2402. PROVERBS — Sex 06


  1. Born with two distinct sex drives, a man’s psychological urge is to sexually conquer attractive women. Once with each woman satisfies that urge; he then ‘owns’ her.
  2. A man’s physiological urge for frequent sex opens him to pledge fidelity to one woman, if her other virtues capture, hold his interest, and make it a good life.
  3. The more a man focuses on his sexual desire, the less attention he pays to hers. He can change; it takes his recognition of need fed by feminine charm over time.
  4. The primary and selfish motivation of a man in sexual relations is to put his little head where he intends it to go. Penetration completes his mission, orgasm awaits.
  5. The primal expectation of a woman in sexual situations is intimacy, which comes mostly from passionate arousal and holding/caressing after intercourse.
  6. In bed with a man, a woman hopes for evermore arousal to satisfy her craving for intimacy, which confirms her self-importance.
  7. Wives don’t, won’t, or can’t tell husbands how to improve their lovemaking. So men play their own ‘get with it’ game until they see a need to change.
  8. Wives know best what husband lacks to be a good lover. She only has to teach without offense to his masculine sensibility and manly significance. Tough, huh?
  9. Wives learn that husbands don’t know jack about great lovemaking, so they endure whatever they ‘inherit’ with the man with whom they mate.
  10. Wives let husbands play her sex cards as if she’s the dummy hand playing Bridge. It’s a popular approach but not very satisfying for women.

 

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7 responses to “2402. PROVERBS — Sex 06

  1. That Horse Is Dead

    EDITOR’S NOTE: MY RESPONSE IS IN CAPS following your comment in lower case. I RE-PARAGRAPHED FOR AN EASIER READ. GUY
    ——
    Sir Guy,

    Which outweighs the other from a man’s point of view, his investment of himself to try to conquer an attractive female OR her virtues that he sees promise for making his future better? BOTH, AND HE PROBABLY HAS TROUBLE DETERMINING WHICH. THE FORMER IS MORE SUBCONSCIOUS AND THE LATTER CONSCIOUS THOUGHT.

    Said another way, if a man invests time and money to conquer her — without results — over a long period of time (years), is he more likely to keep coming back because of his own investment? NO, BUT BECAUSE OF HIS HOPE AND DETERMINATION TO FINISH WHAT HE STARTED. HIS SATISFACTION WITH LIFE DEPENDS ON HIS ACCOMPLISHMENTS, AND DEFEAT AT THE HANDS (EXCUSE ME, DETERMINATION) OF A WOMAN KEEPS RESONATING AS SOMETHING THAT NEEDS FURTHER ATTENTION. EMERSON SAID, THE WORLD TURNS ON HOPE, SO HIS BEHAVIOR IS NORMAL FOR HAVING BEEN REFUSED BY SOMEONE OF INTEREST.

    “I’ve already gotten this far” sort of thinking, which seems to have relatively little to do with her? NO, IT’S DOUBTFUL. IT’S MORE HER POTENTIAL VALUE THAN HIS LOOKING BACKWARD.

    Is this the real glue underlying why disappearing men keep coming around to conquer an attractive female that has high standards? I got confirmation yesterday from a mutual friend that the reason my (former) man of interest wouldn’t get into a relationship with me is because he would want sex and knows I wouldn’t give it to him. HE CALLS ON MUTUAL FRIEND TO ADVANCE HIS CAUSE. IT COULD BE DESPERATION TO ESCAPE FROM AN APPARENT LOST CAUSE, BUT IT COULD ALSO BE MANIPULATIVE. NO WAY OF KNOWING.

    Yet, he continues trying to see me every few weeks. It’s extremely frustrating and I’m wondering the underlying motivation if he’s not coming around because of my virtues. I declined his last invite cordially, but now I’m wondering if (or how) I need to be a bit more hard headed. IF HE’S A MR. GOOD ENOUGH, YOU CAN DO BETTER AND RELIEVE PRESENT ANGST BY INVITING HIM TO COME CLOSER AND OPENING A NEW GAME OF ANGST FOR YOURSELF.

    POST 2180 DESCRIBES HOW TO ENABLE HIM TO WALK HIMSELF TO THE ALTAR. IF YOU HAVE THE INTEREST IN HIM AND HE HAS THE POTENTIAL FOR YOU, MONTHS OF CLOSER RELATIONS WILL ENABLE YOU TO COMPARE HIS WORDS WITH HIS ACTIONS AND THUS MEASURE HIS SINCERITY AND TRUE INTENTIONS.

    LISTEN TO, OBEY YOUR HEART, AND KEEP QUIET ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONS AND SEXUAL HISTORY IF AND AS COURTSHIP DEVELOPS. THE MORE HE INVESTS HIMSELF TO EARN (AKA BUY) YOU, THE LONGER THE RELATIONSHIP WILL LAST.

    IF IT DOESN’T WORK THAT WAY, HE WAS OR NOW IS PRIMARILY AFTER SEX, WHICH MAY OR MAY NOT SIGNIFY YOUR WORTH/IMPORTANCE TO HIM.

    GUY

    • That Horse Is Dead

      Sir Guy,
      I’d like to invite the ladies to comment as to what they think this means, “If he’s a Mr. Good Enough, you can do better and relieve present angst by inviting him to come closer and opening a new game of angst for yourself.” I’ve made attempts to draw him closer, but perhaps I misunderstand what exactly this means. To this point, our relationship is platonic but there is a chemistry between us. I’ve never shared my emotions about him, although I feel it’s probably fairly obvious (my face blushes at the sight). He just invited me for another outing today.

      • Miss Gina

        Dear Lady THID,

        Not sure I understand the question. Just curious…Did you accept the invitation, and did Post 2180 make sense? My interpretation: just keep accepting invitations and see where it leads, in view of the fact that Mr. Good Enough walks himself to the altar. He has at least a fair idea that you have an interest (remembering that gentlemen generally over-interpret any sign of interest whatsoever). If you think he has possibilities, let him move along at his speed (which could be slow). Of course, this would not prevent entertainment of other possible Mr. Good Enough’s at the same time…

        • Miss Gina

          Just to be clear, I don’t see any reason to attempt to draw him closer other than accepting invitations and acting feminine as outlined in this blog. It has to be “his idea”…

        • Southernbelle

          Sir Guy
          Do you agree that most men over interpret a woman’s interest? I have seen both men who “over interpret” basic friendly social conversation and men who claim they had no idea a particular female was interested in them (their words “I wasn’t getting any signs”) . I actually thought she was being a bit too flirty and forward given the setting.

      • A.GuyMaligned

        Your Highness That Horse Is Dead,
        Miss Gina answered your question very well. I can add only this: Make him earn whatever you’re willing to share, whether it’s a kiss or more. “Why do you ask?” is good for you to use. The angst that you will feel after more association should be less than you feel now.
        Guy

        • That Horse Is Dead

          Thank you Sir Guy and Miss Gina,
          I accepted the invitation and to my surprise, his best friend and a family member were there as well (all men). I don’t know if men test a woman to see how she handles herself around buds, do they? I don’t believe it was random or coincidental they were there. It must have gone well enough that he invited me to lunch after church today. I have angst that this man will disappear as usual so to guard my heart, I simply can’t have any expectations whatsoever that this is moving anywhere or anytime soon. We think alike, Miss Gina, because I just accepted a coffee date with another gentleman from an online dating site.

          Your Highness That Horse Is Dead,
          Do men test a woman to see how she handles herself around buds? Doubtful. More likely he’s trying to show you off and earn their envy. Or, perhaps but not likely, he’s looking for their ideas on how to penetrate your defenses against conquest. You never know, so be prepared for anything by enabling him to earn you.
          Guy

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