The items below are not rules. They are ideas for consideration plus indirect suggestions to aid women when they wish to harmonize relationships and ease domestic turmoil. She’s the specialist to harmonize living with a man. It arises out of her being born opposite of men; that is, both able and motivated to build, manage, and sustain a long-term relationship.
- Learn to use silence to achieve your relationship objectives. Men neither use nor understand mysterious silence until they learn from you and deduce that it means for them to reconsider their opinion or position.
- The indirectness of a woman’s feminine nature serves even better after marriage. If he doesn’t have to be too deeply involved, respects her judgments, and she let’s everyone know he’s really the boss, then a man appreciates it when she dominates the incidentals of their life and it morphs into her dominance of home and family made acceptable by his dominance of her. The highly feminine hen can let him rule the roost in name while she rules the rooster in fact. She coaches him to learn to be highly grateful for what she does and respect her as person, woman, wife, and mother of their children. Shortcoming: Of course, he does it with too little affection showered on her; that’s also his nature and challenge for her to overcome.
- Women signal with cleavage that they expect men to think of sex. Well-shaped breasts attractively covered suggest the opposite, to think of her as woman and not sex object. Which works best for the female agenda, she want a long-term guy or short-term sex?
- Without his being fully aware of her abilities and advantages for him, the feminine woman fills her role with dignity, presents a pleasant and likeable personality, and adds so much respectable but mysterious charm that a man learns he found a woman more interesting to be with than his buddies. Two requirements: She lets his attitude develop privately and she says nothing against his buds or his associating with them. Yes, she may have to put up with his getting his psychic income from them as well as her, but the fiancé or wife who tries to divorce him from buds will likely find she loses influence and maybe him. She has other ways to discourage him and many ways to compensate for time away from her.
- As a feminine woman, you don’t appear in public in sloppy clothes, poor grooming, or careless presentation; it demeans rather than promotes your best. Such appearances release others to treat you disrespectfully with less dignity and with consequent loss of worth and influence. Unlike among women, you’re not respected by men just because you’re a person. You will be regarded better for apparent self-respect that reflects out of your pride and evident self-worth; it works best and mystery and modesty provide a jump start. Men are much alike in that earning respect is a function of much more than appearance. Men don’t need and won’t earn respect from you like women need to earn it from men.
- Modesty is the most unique and easily justified feminine trait and proactive way of women getting their way. Use mystery as indirect and modesty as a direct way of attracting attention to you as girlfriend or wife instead of what you possess that men want so badly. Show pride that you’re hard-to-get before marriage. Female mystery surrounds modesty; it makes little sense to husbands but they easily accept as no threat to them and react with something like, “but if that’s the way she is, I guess I can go along.” Suppressing thoughts of sex with modesty earns masculine respect, the foundation of manly love.
- If and when you’re expected to do wrong, e.g., something immoral, refuse and state that you have firmest belief in yourself as being right. Refuse to explain further. Later, perhaps, you may perhaps hint at your core beliefs (but only if it’s someone or something higher than yourself such as moral code, Holy Bible, God’s word, your father’s mandate, your mother’s advice).
By adopting those and other feminine options and exploiting her feminine ability, a woman can more dependably sell herself and persuade a man that his best interest lies in a long-term marriage with her.