Marriages occur and last when women harness and exploit the sexual nature of men. It doesn’t seem fair, but women have the interest, ability, and patience that men lack, and men have the dominance to see that all is done fairly. It’s the root of harmony in the home!
First, both sexes are born to be compatible someday with a mate, and most of us find pleasure getting there. Second, women are born to BE good. Out of that condition spins the good things in this world, as women recruit, exploit, and persuade men to do good. Third, both sexes possess the free will to use their best ability for doing what’s best for them and theirs.
Situation. It began in the Garden of Eden. Man and woman were made perfectly compatible until the snake talked them into imperfection. Nevertheless, we remain endowed with the ability to be compatible with a mate, but it’s currently a whole lot tougher than God intended but probably expected. In my humble opinion, He also gave free will to women, so they can upgrade natural compatibility into a couple’s particular version of harmony in the home. Women are both capable and enthused to use their free will and other unique talents, which I hope becomes even more evident as this series continues.
Motivation. Women are born with the desire to BE good and the free will to choose the how and the what of getting there. Born with hard-headedness and soft-heartedness, a woman concludes that to DO good is to BE good, which both confirms God’s intent and also makes her feel good. In that way, individual females also earn, confirm, and reinforce their sense of self-importance, which is vital for sustaining a relationship with a man.
Men are different. They have the ability to DO good but are born lacking both interest and desire to BE good. Born both hard-headed and hard-hearted, men DO good as they are inspired to want or incentivized to earn something they need.
That’s when women enter the male picture with what men want the most, to conquer attractive women and live with a good woman. It’s that first primal urge to conquer that women have to tame and harness in order to reliably build a family and keep a man.
Energizing a man to DO good is an indirect way of a woman doing good. She is good, when she can inspire a man to DO good. It’s one of the most inspiring and enjoyable goals a woman earns. When a man does DO good, he becomes good to the benefit of his woman and children. Their dependence on his doing good adds much glue to the marital structure and life.
The question: How does she energize, embolden, and encourage a man to DO good? She masters his urge to conquer and slowly shapes it into his doing what pleases him to please her. It follows next post.