At 2360 Her Highness Anon… asked: “Does anyone think the MGTOW movement will get popular or is it because modern women don’t know how to get the men to marry them?”
Both Eric and Some Other Guy are better observers of current social and domestic practice than I am, so I hope they join in.
Much of what women think they know about men is wrong. Women may listen to men but heed only what other women say. Women have cred but men don’t. They heed political activists and political correctioneers, who also hide the impact their propaganda has on men.
The political movement that follows feminist thought is so full of put downs on men, insults to their nature, that they have few ways to soothe with mental ointment the ego-busting disbelief of women in masculine significance. It’s the primary cause of Men Going Their Own Way.
Will it get more popular? Yes, if we don’t change the political direction by which this country is governed. But that’s another story.
MGTOW is the result of men unwilling to accept PC expectations and the societal fallout of Feminism. They refuse to accept as okay having to put up with what they see as insulting, insufferable, and intolerant women. It’s their worldview, which is a belief, which is a major factor beneath human motivation.
Armed with laws, public opinion, and PC backup, a growing number of women offend men. They tromp easily on what they call the male ego but bellyache about men tromping on female sensibility. Women expect sensitivity but too easily withhold it from men. Example: They autocratically blame men for both social and domestic problems; ‘men are just no damn good’. That thought floats in their subconscious mind to underwrite blame for what every guy does wrong.
Although the only relationship experts, women don’t work out issues on a couple basis. Rather, they use government, public opinion, legal threats, and political correctness to apply pressure to get the woman’s way. IOW, WGTOW.
Whatever offends trumps whatever is deserved. In the natural course of social and domestic intercourse, you can’t for very long get what you deserve by offending the deliverer. Women know it instinctively, but they’ve fallen prey to different thinking.
Contrary to what feminists and many others believe, women can’t act like men and expect to be treated like women (except by men who have converted to feminist ideology and are willing to treat them as faux males). It doesn’t work; it’s also why women can’t get men to marry.
Men seek to marry virtuous women. Virtue is any female quality admired by a man. Men admire feminine but not masculine qualities, chastity but not promiscuity, and soft- but not hard-heartedness.
Men also see virtue in smiles and not frowns, hints and not nagging, validation and not blame, confidant and not critic, cheap date and not cheap sex, neatness and not sloppiness, cheeriness and not grumpy, clean and not trashy, appealing and not ugly, proud and not boastful, and pretty if not ignored in her habits. Without seeing virtues piled upon virtues, men just don’t marry or stay that way very long.
Women deserve what they get according to what they do. When women lead from their hearts, men follow, except as they lose interest. It happens when women lack respect for who men are and what they do. Then men fight back. One strategy today is for men to join up together to go their own way. To them, women are useful subjects to be exploited for sex but little else.
MGTOW grows in response to WGTOW and more of the latter begets more of the former. The growth of popularity depends on women who shape popular opinion.
Old school WIVES use to determine cultural values, standards, and expectations that shaped the way people act in society and, thus, popular opinion.
Modern celebrities, media, and political activists now shape it. Some singles marry up. As wives they learn that modern values don’t work all that well when trying to generate harmony in their homes, living with a husband, trying to keep their man, or raising kids to match a good mom’s expectations. Following new school custom, they blame husband and he either flees or changes such that she flees. It’s foreseeable but doesn’t seem preventable; WGTOW in a marriage is toxic. Admittedly an afterthought, but so is MGTOW.
WGTOW seems to be growing, so MGTOW will likely follow. Until, that is, women learn that men follow what women expect and not what they demand. Men prefer feminine charm and comfortable connections and reject offense and bitter separation. But if women don’t want to play the feminine game, men will find something else to do. As we all should have learned by now, women write, produce, act, direct, and award their own Oscars in the play of life with a mate.