At 2361 Her Highness Beloved described some past domestic conditions:
“I just saw something on the whole temperance issues of the late 1800’s where men were going and spending their entire paycheck on booze, getting drunk, beating and maybe raping their wives (who obviously had nowhere to go to be safe) and it was women’s DEMANDS that had to make this stop.”
It provides an opportunity to explain a little more of what women never hear.
From the mid-1800s, early in the Industrial Revolution with massive changes arriving daily in society, the suffragettes used booze, intemperance, and wasting of paychecks as anecdotal evidence to advance their agenda. Their political movement resulted in Prohibition and the right to vote 70 years later.
My point is ONLY this: If it had been as bad as feminists now claim, many more women would have become suffragettes, joined the movement, and gotten results many years earlier. Anecdotal evidence is good for political argument but it neither provides much political pressure nor contributes much to improving society.
Historical evidence shows that this nation for three centuries has melded and merged two strongly male-dominated religions into our female-dominated Judeo-Christian culture. American society has been in continual shaking that has resulted in upgrading the status and treatment of women. Most of it done in the home under the influence of wise women. Prohibition and right to vote are salient outside-the-home accomplishments.
Women are born to BE good in their own eyes and get there when they DO good. Men are born very different. Born with no interest to BE good, they are, however, born capable to DO good. It takes women—from birth through puberty especially but also beyond—to influence males to motivate themselves to DO good so that they learn to BE good, which is essential for women and children to benefit from a man’s presence and help fulfill female hopes and dreams.
American freedom enabled women to do that. Wives encouraged husbands to build and bring home the prosperity of their labors. Combined, the life of females continually improved over three centuries. Where else have wives and mothers done so well? Middle East, Asia, Africa?
As women go, so goes society. At the macro level, men follow the female lead. Women establish and maintain whatever values, standards, and expectations people live by. Not churches, not men, not businesses, but women; they have the freedom and make the final choices at the micro level—home—that compound into the results we see at the macro level—society.
If it actually means anything except to political activists, we still have a patriarchy in name, but a matriarchy in effect. What women want, they can have, but they have to get what they want most—marriage, family, and extended family—by exploiting the male gender that surrounds them with masculine expertise.
(Of course, those that don’t want to birth and raise a family have freedom to do otherwise, but they also set other values, standards, and expectations that infringe and weaken family stability and a wife’s progress. Much as we see happening today with celebrity worship, demeaning of certain groups, women stealing husbands, and hatred overpowering love as the cardinal principle for guiding one’s life.)
Balance used to be achieved by wives dominating home and culture, and husband dominating workplace and society. Wives dominated the family future, and husbands dominated the family present-day. It put wives in the role of being able to lead husbands indirectly. When all wives do it, men are encouraged to dominate their place in society for the primary purpose of promoting the best interest of their own family.
Merry Christmas to all, and to all, a “Do right.”