Relationships don’t have to breakup as easily as I describe. I point to causes and effects that tend to crack and perhaps lead to crumbling and eventual separation.
A marriage boils down to the little things in life, and wife is the most able and influential to produce success or failure. It’s easy to drive a man away. Sex won’t hold him anytime, but his departure is speeded up if the little things in life irritate him sufficiently that he concludes he will receive less with another woman. I cite three wifely habits, the results of which impact a man negatively and can build up to be too much for him to stay with her.
Throw enough blame around and it can wreck a marriage. Wives can recover much more easily but wrecks still happen. Husbands are very vulnerable in two ways: 1) A husband has to prove the blamer wrong and expects to fight to the bitter end, which invites the same from his wife. It neutralizes the marital need for cooperation and matches spouses competitively, which makes a man more determined than ever to not lose an argument to his wife.
2) If 1) doesn’t apply or fails him, then he is supposed to feel guilty. Men reject guilt when imposed by someone else, especially women and more especially their own. There are few things more toxic than wife blaming a man for anything. Men achieve self-satisfaction in all that they do, so whatever they do they do right and beyond criticism. If they forget to do something, it may be another matter but the first sign of criticism makes a man think of fighting back rather than accepting the guilt his wife is likely trying to impose (which works on women but not men).
Blame overrides the harmonizing effect of her smiling in good spirits. Blame is the woman-to-man counterpart of physical abuse, and the former often invites the latter. With blame flying about in the home, the calm marital process that a man expects does not take place.
Blame poisons a relationship, and so do wifely complaints with weaker toxic effect. Consequently, a wife should find some other way to correct whatever needs fixing. Neither blaming nor complaining serves her nearly as well as her other talents and skills such as patience, imagination, guile, and advanced ability to talk her way into getting her way and making others like it.
It should be obvious. Men have so few expectations compared to women. It would not be on their list of expectations, but women expect to complain. They see it as a necessity to get what they want out of others, but they have better ways. All they have to do is stop, think, and search for another way to head toward a solution to whatever they want to complain about. More effective is this: Complain to self and look for another way to induce whatever action is necessary from someone else, especially a husband.
It is far easier for women to satisfy their man than the opposite. Great steps of progress are available when women learn to avoid blaming their man and complaining about whatever frustrates them. Of course, again, it just ain’t fair, if women have to do everything. But it is the price women have to pay for a good, solid, and maturely developed lifetime marriage.
The female dream of a lifetime marriage is easily disturbed by an innocence that sours the domestic atmosphere. You ladies are unaware, so I plant a seed.
You’re not going to believe my next point, so I promise an article soonest in order to describe a common wifely habit that can contribute toward breakup. If wife routinely complains about being tired, she adds the kind of pressure that drives husbands away. She has far better options just awaiting development that can bring more closeness and discourage separation. I think I’ll use the title, “I’m not tired.”