2390. PROVERBS — Marriage 03

  1. Ardent femininity by older women encourages youngsters to duplicate what they see and hear. Masculinized women confuse young girls.
  2. Boyhood freedom from womanly influence promotes greater male disregard for females. Female independence worsens it.
  3. By listening to mom and grannie, girls learn to improve on their ability to tame and harness male dominance into fulfilling female hopes and dreams.
  4. Experience with many easy-pushover girls teaches boys this: Females don’t deserve respect, token commitment works, and devotion is unnecessary.
  5. Four conditions characterize male love. She’s likeable to him. He’s loyal to her. He’s likeable to her. She’s loyal to him. Otherwise, love is too risky for him.
  6. Guilt powerfully motivates women but men not nearly as much. Laying guilt on a husband produces unintended consequences, usually bad for wife.
  7. He marries a trophy to start over, raise a new child with a mother young enough to provide most of the care, and seek easier acceptance of his dominance.
  8. Her power thrust in his face offends him into reaction and winning. However, her well-controlled internal strength is admired and considered a virtue.
  9. The wedding signified she was satisfied with him. He expects her not to change. If she shows dissatisfaction, it drives his thoughts to other options.
  10. If you can’t budget, you can’t plan effectively. You need only choose what keeps spending below income and makes savings a lifetime commitment.


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3 responses to “2390. PROVERBS — Marriage 03

  1. “Guilt powerfully motivates women but men not nearly as much. Laying guilt on a husband produces unintended consequences, usually bad for wife.”

    This is really valuable advice. I don’t fully understand it, but eliminating all guilt and shame and shaming behaviors in your marriage is a huge step in the right direction. Male pride often triggers men into fight or flight mode, man the battle stations and defend yourself. Whereas women may feel guilty about something and be motivated to change, men tend to respond to guilt either by attacking or withdrawing. I call communicating with them “sneaking in under the radar,” and I don’t mean sneaky in a deceptive or manipulative way, but slipping in gently underneath all that defense.

    Women tend to love protection, provision, defense, the strengths that are inherent to men….but then you marry one and you have to figure out how to get through all that protection,provision,and defense.

    • Sharon

      i.b.22, I think your last statement is profoundly true; and recognizing that truth is key to understanding the need for “gently” gaining entry to a man’s heart. It may take years for mutual trust to develop, and for a man to thus open his heart, but a wise woman will be patient.

  2. Alexis

    You can shame an alpha male but not a beta.

    Your Highness Alexis,
    Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.

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