2319. Compatibility Axioms #991-1000


991. Married or unmarried sex doesn’t provide what men naturally seek in a mate. Overall, sex provides little or no sense of permanency in a man and little or no incentive to be faithful. [319]

992. Her first refusal to yield costs him little, except it urges him to try harder. Persistent refusal before conquest brings out his character. Nothing else so effectively brings out a man’s character, strengths, and weaknesses. [323]

993. Women want to choose which men hit on them, so they take offense when ‘unwanteds’ do it. This attitude prompts women to reject men personally instead of refusing them impersonally. Masculine violence rises against women that don’t honor the difference between rejection and refusal. [323]

994. Women have a far superior and unique capability to make choices dealing with the opposite sex, and it automatically guards their self-interest. Except for sex, men don’t worry about self-interest except as the opposite sex forces them to broaden their interest. [323]

995. Men believe their eyes. Women believe their ears. It’s the greatest of compliments for a man when—as expressed in the 1944 movie “Laura” via Surfercajun—her listening is more eloquent than speech itself. Such a listener is essentially saying, I believe you and all that you say. It’s difficult to find a greater compliment for a man other than for sexual ability or performance.

996. Men are aroused by their imagination. Women are aroused by HIS touching of erogenous zones.

997. Orgasm in not the prime mover for initiating sex. For men, it’s penetration and making good use of an erection. Women are primed for and by the need of intimacy.

998. Men are attracted by female physical attractiveness. Women are attracted by manly ability to compete well among men, to stand out mentally or physically, and to have potential to earn greater significance.

999. Women are primarily givers, which fades if their hard-heartedness expands. Men are primarily takers, which fades when their hearts soften from aging and female influence.

1000. Virginity impresses the male nature because of all those other guys who haven’t been there before. Many men crave the distinction of being first. It impresses women because they mistakenly think it’s the female asset that men treasure the most.

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11 responses to “2319. Compatibility Axioms #991-1000

  1. Shanna

    Mr Guy,
    #992- Is there any particular thing that brings out a woman’s character? I often hear men speak about a woman’s character being revealed if a broke (relatively) man shows interest, or her man suddenly loses his money/status.
    #993- Does personal rejection and impersonal refusal depend on the level on which the woman is acquainted with the man?

    Your Highness Shanna,

    “#992- Is there any particular thing that brings out a woman’s character?” Yes, the way she acts when facing something that threatens to dull, take away, or not produce a brighter future for her. Your examples are very good.

    “#993- Does personal rejection and impersonal refusal depend on the level on which the woman is acquainted with the man?” Women typically let it. But they learn better and faster how to handle men effectively when they refuse all men alike, whether acquainted or not. By always refusing impersonally, women give men no reason to feel demeaned, and consequently earn more respect of men for women.

    It works this way. Make it personal and she effectively blames the guy for being inadequate or worse for her, which contradicts the male nature that tells him he’s adequate for all women. (He’s thinking of sex.) Make it impersonal and he concludes that she’s in charge of her life; she respects him enough to let him down easily and without blame even if he was offensive at the start.

    Guy

  2. prettybeans

    #996 – really Sir Guy? I don’t think it is so for women..what say you ladies?

    Your Highness Prettybeans,

    Does this rephrasing clarify it AND change your opinion?

    “996. Men are aroused by their imagination. Women are aroused by HIS touching of erogenous zones.”

    Guy

    • Magnolia

      Prettybeans, I thought the same thing. I think maybe Sir Guy meant being touched in erogenous zones (as in foreplay). Let’s see what he says.

      Your Highness Magnolia,
      Yes, thank you for reading it as intended. I’ve since clarified it.
      Guy

    • surfercajun

      Must have missed the playoffs here…..

      I do partially agree with prettybeans… touching a woman (in a foreplay manner) while doing the dishes is NOT sexy…just like interrupting a guy with a sexy nightly while he is concentrating on work does not compute.

      I promise you, it is NOT welcomed.

  3. prettybeans

    Yes that sounds just about right and makes a significant difference though I’m not of the view that the physical technique focused on erogenous zones is as crucial for a woman. I think that foreplay could potentially include actions by a husband that communicate care and concern – taking out the trash, warming up the car before work, calling to say hello.

    Your Highness Prettybeans,
    You sound typical of a woman who has high self-esteem, a good self-image, and a strong sense of self-importance. The actions you describe—taking out the trash, warming up the car before work, calling to say hello—confirm that you’re very important to him. You’ve made your relationship successful and it makes you feel both friendlier and yearn for intimacy, which makes your erogenous zones become sensitive. Just a few emotional thoughts that you are important is sufficient to prepare your body for arousal.
    Guy

  4. Tooconfused

    Just when I thought I learned so much from this site I keep learning more and more. Great list and the previous post clarified some things for me.

  5. Beloved

    991.” Married or unmarried sex doesn’t provide what men naturally seek in a mate. Overall, sex provides little or no sense of permanency in a man and little or no incentive to be faithful.” So, Sir Guy, what exactly does provide what men naturally seek in a mate? What provides incentive to be faithful? I know you’ve said it before like likeability, but, anything else? I need repeats unfortunately.

    Your Highness Beloved,

    You ask, “what exactly does provide what men naturally seek in a mate?”

    Answer: Everything you are to a man that makes him see promise that you’re the one he needs to support him in his earthly endeavors.

    That’s the simplest I can make it. The details you reach for are mostly described in articles 2025 and 2026 and in the comments to readers that are included below each article.

    You ask, “What provides incentive to be faithful?”

    Answer: Many things that come under the subject of his devotion. May I suggest you review these articles, 885, 1231, 1434-1439, 1816-1822, 1906, and 2063.

    Keep this in mind. You and he can be loved without being likeable or likeable without being loved. Likeable is the macro condition, love is the micro. I know that flies in the face of female thinking, but just acknowledging the concept can add permanence to a relationship.

    Guy

    • Beloved

      Thank you, this list of other articles helps so much!

    • Cinnamon

      Sir Guy,

      Are these three equations correct?

      1. (Likeability) + (Love) equals Devotion.

      2. (Likeability) + (No Love) does not equal Devotion.

      3. (No Likeability) + (Love) does not equal Devotion.

      Your Highness Cinnamon,
      Thank you, thank you for the formulas. You’ve inspired me and triggered new thoughts to clarify the subject. You enabled me to work out the relationships between four important terms. It looks to become the next article, 2321.
      Guy

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