2204. Compatibility Axioms #721-730


721. Feminism encourages women to value themselves individually, as men do. Femininity encourages women to value themselves as part of a couple, as Nature endows them. [250]

722. If her ex is going to be any different than he was in their first marriage, he needs to respect her more than before. Only that will make him favorably different and virtual virginity earns additional respect. [250]

723. Immature women expect that exchanging intimate knowledge with a man, especially sexual activity, will enable them to capture and hopefully keep a man. Nature works quite the opposite. [252]

724. Men appreciate what they pay for, and the more dearly they pay, the greater their appreciation. Pay, that is, with their interest, focus, time, manners, sacrifice, energy, laughter, fun, games, promises, mistakes, affection, commitment, politeness, devotion, and especially worry about losing her. [252]

725. Not knowledge but a man’s imagination keeps him interested in a woman. The promise of what lies ahead with her keeps her glued into his self-interest. [252]

726. From flirtation to conquest, each step completed along the way satisfies his knowledge but shifts a man’s curiosity to the next plateau of learning. The more he has to earn his way to each step, the more desirable she becomes. The longer she defers conquest, the more worthy she becomes. [252]

727. Mature women see a man’s energy turned to her as more important than his knowledge of her, desiring her as more important than having her, imagining her as more important than knowing her. [252]

728. If he wonders why she acts resistant to his come on, his imagination shifts toward finding out. If she’s not understandable, his imagination shifts toward her character and what motivates her. If character and motivation are mysterious, he becomes determined to explore her more deeply. [252]

729. Feminine mystique is all about creating curiosity and satisfying it ever so slowly. Her need for modesty, intimacy, and privacy stimulate his imagination to know more about her. [252]

730. Women could do better with this strategy: Generate maximum curiosity and satisfy it the least. Exploit manly curiosity to trigger masculine imagination. It works much better than making herself knowable and known without his having paid much in dedication, effort, and self-worry. [252]

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5 responses to “2204. Compatibility Axioms #721-730

  1. Anita

    Hi Mr. Guy!
    In 721. you mention “Feminism encourages women to value themselves individually, as men do”. But if a woman is not part of a couple, shouldn’t she value herself individually, and when she is part of a couple as well? Does this point apply until they are married? Thank you again!

    Your Highness Anita,

    Good question but I say not. The female from girlhood considers herself as part of an imagined couple and worthy of herself more when she’s with the real or imagined version, does she not?

    As to Feminism encouraging women to value themselves individually, the implication is that she never needs a man to be of value to herself.
    If not clear or you disagree, please bring it to me.

    Guy

    • Anita

      Mr. Guy,
      I think I see your point. I do believe in valuing oneself individually, but at the same time I have always thought of myself as part of a couple. I don’t know when or with whom, I just know it in my soul that I am meant to be with someone in marriage, and I am willing to do whatever it takes to get there.

      Thank you!

      Your Highness Anita,
      You say, “I do believe in valuing oneself individually, but at the same time I have always thought of myself as part of a couple.” Feminism takes that away; feminists deny it as part of the female nature with the expectation you will think more like a man.
      Guy

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