2268. Love Ballads, Jukebox


Look what a fantastic jukebox someone sent me. The builder of this deserves great honor.

I pass it to you ladies to listen to very popular love ballads from back in the day. Back when the male gender respected the female gender more than its own and vice versa; it doesn’t get much closer to unconditional respect than that.

You may want to hear the loving words and music but also pay attention to the respect that underwrites the words that suggest respectable men very respectful of women. In those days, boys and men didn’t hit brazenly on women. They gently nudged themselves in close like respectable innocents seeking acceptance before advancing further. Listen to the song LINDA for the clearest expression of the idea. It’s how girls used to teach boys to be mannerly instead of overly bold and abrasive to female sensibility.

As I write this, I enjoy the section in the right column at top of home page titled “#1 Hits: 1945-1949.” Each at one time hit the top of the best 40 chart or Hit Parade. A lot of ballads are there. Some comic, silly, but popular ones are included> Some will make you laugh and perhaps smirk; culture shock, you know. In those days, this was mostly adolescent territory; they bought most of the records.

If you’re after love ballads, I suggest you move about pretty much in the 1930s through the 1950s and maybe a few in the 1960s.

P.S. I forgot something. You like romance? The love ballads taught boys about romance, what it is and what to do about it to please girls. Girls taught them the HOW of it. How do guys learn about romance today? It’s not part of the male nature.



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11 responses to “2268. Love Ballads, Jukebox

  1. jubilee

    THANK YOU for posting this!!
    its right ‘up my alley’
    my favorite era is from 1955-1963 ‘mostly’; although I liked newer songs, they have to be SPECIAL
    and regarding the song LINDA what ive heard;.. “when I go to sleep…” etc, I’ve heard it was written for a baby girl.. LINDA MC CARTNEY in the 1940’s
    before she met Paul…LOL–her dad was a record company owner

    I knew something was ‘wrong’ when they STOPPED WRITING SONGS with womens’ names in them
    the name DIANA/DIANE has TWO.. Kathy, has two..one not so famous
    and what they name girls these days… its a wonder

  2. Miss Gina

    I loved “Linda”!

    Yes, we can learn a lot from these old songs.


  3. Eric

    I think they stopped making songs about these kinds of women after these kinds of women largely disappeared. Music is actually a masculine profession; and ‘as women go, so goes society.’

    • A.GuyMaligned

      Sir Eric,

      You’re right. It happened this way.

      Post-WWII prosperity enabled parents to prevent their children doing without as they had in the Great Depression. The mixture of new wealth and good intentions opened the door for commercial interests to make impulse consumers out of adolescents.

      Romance drowned as rock ‘n roll music inspired girls to find instant gratification and play with boys instead of deferred gratification and train boys for domestic life.

      I married into the last generation of girls that thought domestic life more promising than up-close and personal adventuring with boys.


      • Eric

        Sir Guy,
        I’ve been watching a TV series from the 1950s that I saw as a kid on re-run. The lead character is a private detective, but it’s amazing watching how dynamics played out back then. In the show, he has a steady girlfriend but everytime he tries to get close to ‘conquest’, she starts talking about getting married and having kids. It’s similar to how depict things here, because he has women throwing themselves at him all the time, but he’s loyal to his chaste girlfriend and keeps working harder for her.

        The depressing thing is contrasting that to modern women and having to deal with them instead. In fact, I doubt if many would be interested in a man like that.

        Sir Eric,

        You describe the standard romance storyline that was used until new storylines began to appear in the late fifties. TV, movies, and love ballad music taught boys and men about romance, family responsibility, and what girls and women could expect if females played their role correctly. If females act natural, boy chases girl dedicated to remaining chaste. Women thus kept life simple; they prioritized life according to that one principle. It enabled them to relate on their terms and ‘forced’ men to relate on feminine terms. Men were forced to marry to earn a gal’s loyalty to relate on masculine terms.

        As feminism convinced women to blame men, it confused women about how to relate. Over time women concluded almost universally they should act more like men. Feminism promoted it.

        However, women didn’t or couldn’t abandon their natural motivational baseline, which bastardized their motivational drive and produced results that further confused the female mind, and which today earns disrespect in the male mind.

        She tries to bond with sex but men don’t. She abandons modesty to be liked and men don’t respect her. She forgoes mystery that fires up the male imagination in favor of full disclosure that suppresses male curiosity. She expects boyfriend to be loyal to her but she doesn’t first earn his respect. She expects husband to be faithful but tries to change him. She builds his castle on fashion and her reputation with women and disregards his desire for a functional recovery and resting place. She weakens his comfort and daily recovery by trying to be a perfect wife or housekeeper. She tortures him with petty requests to do what she can easily do herself. She commands his presence without respecting his other obligations. She doesn’t respect his family but she wants them to do what she expects. She ranks her children over her man and expects him to peacefully play second fiddle to her music score. She ignores her heart by letting others convince her its undependable to protect and promote her interests.

        By trying to act more like men, women confuse themselves. They are unable to produce the outcomes they long for. Men wish it were otherwise, but modern women are propagandized to listen to women instead of men. It’s more a gender than individual happening; by blaming men, women escape guilt for relationship failures. Just as the radical feminists anticipated it five decades ago.


        • Sharon

          Sir Guy, you articulate the confusion so well. Your 4th paragraph is particularly pointed, with regard to wives’ one-sided expectations and demands.

          It’s disheartening to see the errors played out even in the churches, with the snug pants or cleavage-revealing, bare-back, high-rise dresses young women (20’s to 40’s) wear, the number of divorces in that age group, and the self-imposed segregation of younger women away from older women, as they instead seek “counsel” from their peers.

          They believe they are “freer” than their mothers and will bristle (or rage) at the least hint it is otherwise. So many are like the frog in the slow boil; they are ignorant (or in denial) of the destructive elements of feminism all around them — to the detriment of their own happiness and well-being, what they model for their children, and their contribution to the downward trends in society and the culture.

          I have asked “Why are the FATHERS of these girls silent, sitting next to their scantily clad teen daughters in church?” I guess feminism is the answer: the wives yield to “fashion” and the husbands are cowed, in their mutual confusion and/or ignorance.

          • Eric

            Miss Sharon:
            I meet a lot of women in these age groups, and I’d wager that over half these ‘fathers’ you see are actually step-fathers or live-in boyfriends of the mothers. They sit silently by because they want to curry the children’s favor so as not to cause problems with their wives.

            I don’t ask women I meet anymore about their fathers. It’s actuslly uncommon to meet one whose biolgical father is still marriaed to her mother and living with her. I’ll bet at least 1/3 of women I meet today have no idea who their fathers are.

            • Miss Gina

              Sir Eric,

              I don’t doubt the truth of what you say, yet I have seen this very thing even in numerous intact families in church. In fact, even in the homes of people I thought were godly, including our pastor. Needless to say, we don’t attend those churches anymore, and most of those marriages did eventually break up (after kids were grown) including the marriage of that pastor. In my opinion, there is no excuse for this in the church. It’s a sign the father has caved and surrendered headship in the home. Yet in my opinion, anyone who reads and lives by the Bible should find modesty and traditional roles obvious and basic requirements to please God. IMHO this is where we are missing it: feminism in the church. Thank you for your contributions in the other direction.

              • Sharon

                Miss Gina,
                You make excellent points: “father has surrendered headship” and “anyone who reads and lives by the Bible should find modesty . . . and basic requirements TO PLEASE GOD.” (caps mine) And that is where we go wrong: living to please ourselves, rather than our Creator.

            • Sharon

              Sir Eric, you introduce another alarming element in today’s cultural confusion — one I had not considered — that a large percentage of women may not even know who their fathers are. Stepfathers or live-ins trying to be “in good” with children and their mothers is a real possibility. Actually, I was thinking of families I know, where the original parents are together and sitting with their daughters in church services.

  4. Eric

    Miss Sharon & Miss Gina;
    I’m speculating some here about the churches. Out here in the Ultra-Liberal West Coast, the only women I ever see in church are 1-2 generations OLDER than me, so modesty isn’t much of an issue. lol

    According to the 2010 Census, only about 25% of children under 12 live with both their biological parents in the US today. Just thinking back to the last 10 women I’ve courted for a month or longer, the numbers are: both parents, 5; step-father, 1; no father, 4.

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