One masculine instinct initiates male-female turmoil. The predominant side of male sex drive serves as the crown of the dominant sex. Women accept without understanding it. Consequently, they don’t handle men very successfully in order to promote and protect female self-interest.
Her Highness Surfercajun at 2323 inquired, “What makes an unfaithful man?” Simple answer: The way he’s designed, produced and energized to live. IOW, the male nature.
As a hunter-conqueror he’s hardwired with a highly unique and primal urge to conquer every attractive female that he encounters and even dreams of some unmet. His urge activates at sight. Conquer so he can move on to another target. The cheaper and easier the conquests, however, the more the genders grow polarized as permanent combatants rather than unmarried competitors followed by cooperative mating.
The naturally equivalent primal urge is woman’s dedication to fulfill her female hopes and dreams, which usually means to mate with a good man for life. She dedicates herself to enhancing her future; no instantaneous decisions for her.
The behavior of modern women promotes the interests of the dominant while demoting the interests of the superior gender. It worsens their subjection by males and virtually eliminates their ability to achieve their childhood hopes and dreams. As the result, girls who naturally dream big grow into women who specialize in disappointment, loneliness, or hopelessness even though they may have married.
It need not be that way. Certain conditions coax and coach the majority of men to be faithful as happened before the 1960s and the cultural and sexual revolutions. It’s old school, but unified womanhood worked this way. Women shape cultural values and standards to generate mutual gender respect, shame cheaters and betrayers of females, train boys to honor expectations about female hopes and dreams, domesticate men individually to honor with fidelity those they respect, and uplift the male gender as highly valuable. Womanhood was helped along as real manliness developed into requiring men to associate with others of their ilk; those of similar development who also bought into being faithful.
Men tend to be faithful according to how well women coax, coach, and convince their man with hero worship. The higher she promotes what he does and who he is as hero-worthy to her, then the higher his sense of significance and the tighter it squeezes his conscience to remain honorable to her.
Provided he respects her and his conscience has not been scorched, what kind of person betrays someone who honors them as hero? His love adds luster to her resolve and admiration, disrupts his thinking about other women, smoothly reorients his thinking toward the future with her, and so he doesn’t cheat. His temptations are not removed. They are dulled sufficiently to make his conscience fool-proof.
Women, as the superior gender, are capable of standardizing their behavior in support of common values, standards, and expectations that promote female friendliness and minimizes male dominance. If women don’t, male dominance subjects females to treatment as a lower and controllable class.
Women blame men for the male-female turmoil. And, the root is male nature. But, women are not members of the superior gender for nothing. They can help themselves to a better life, but to do so they have to master the better handling of men as our foremothers learned to do.
It starts with one idea: Women make men obligate themselves and yield some independence in order to earn a woman’s greatest gift—first sex with her, and nothing else works.
The crux is conquest, not the lure of sex. The greater his conquering accomplishment registers within him, the greater his self-admiration, satisfaction with his achievement, and significance as a man. Her yielding only after he exhausts all his manly skill, intimate talent, and emotional legerdemain convinces him that he must be her hero. (Her giving it away guarantees something close to the opposite effect; men do not appreciate unearned gifts nor the givers. They are doers, achievers.)
He sees their relationship this way. Earning her ‘gift’ entitles him to ‘own’ her and their sexual agenda and qualifies him to dominate their future. It’s his hardener part of the epoxy that will keep them together.
But she’s the resin side of the epoxy. When a woman makes conquest a man’s greatest achievement in his life, she practically ‘owns’ him, because she perfected the art of handling him in ways that he loves her for it. After that, she need only tug gently to get her way. Their two-part epoxy seals them together for fulfilling her childhood hopes and dreams.
The next subject is male-female friendship. Can it succeed without sexual connection?