2380. PROVERBS — Marriage 01

  1. A kindhearted woman sends subconscious signals that she’s grateful for others, which makes her important to them.
  2. A man dumps his wife of many years for a trophy. He seeks to start over; he can gain a new sense of significance, which he likely lost with his ex.
  3. A man’s interest emerges from his primal readiness to compete, which makes him focus on today and its problems. He can handle tomorrow.
  4. A man’s love works this way. He’s loyal to her because she’s likeable to him. He expects reciprocity. She’s loyal to him because he’s likeable to her.
  5. A man’s sense of significance rests upon his woman’s faithfulness—and especially his not having to face men who have known her.
  6. A wife has free will and freedom of choice to submit or not. She isn’t owned but encouraged by her nature to fulfill hopes and dreams—ultimately.
  7. A woman instinctively needs a brighter future for her and her children. She seeks security of life, dependable relationships, and family cohesiveness.
  8. Accused men defend themselves by disproving the evidence presented. Debate changes his faults into failures in her eyes. He gets worse as prophecy fulfills.
  9. Budgeting generates good self-discipline to minimize the effects of bad habits. New habits can put mind over money instead of plastic over mind.
  10. Capturing a man is easy. Keeping him is not. It’s her burden. Her nature seeks togetherness; his seeks independence, and sex doesn’t end his urge for it.


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4 responses to “2380. PROVERBS — Marriage 01

  1. Miss Gina

    Dear Sir Guy,

    #8: Accusations come very easily to women. However, experience proves they almost never have the desired effect. Rather, they will trigger this defensive reflex. If you have concrete suggestions for how to work around this, they’d be welcome.

    Your Highness Miss Gina,

    • If you’re not trying to make everything perfect, you’ll come up with fewer accusations.

    • Not always the case but it’s best to start from this point. A man never does anything wrong in his eyes. When he does, he fixes it as soon as practicable. So, when you spot something wrong and call it to his attention, you effectively blame him.

    • Always find a way to deal with a man without blaming him. You’ve got the smarts and talents to avoid it.

    • What you see as wrong, husband will disagree. Being functionally oriented, he will either find you wrong or try to improve on whatever is bothering you but not bothering him.

    • Relationship experts (aka you) are born with feminine charm (aka friendly influence), indirectness (aka hints, seed planting), and patience (aka wait for seeds to sprout and influence to take effect).


    • Miss Gina

      Thank you, Sir Guy. 🙂 Sometimes the patience part just seems…ugh! But I know that you are correct that correction doesn’t work.

  2. Sarina

    Sir Guy, could I call you one of a kind? As commentators, most of us find your advice valuable, but I dare to say it’s unique. Where else on the www can we find such a perspective from a man? Hardly anywhere else.

    See, I was trying to make a comparison. There are countless male ‘gurus’ or dating experts that offer common sense advice about men, saying how being pushy or desperate is a turn-off, promoting a more feminine approach, similar things you’ve mentioned on this blog, however none of these male love experts promote abstinence until marriage! They usually say wait 3 dates or more, but they’re totally against waiting too long. And they also have a special section for guys on how to push for sex easily…they’re full of contradiction. Also, I dare to say, plenty of them are still single which is weird considering their expertise on women or maybe that’s their lifestyle, they use techniques to meet and hook up with as many women as possible.

    • curlyblondy

      dear sarina.

      exactly. i too have read blogs written by men who write about women’s influences, but then the writer himself has mostly short-term relationships and unmarried at an advanced age. it’s as if they want to influence women to be the best possible (to them) one night stand.

      Your Highness Curlyblondy,
      Very observant. It’s indirect evidence that men don’t respect the female gender; they keep trying to fool you instead of winning your favor with their character, their strength, their ability. They hope to take the easy way into your bed with words rather than earning it with actions.

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