feminism into the social and domestic arenas.

Explanations are welcome but unnecessary. I first have to confirm or deny accusations, determine my guilt or innocence, and bring about whatever changes I choose to make. I don’t intend to silence my critics but to please myself and my readers.

Very respectfully,




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34 responses to “2162. ATTENTION, Ladies

  1. Cinnamon

    1. False
    2. False
    3. False

    4. N/A – you do use upper case, but anyone who has spent time reading WWNH knows this is stylistic and there is no intention to shout. It works for me as a reader because I can clearly see what parts of the comment are from the readers, and which parts are from you (Sir Guy). It makes the dialogue easier to follow, and I don’t want you to change this. Furthermore Boomer babe and Miss Kitty also use caps for emphasis, but it enhances their writing style.

    5. False. You are very tolerant of other beliefs and choices, welcoming females of all religious beliefs (and no beliefs), but you make it clear where you stand and that you write primarily from a Judeo-Christian perspective/natural law perspective, and that certain subjects are off-topic for this blog.

    I admit I found your style a little abrasive at times when I first came to WWNH many years ago, but for some reason I couldn’t put my finger on at the time, this blog fascinated me, and so I stuck with it. The more I watched you interact with others the more impressed I became, and the more I started to pay attention to what you had to say.

    Nearly all of us can come off as abrasive at times. I have noticed that if you do this and someone points it out to you respectfully, you always seem to take the time to explain your position. Furthermore, if you are wrong about something you admit it. In fact, you frequently invite criticism, correction, and questioning in the style of Socrates, because WWNH is a classroom not a bully pulpit. (How grateful am I for all of this? The answer is “very grateful”).

    This blog deals with potentially volatile subjects, yet you manage to run a steady ship through sheer force of intellect, convinction, and, most of all, your overriding concern for others, regardless of where they are in life. Some people will accuse those with strong convictions of having a “big ego” but I have found this is usually because they are uncomfortable with the underlying values/beliefs being presented, particularly when those convictions are Judeo-Christian in nature. It’s one of the Alinsky tactics you mentioned a week or two ago of “accusing the other side of doing what you yourself are doing.” In this case, they dislike the ideas you present so instead of tolerating this difference they accuse you of intolerance.

    To expand on this a little, I don’t know the source of this criticism. I’m not saying he/she has ill motivations – he or she may in fact be completely convinced of his or her righteousness – but I sense there is a hidden agenda in that the criticisms are rooted more in idealogy but that instead of addressing the idealogical differences respectfully, he/she has chosen to criticise you personally.

    I don’t always agree with everything you say, yet I still hold the above views of your style and character. I am very turned off by people who are condescending, disrespectful, and intolerant toward others, whether they are coming generally from the political “right” or from the “left.” If I was acting this way myself, I would do some serious self-examination to see if the criticisms were warranted and I needed to change (just as you are doing here today). The fact is, there are obnoxious people on both sides of the culture wars, but YOU ARE NOT ONE OF THEM (oops…sorry for shouting…tee hee!), and this is one of the many reasons I respect and admire you so much.

    In closing, if you were any of the things of which you are being accused, I wouldn’t still be here, nor would I ever have taken much of what you had to say very seriously.

    Your Highness Cinnamon,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and thoroughly.

  2. 1-3: Unseen to me.
    4: False. It’s shouting/emphasis only when one word or phrase stand out form the rest of the text, and context matters.
    5: Never. I have only perceived your desire to stay on-topic.

    I am absolutely sure the majority of your visitors feel an increase in respect given to them. There will always be someone who is able to take offense, mostly through their own connotations and imagination. I commend your search for truth.

    Your Highness Eatacactus,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly and thoughtfully.

  3. Emma

    All false. I am a 32 year old female who grew up with grand parents that are your age and for me the formality of your approach goes with the topic you are addressing. Seems appropriate that now a days we lack your level of truth and honesty as we deal with every day lives.

    Avid reader for 3 years — I don’t find it in any way insulting nor disrespectful. I can tell when a topic does have great importance to you because your answers are shorter and to the core, however they are good answers and that’s what needs to be said.

    I thoroughly enjoy your writing and I wish you for many more years great health.

    Avid reader, Emma!

    Your Highness Emma,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly and thoughtfully.

  4. Home-Schooled Scientist

    Dear Sir Guy,

    Firstly, I’d like to say that I have been following your blog for the past year or so, though I haven’t left a comment yet. I might be in a rather unique position amongst your readers, as I am a neuroscientist at an ivy league institution–I only mention this to justify my expertise on the liberal/progressive/feminist agenda–and am quite well versed in the damage it has done.

    Regarding the content of your blog (which I understand is not, in this case, under fire): If folks are offended by what you say here, then they need to go somewhere else and read blogs that align more with their values and opinions. The internet is a big place, people–don’t waste your time, Sir Guy’s time, and the time of all the other readers here by picking unnecessary fights.

    Regarding the criticisms of your writing STYLE (not focusing on content right now): As a scientist, I am accustomed to the untamed masculine forms of expressions (i.e., blunt directness, even rudeness), so your writing style doesn’t faze me one bit. In fact, I appreciate the concise bits of wisdom. However, given that many women reading this may be in a delicate position regarding self-esteem or other issues, I can see how it may come across as harsh at times. That said, if your critics truly cannot look past a “blunt” writing style to see the value of your meanings and wisdom, then they need to work on building up their own feminine confidence or go somewhere else. Just my honest opinion.

    On a personal note regarding the use of your advice in my own life, I am actually in the middle of building a career, although finding a good enough Mr. Good Enough would entice me to reassess my priorities. Your advice, however, has proven invaluable in reclaiming and maintaining my femininity in an environment where “softness” is frowned upon and even blatantly disrespected–in fact, once I embraced my subtleties as a strength, I have noticed a marked increase in respect from my male counterparts, ESPECIALLY once I realized that the masculine nature is starved for respect these days. Showing respect to men = increased respect from men.

    I appreciate how you describe, step-by-step at times, the essence of a truly confident and powerful woman. What girls and women need to hear SO BADLY (use of all caps in this case IS intended to be “shouting,”) is that THEY ARE VALUABLE and ARE NOT TO TOLERATE being treated as pieces of meat to be used and tossed aside. In my immediate experience, it is infinitely more effective to quietly yet firmly assert self-assuredness and feminine mystique mixed with subtle dismissal rather than how I used to handle it, which was by shouting back anger and frustration at the unfortunate offender in question.

    Thank you, Sir Guy, for giving us usable and practical tools to reclaim our identities, happiness, and respect. I find that reading your blog is among one of the most useful expenditures of my valuable time.

    Very fondly,
    A Home-Schooled Scientist.

    Your Highness A Home-Schooled Scientist,

    Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.

    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and thoroughly.


  5. prettybeans

    Dear Guy,

    1-5 – Sometimes you do come across as harsh and somewhat cold. Initially, I was initially turned off your blog but also somewhat attracted to your straight forward style (like how we all pretend to look away when faced with a gruesome accident) and I wasn’t sure whether what was offensive to me was actually offensive to my feminine sensibilities or to my sensitivities generally.

    I’m not sure whether I have come to overlook what I find hurtful/cold/distant/disconnected/and instead focus on what has value (i.e. gratefulness ?) or I have come to accept that we are simply different – in sex, age, outlook and perspective, cultural experience etc.

    I do however think that you are a manly man and I really value your contribution to my life and to my unsteady, painful but determined transformation.

    Gentlemen sometimes come in strange packages but they are never more handsome than when they care deeply.

    Your Highness Prettybeans,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and honestly.

  6. That Horse Is Dead

    1. False – I’m also an avid reader for years (I think I found this blog in 2010/11). I found much of the content very difficult to swallow at first and found myself angry…A LOT. However, I know from the past that those angry feelings are usually a result of underlying truth that I don’t want to hear.
    2. False – Frank, direct, blunt are all words I would use, but not disrespectful. The reason I keep returning here is because I can trust that you will be these things. I may not always agree 100% with your delivery, but I’m quite feminine. If I wanted a female’s perspective in a blog I would go find one.
    3. False – I think you call people out on their ideologies as Cinnamon describes. Polarizing opinions attract like-minded individuals and repel others. Look at Rush Limbaugh and Bill Maher, both with very loyal yet polar followings.
    4. False – REALLY? I take this as a generational ignorance of texting etiquette and find it rather cute and charming:)
    5.False – I think the proof of this is Your Majesty Grace’s participation in the blog. A man who treats people (especially women) disrespectfully would not have this evidential.

    Your Highness That Horse is Dead,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and sincerely.

  7. MissBlackbird

    1. False. The relations between the sexes are in a very bad state, but I think that the ones who feel “disrespected” by you are saying this because their choices and behaviour line up more with current standards ( eg. Shacking up, believing men think like women etc.)

    2. Generally false. You are allowed to be angry in your writing if you feel strongly about something, but I have hardly ever seen that here. You are concerned with helping people to have dignity and to set themselves on the best path in life. If this reader doesn’t agree with your views, then why does she continue to read? You respond appropriately to boorish comments. Most recently “Trups”.

    3. False. You are candid and straightforward. I think most readers appreciate this. You say things that “women never hear”, so some people are going to be offended because what you say doesn’t line up with what they have been taught, what they are doing now or what they feel like doing. There is no way around that. I find you very considerate, especially in your responses to comments.

    4. No. The caps is very helpful.

    5. No. I think you are respectful. There are lots of things to be unhopeful about because of the fallout of feminism, but I find your writings are uplifting because they are practical and forward-looking and you appreciate and are concerned with the dignity of both men and women. If you didn’t have a lot of respect and concern for other people you wouldn’t bother writing this blog.

    Your Highness Miss Blackbird,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and expansively.

  8. Sun


    -Nothing makes people angrier than the truth
    -Some people cannot handle experts, authority, or father figures, because they are so rare in society

    Keep doing what you are doing, it’s such important work and you have touched so many. Unfortunately these days, maybe you can’t make a difference without making people angry.
    God bless.

    Your Highness Sun,

    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly and thoughtfully.

    Incidentally, welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.


  9. 1. FALSE
    Au Contraire Sir Guy your accuser is so mistaken.
    You are the epitome of gallantry and respond to your readers
    as if we were nobility. You are our Knight in Shinning armour
    and protect us with your wisdom of “What Women Have No
    Clue About” when it comes to men. I am eternally grateful
    for the endless hours, thought and concern you have so
    generously given your court. As Always,
    Lady Vigilant

    Your Highnesss LadyVigilant,

    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and dynamically.

    Also, welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.


  10. Beloved

    Ok, I am going to be completely honest because that is what you are requesting. At times I catch a chauvinistic tone and that the problems of the world are all because of women. (Even though it is a man’s world?) However, DON”T CHANGE A THING! Another commenter called this blog a “gold mine” of information and I heartily agree. If I could give you a standing ovation, I would. I have a huge, college-sized binder full (FULL, as in I need another binder to keep going!) of articles of yours that I have printed out so I could highlight and study them. The information you provide here, as in not only articles but your answers to other readers comments, is priceless. Women don’t have grandmother’s advice anymore, the 21st century’s women have you! And how much better coming directly from a man than another woman? As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized anyway.”

    Your Highness Beloved,

    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and expressively. I like Eleanor’s quote too.

    Perhaps this will settle your reservations about my blaming women. The problems that women have in America arose out of the legal, political, and economic advancements (which I praise) that women made under radical political pressure energized and sustained by Feminism. Over the past seven or so generations (7 years per lifestyle generation) women learned to increasingly demean men for workplace behavior. However, they also took their animosities home. Husbands rebelled and found departure preferable to sticking around. (Let someone else put up with her crap, so they have been saying to one another for a couple decades.)

    Females’ social and domestic lives will continue to decline with each new generation until women mobilize and take advantage of these principles of nature.

    • As women go so goes society, but they are not adequately leading the way back or even forward to a more female-friendly society.

    • Younger women compete with men and copy their behavior, and it directly prevents recovery of female-friendliness. It also lures husbands into unfaithfulness that short-circuits loyalty (aka his love) to their wives.

    • Men do whatever women require in order for men to have frequent and convenient access to sex. Without moral, legal, and female-standardized obligations as the price men must pay for access, a male-friendly and more aggressively dominant society continues at the expense of female-friendliness. (The latest and most outrageous development for me can be read in Eric’s comment about the Manosphere at #2161.)

    • Women need religion and morality to establish and maintain cultural values, standards, and expectations. Both morality and religion are under attack, and some of it comes from women. Men don’t need and don’t want superior guidance unless necessary to help gain access to frequent and convenient sex.

    • Masculine-style sexual freedom shifts most social and domestic power to men. It’s that simple. Cheap and easy sex leads to female enslavement, kept in not-hard-to-imagine bondage by male values, standards, and expectations. Does it look that way yet to you? It does to me. (Also, porn watching grows rapidly among women.)

    So, any recovery from the current condition of women and children depends on how soon and well women take back control of their lives by denying sex outside of marriage. God, Nature, and hormones give them all the relationship expertise they need. But, if they don’t isolate themselves from playing man-games and use the power of their superior gender, then they continue to lose both the game and their ability to improve the lives of themselves and their children.

    So, in the end, Beloved. I see it this way. Women collectively but not individually are responsible for their social and domestic ailments. Individuals can only do the best they can with what they have where they find themselves right now. That’s the vacuum this blog tries to pressurize with a way out.


  11. My Husband's Wife

    I’ve been a reader for years now and have read almost every article on this site including the comments section. I have asked many questions of Sir Guy over the years so I’m quite familiar with his response style. Here are my answers:
    1. False.
    2. False.
    3. False.
    4. False. By-the-way, I use WordPress too and have noticed it has a limited ability to format text…among other things.
    5. Never.
    This site has been my lifeline, next to the Bible of course. Because of Sir Guy and the information I’ve learned, the questions he patiently answered (in caps), and the changes I’ve made as a result there is one more household in this world with a happy wife and a satisfied husband. It’s not perfect by any means, but I now have the tools to be a better relationship manager.
    (If this person isn’t a known reader over time, I would question it as being an internet troll.)

    Your Highness My Husband’s Wife,

    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so promptly, thoughtfully, and earnestly.

    Just a guess but I bet your husband married over his head.


    • My Husband's Wife

      Correction to the paragraph above: “It’s not perfect…” in the second to last sentence means my relationship, not the site. Reread and it sounded like I was referring to this site. The WWNH site is perfect!

      Your Highness My Husband’s Wife,
      Thanks for working on clarity but the original is quite clear. I like your last sentence above too much to change anything.

  12. gonemaverick

    1. false
    2. false
    3. false
    4. false
    5. false

    from follower of more than 5 year.

    Your Highness Gonemaverick,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and energetically.

  13. Sharon

    1. Never.
    2. On the contrary, you give the benefit of the doubt as to your readers’ intelligence. This regards the content, style, and prods to further learning that you present.
    3, 4, 5. No.

    I heartily applaud the comments from “Home-Schooled Scientist”; also, the caps facilitate ease and quickness in reading; and, along with the expanded explanations, illustrative scenarios, and historical citations, I appreciate your DIRECTNESS. (In so many lives, clarity and direction are unknowns. Instead, “fuzzy feelings” reign. That’s why some people will take offense at directness.)

    With your writings, you have given much thought, time, and love (for others, for our country, for God). You ARE being heard and heeded, with long-lasting effects rippling outward from each reader who benefits here.

    Your Highness Sharon,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and thoroughly. I too particularly appreciate Home-schooled Scientist’s remarks. She’s a newbie too.

    • Sharon

      P.S. My husband says your directness is part of your distinctive, and without it, you would lose the edge.

      Your Highness Sharon,
      Please thank him for me. I been thinking he married over his head, but maybe I was wrong this time, maybe you did.

      • Sharon

        Ahh, “iron sharpens iron.” I gave him your thanks. (He further stated, “PC is aimed at feelings, directness is aimed at the will.”)

        Your Highness Sharon,
        It appears you are surrounded by masculine wisdom. Tell him it’s a new item in my list of favored quotes that I publish periodically.

  14. “Absolutely not” to all five. True capitals are shouting but we realise WordPress is pretty limited in distinctive fonts and colours when one is making their reply clear.

    Who would knock godly clarity, strength, wisdom and paternalism?

    “There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing and be nothing.” Aristotle

    Your Highness Thankful,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and clearly.

  15. Sweet Tea

    Sir Guy, FALSE, to 1 – 5. I don’t have much to add because the ladies above have said it so beautifully. If I were to guess, my thought is whoever took you out to the woodshed, must be a long time reader or somebody you respect. I could be wrong, but I don’t think you would take the time to write this post and ask for our opinions if this were not the case. The fact that you would even ask shows your integrity, sincerity and loyalty to your audience. Thank you for all you have done and continue to do for us.

    Your Highness Sweet Tea,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so promptly, thoughtfully, and accurately presumptive about questioner.

  16. Tooconfused

    “I admit I found your style a little abrasive at times when I first came to WWNH many years ago, but for some reason I couldn’t put my finger on at the time, this blog fascinated me, and so I stuck with it. The more I watched you interact with others the more impressed I became, and the more I started to pay attention to what you had to say.”

    To reiterate cinnamon – this is exactly how I feel!!

    I remember my first times reading. It were the “devotion vs. Commitment” posts and the reasons why the differences were crucial. My first reactions were shock, disbelief, and the need to retaliate. But at the same time I couldn’t turn away. It was like looking at a 4 car accident on the highway. Who is this man and why is he ruining my life !!!!!

    Hemming and hawing I finally tried to understand why men fall and how women fall in love. You said while men try to uncover weaknesses in women so they can conquer her, he slowly uncovers her strengths. And then a lightbulb went off. Nobody had explained it so clearly before. I had no idea that guys were trying to “uncover weaknesses”. Before where as i’d add baking soda to muffins because i memorized that rule, I’m now adding baking soda because i understand it’s the thing that makes the muffins rise and fluffy. Or is that baking powder? Whatever, you get my point.

    Other women writers who promote female dominance in relationships tell you the “what” part. But they don’t say why. Like “the rules” book… They keep telling us to be scarce. They might say, “he’ll get tired of you”. And you’re like … So??? What else is new??? (The writer of that book is divorced BTW).

    But you’ll explain that he has simply conquered you and now sees you either as booty, part time lover or wife or a maintenance tool. But even if he marries you, you’ve lost some leverage as a wife. I think when people criticize the content here, they are uncomfortable with those terms. The very nature of the words “conqueror’s right” is going to sound like chalk screeching on a board to leftist fembots. “Female dominance” initially brought to mind female sumo wrestlers, for example. I was very scared. I think it’s your terms that turn immature minded people off. I don’t think you should change that though as those blunt terms are exactly the things that got me to change.

    The only thing that makes me mad about this blog is where was it starting in highschool! That is all.

    Your Highness Tooconfused,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and in your case so contrary to your screen name.

  17. Southern Belle

    False to all accusations sited. Your direct and unabashedly honest communications provide concise clarity and quite frankly reflect masculine nature. It is encouraging to know that men of character and moral courage can stand unabashedly against the tide of false “tolerance” that we currently live in. Sir Guy I believe we have a real chance to impact this next generation with the truth. Carry on faithful and courageous soldier that you are. We need you!

    Your Highness Southern Belle,

    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and unabashedly encouraging.

    Also, let me add a ‘welcome aboard’. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.


  18. Christine Smith

    Sir Guy,

    I shall answer as follows:

    1. Disagree 2. Disagree 3. Disagree 4. Disagree 5. Disagree

    I enjoy your writing very much. My one comment would be that I find that I must pay very close attention to your style of writing. Perhaps however, that is the point. Having to really concentrate means I am paying attention!

    I would not like to see you change your style in any way. It is a blessing to us all; one I wish I would’ve had years ago. It would have saved me much heartache.

    I hope this helps.

    Kind regards, Christine

    Sent from Christine’s iPhone


    Your Highness Christine Smith,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so speedily, thoughtfully, and helpfully.

  19. # 1,2,3,5 absolutely false. #4 Yes, uppercase is considered yelling. But, I know a gentleman like you would not yell at your audience. Perhaps you could use a different font color. You are greatly appreciated.

    Your Highness Lauraelizabeth4,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so promptly, thoughtfully, and suggestingly.

  20. Queenbee

    1.False – replies are concise and direct, and always courteous,
    2. False – you critique arguments and give your opinion – perhaps some readers interpret disagreement as criticism?
    3. False – again, you are an excellent communicator in that you are concise and make your points well. Your tone is respectful.
    4. Perhaps – I always understood you to be making the ‘print’ stand out, but I can see how all caps have the perception of extra ‘force’ It is a minor detail that is less likely to be misinterpreted by those who follow your blog regularly, I suspect.
    5. No – on the contrary, your frankness is evidence of the high respect that you have for your readers. You do us the honor of being honest and obviously (to me and my daughters) have nothing but good will toward all of your readers. Although, you do not suffer fools lightly or seem to take time to bandy with them . Thank God – what a tiresome read that would be.

    I read your blog to hear your thoughts and your responses. It seems to me that you respond as an adult who is addressing adults and I, for one, thank you.

    Your Highness Queenbee,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, d thoughtfully, and expressively.

  21. I’d say that your style is straightforward and brusque, but not in a rude way.

    For interspersing comments, I’d suggest using bold type instead of Caps Lock to set off your own comments as separate from the reader’s. Or leave a separate reply, perhaps copying a bit of each section of the original comment to identify what you’re replying to, if you do a point-by-point reply/rebuttal.

    Your Highness Kathy,

    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and helpfully.

    I tried more than a few times all three of your options. They consume too much time, too easily disrupt my main train of thought, lack clarity or readability, or leave me dissatisfied with my effort.
    Usually it’s all four but the last one serves as the arbiter. Thank you for stepping forward with suggestions; you exemplify a good helpmate.


  22. 1. Never
    2. No
    3. No
    4. Absolutely not
    5. No
    Sir Guy, you show great kindness. Pay no attention to the man behind the woodshed. I disagree with all accusations.

    Your Highness Sharonwithmaryandmartha,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and clearly.

    • Thank you, Sir Guy for calling me “pretty” when you have no idea of what I really look like. I know you say it to us all, but I take it quite personally and it makes me smile. I have hesitated to say, “handsome” to you because it makes me feel a little awkward. But, I do say it now: I do love it when such a handsome man takes his time to educate us women who are wanting to understand and please our husbands. Thank you, Sir Guy for that as well.

      Your Highness Sharonwithmaryandmartha,

      You energized some old thoughts that I tie together in new ways.

      • I don’t have to see you to know you’re pretty. All women have that conviction buried in their heart of hearts. However, some have it ‘stolen’ in childhood by incompetent caregivers or suppressed later by self-hating or jealous associates.

      • Men are born handy to compensate for lack of good looks. Anyway, their features have so little universal appeal that it isn’t that important. Contrary to women and how their looks can uplift their importance, how men look has little effect on their significance.

      • Women make a male’s appearance important, when they claim that male features attract them. Just as women are pretty but not truly beautiful until one man says they are, men are not handsome until one woman says they are.

      • Thanks for the ‘handsome’ label. Sometimes even distortions of truth can be made acceptable enough to ignore inaccuracy. Feminine charm does it best, and lordy, lordy doesn’t that charm make this a greater world to live in?

      Thanks for the payday, darling. Even before today, you’ve been becoming more of a favorite with your comments.


  23. Meow Meow

    Sir Guy, please don’t change a thing. This is your blog, and you have the right to write however you choose. I don’t mind the caps for your replies; I get that it isn’t meant to be “shouting” but only for clarity. I have never found there to be disrespect or anger in your tone: in fact I’d describe it as direct yet courteous, which is why I keep reading! This is especially helpful when describing difficult subjects, such as how men and women experience relationships, sex, jobs/unemployment, even orgasm differently! You are frank, blunt, and masculine in your writing style. Hemingway comes to mind!

    Your Highness MeowMeow,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and ‘complimentarily’.

  24. Mia

    Sir Guy,
    it is regrettable that recent criticism has gotten to you.
    Looking to better myself I started reading certain blogs around 2 years ago and this one is the only one I stuck with. I found the tone and environment of the blog very pleasing in that you don’t scold women for their mishaps and other readers treat each other respectfully. The way you address your readers in itself was so out of the ordinary that I needed to stick around. Also, your writing style is quite unique – very eloquent and well thought out. It reflects how much time and energy you put into it. I must also say, as someone trained in military theory I have always greatly appreciated your directness and sometimes militaristic approach to certain topics. (I’m thinking the shock and awe articles) The way you write makes me smile, because I can often relate to the way you think.

    I’d like to add: Not a feminist myself, I somehow bought into feminist indoctrination for a few years. I started to turn away from it two years ago, and your blog was instrumental in providing the backing to do so. Even if things haven’t gone my way, I feel much more at ease after having absolved myself from having to compete with men. The freedom that being able to be true to my feminine spirit has given me has been priceless, and I thank you and your readers for providing the encouragement. My one and only problem with your blog is that I often wonder whether I should believe all that you write. Years of feminist indoctrination have confused me. Thankfully your readers, especially the ones that offer their own expertise, put things into perspective.

    Yes, your blog is uncommon and daring because not in alignment with what goes today in content and style. You are bound to have critics of all sorts, so don’t be discouraged. As Clausewitz says, boldness governed by superior intellect is the true mark of a hero… 😉

    Your Highness Mia,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, beneficially, AND ENCOURAGINGLY.

    • Vashti

      Hi Mia!
      I love your last line “boldness governed by superior intellect is the true mark of a hero”….Great! I was never a feminist, even eons ago in college, but I didn’t have the exact reasons as to why I should follow the “old fashioned ways” in regards to male/female dynamics, so I veered off the narrow paths, and made shipwreck of my relationships by following the ways of the world, feminist illogic or not. But since finding Guys blog a few years ago, and finding the courage to put such wisdom into practice, I can say that my relationships with men in all aspects of my life have improved, and I am ever grateful to be a woman and rejoice in my femininity, instead of being ashamed of it. I never competed with men, but I was ashamed of my feminine nature. No more! Even for us women who thought we were not feminists….those ideas seep into our consciousness and we get indoctrinated by osmosis!….So I am glad that you found Guys blog and as a fellow woman, I just want to encourage you and say keep on keepin’ on!

  25. MLaRowe

    So I suppose your accuser is the one most perfect person in the world?

    We live in a sexist world. There is evidence of that everywhere one turns. Your blog is helpful in offering a different viewpoint for women to negotiate that fact.

    As a woman I have often turned to old school advice (first from my grandmother but now here) and found that it worked better for getting me what I truly honestly wanted.

    Yes, I do think that sometimes you have a bit of a superior attitude but there is a time and place for that attitude and I instantly overlook/forgive it because I know that your intentions are only completely honorable.

    Also your age and making a lifetime of good choices puts you in the position of one who is honored with wisdom. In other cultures (Japan comes to mind) people who have lived a long life are considered to be national treasures.

    Don’t change a thing, my friend. Not a thing. I would miss the authentic Sir Guy if you did.

    Your Highness MLaRowe,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond promptly, thoughtfully, clearly, and encouragingly.

  26. vashti

    1) No way!
    2) No way!
    3) Never seen that attitude from you
    4) Upper case letters do usually mean shouting but in your case I’ve never taken it that way.
    5) I have NEVER ONCE ( yes, I AM shouting) thought your words, whether in post or reply, were demeaning, disrespectful, or condescending to anyone. Yes, in regards to femi-nazi ideologues, your words could be construed as dissenting, but never rude or disrespectful. Sounds to me like this is a case of your accuser pointing one finger at you and three back at themselves. I ask the following question sincerely – Doesn’t the sir name of Satan mean “accuser” in Greek or Hebrew? We all perhaps need to think before we accuse.

    Your Highness Vashti,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond promptly, thoughtfully, and so supportively.

    • Vashti

      You’re welcome Guy! I have read most of the other insightful comments on this post, and couldn’t agree more. Your blog give us the “why’s” and
      “how’s” instead of just the “what’s” in regards to male/female dynamics in life. Your blog is THEE ONLY ONE OUT THERE (oh, my, I’m shouting again!) that gives the truth in this crazy, mixed up dark world. Since I’ve been putting the wisdom from here into practice, I can say that my relationships with men, not just in dating, but in the workplace, and with my teenage son, have vastly improved in my mind, however subtle in actual reality, I see the difference. Your wisdom proves that leftist lies can’t trump God’s divine order of things, and Nature always wins over feminist fakery. As another commenter said, the only thing I don’t like about your blog is that it wasn’t around when I was in high school! Ha,Ha….but you haven’t forgotten us older women and that’s what makes your blog NUMERO UNO in my heart!!

  27. Jen

    A definite No to all but 4, Sir Guy. All-caps is considered difficult to read and, yes, as ‘shouting’. Your bold-lettered responses are easier on both eye and mind. 🙂 Of course, you’re probably attempting to make your responses easier to find, but there you go.

    Your Highness Jen,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and honestly.

  28. Peach Blossoms

    1. Disagree.
    2. Disagree.
    3. Generally disagree. I think one has to keep in mind that communication on this blog can sometimes be misunderstood, and I’ve seen numerous instances where you apologised for being short with someone or misunderstanding what they said.
    4. Generally typing entirely in upper caps is “shouting” but since you’ve *always* prefaced it by saying that’s how you differentiate your answers, I never saw it as such. And I agree I wouldn’t want to read your response at the bottom of very long comments – often the context provided by the original comment is necessary.
    5. No. if it happens, I don’t think it’s intentional. You have to generalise pretty often in your writing and sometimes you hit a nerve, or many nerves, because you write about idealised and ideal females. But that’s what the comments section is for – to ask you to clarify what you meant.

    To your critic, all I have to say is, if you think this blog is disrespectful of women, you’re either being dishonest or haven’t explored the misogynistic echo chamber known as the manosphere.

    Your Highness Peach Blossom,
    Thank you, darling. I love it when pretty women respond so quickly, thoughtfully, and effusively.

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