Tactical Parenting: Encourage Infants
Infants. The foundation of life-long self-appreciation develops before a person’s conscious mind opens. It lasts virtually unchanged as a subliminal appendage to their self-image that develops later.
Self-esteem is the basis of how a person likes himself as a person. He is taught by caregivers to like or not like himself as a human. Not as male or female, which develops later and not their various roles in life which develop even later.
- Mothers know this instinctively but it’s not natural to men. Shower an infant with love, kind nurturing, and a quiet and undisturbed life and the result is healthy. Such intense interest automatically conveys motherly interest and respect. The absence of such tender loving care (TLC) causes unhealthy programming of the subconscious mind. Either result remains with the child throughout life.
- Self-esteem develops as a reflection of how an infant is treated by mother and caregivers. Gentle, quiet, and non-disruptive care with much touching and prevention of discomfort reflect the interest and high regard of others, which generates high self-esteem. Thus, the basic model of successful human relating begins in infancy.
- To the degree those caregiver inputs above are opposite of TLC, self-esteem develops as less and lower. Ignore, scare, bring on sudden disruptions, and maltreat an infant and it breeds low self-esteem that can hit bottom. Reflecting off cruel and mistreating caregivers who most likely loath themselves, the infant’s absorbent subconscious mind becomes permanently programmed with self-loathing and even self-hatred. (Out of whom later and too easily can emerge psychopaths and sociopaths.)
- The infant’s subconscious brain continuously hard-wires itself until the conscious mind opens in the third year of life. After that, development of self-image slowly overrides self-esteem as motivator. As a subset of self-image, self-like as male or female develops from success and failure as they fulfill the various roles in their lives. More and more, as the hard-wired self-esteem as a person fades into background, conscious judgments and decisions prevail based on self-image and self-like as developed by male or female with their personal successes and failures.
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