Your Highness Milena, I continue responding to your comment at post 2468. Yours is copied and unbold, while my response is bold.
Yes, maybe I am overlooking the “male nature”, but so be it.
A. Feminism has taught that for 50 years. In Part II you’re quoted about the cultural decay and potential for abuse that puts women at disadvantage. It’s the result of ignoring the male nature, of listening to women instead of men about what makes men tick.
Women ‘own’ men when they understand and exploit the male nature to female advantage. They are the relationship experts, which enables them to outwit, outsmart, and outmaneuver male dominance. Compartmentalized minds versus great multi-taskers, which makes female the superior gender. When they do it effectively in background, both boys and men love them for it. Men love women best when their woman does female things better than others, and each husband is his own judge—but she has pillow and table talk to favorably shape and reshape his thinking with hints, seed-planting, and patience. If she’s respected as female and likeable and he’s satisfied, he listens. Otherwise, who knows?
My freedom is important to me too. I refuse to see sex as an obligation to reward a man for making me his maid-in-wedlock. If this means I cannot possibly make any man happy or satisfied, then so be it as well.
A. I regret alerting you. Your mindset about both obligation and freedom, whether single or married, will be revised drastically by the passage of a couple of decades.
Elsewhere in response to Meow Meow, you say: “I always love to hear from people who have a lot of experience. Personally, I think the huge emphasis on romantic love and finding your ‘soulmate’ these days is harmful. How can you find the right partner if you don’t know who you are? If you have not taken some time developing yourself, building character and finding out where your boundaries are? Our culture is geared too much towards instant gratification, being superficially pleasing towards the other sex and deriving your self-worth from how sexually attractive you are. This does not encourage self-respect or self-knowledge.”
A. Those are mighty wise words for such a young gal. Impressive enough for some guy to pursue you energetically just to get to know you better, which is a helluva lot better than a bunch chasing you just for sex. Allow some time for a good candidate to catch up with your wisdom, darling, and your heart, mind, and heart will clear up.
You also say to Meow Meow: “This language of conquest and price all sounds a bit too cold and violent to me.”
A. Human nature starts out raw, cold, and capable of violence until hard-headed and soft-hearted females calm it with warmth and humanity. We’re each born to be compatible with a mate, but men are not born to add warmth or live as women hope and want. They learn it from good women and confirm it with a good woman.
Milena, that completes my response. I love it when pretty women stimulate broader thoughts with such sterling inputs. I’m very satisfied and hope you are as grateful.