How we act differently reshapes our feelings. New or different actions program the heart and subconscious mind with new or different feelings, which affect subsequent actions and feelings. The sexes, however, are born differently for dealing with it.
In the normal course of everyday events, women’s actions follow their feelings. They easily express feelings both in words and actions. More outgoing than men, they believe and hope to be better understood when others know them well, better, or just how they feel about things. It adds to their self-importance to believe others understand them well. Consequently, when women take up new and different actions, their feelings change accordingly. It makes women more susceptible and receptive to change whereas men are not and are naturally the opposite.
Contrary to the female sex, men let their actions disclose who they are and what they are good for. Humans are emotional decision makers, but men primarily keep their feelings and motivations hidden for good and natural reasons. Their own emotions interfere with their natural proclivity to seek logic and reason to overrule female emotionalism. IOW, it’s also a part of male dominance.
Other natural reasons exist to justify keeping a man’s feelings private.
1) In the world of natural masculine competition, if one’s competitor knows the emotional connections behind one’s objectives and what prompts their decisions, the ‘enemy’ has the advantage of being able to use it. This natural protective technique keeps men from being expressive about their feelings to women. Reluctance flows from instinct: a) It may be used against them. b) In a woman’s eyes he may be found wanting, because feelings to men are not as ‘legitimate’ as their actions. c) Women are quick to criticize. (However ‘constructive’ they try to make it, to men it’s still criticism because men have to believe they know better. Again, it’s part of male dominance.)
2) Men measure their worth by accomplishments. They expect their actions to speak for them. They don’t have much respect for those who question their feelings and therefore actions and therefore self-worth. OTOH, females measure their worth by their sense of importance to others. Also, women who lack a good knowledge of male nature tend to measure men by female standards, which men resist and resent.
3 )Men seek not to explain or disclose their emotions. They focus their interest and effort onto external rather than internal matters. Whatever they do feel is normal is just the way they are. It’s a naturally accepted premise that flows out of measuring their worth through accomplishments and not through associations with others.
4) Men believe and act to keep their feelings under wraps except as needed to enlarge their persona for the moment. If supreme calmness, frustration, or anger is appropriate to accomplish their objective, they may show it.
New and different actions reshape one’s feelings. Women much more easily than men allow such reshaping of their feelings. However, men usually and purposely hide any such reshaping even if they do change. Men just don’t want their true and complete feelings revealed; it’s goes against instinct.