2473 — Devotion in Response to Magnolia — I

At post 2466 Magnolia inquired about men and their willingness to drop one woman for another. She asks, “Should we expect it … or does it hit some men and not others?” Devotion tends to keep a man home; lack of it weakens him for temptations.

As with life itself, we are all motivated by self-interest. It’s a woman’s job to turn two individual self-interests into mutual self-interest. Why her? Men are capable of temporarily generating it in order to coax and wheedle sex from an unconquered woman. Other than that, they have limited interest in sustaining but not creating it.

A woman should expect to be surprised if she doesn’t screen her man thoroughly before she ever goes to bed with him. He’s not very screen-able after that, just as predictable as she determined or surprising as she didn’t. But even pre-conquest screening is not much good for what happens after romantic love fades in a year or two.

On the bad side, some men cheat, go for a trophy, or act immoral. Some find their wife too critical, rotten at living peacefully, or turning unlikeable beyond tolerance. But readers know many reasons that make peace and harmony dissolve into turmoil.

A woman’s devotion is embedded in her ability to love. If they get either, men learn it from good and mature upbringing, finding that it fits their character and helps fulfill their lives, or both.

On the good side, some men devote their lives to their mate. Some devote to living up to something or someone bigger than themselves. Some develop devotion to family responsibility in the name of being a reliable father. The most fortunate men find a spouse that understands the role, importance, and process by which a man’s devotion develops and is kept undisturbed by a good woman acting for her own betterment.

In both good and bad outcomes, couples have one thing in common, a woman or wife. She is the problem causer, preventer, or one who remedies. However, women don’t know the nature of men and much of what they do know is wrong; for the past 50 years they have listened only to feminists tell them about men. By listening and believing so fervently, they lost their ability to screen well for themselves, anticipate and prevent marital eruptions, and resolve cracks in the marital façade before it crumbles into separation. By following feminist propaganda, women paid attention to the wrong thing—blaming men instead of learning how to screen one man for reliable character and his attention to devotion to someone or dedication to something bigger than himself.

Women can act with mature and feminine judgment, which encourages husbands to view them as admirable and virtuous. When it happens, feminine strengths and other advantages enable women to screen, select, and produce good and reliable stay-at-home husbands. By acting adolescent, unrespectable, less admirable as a virtuous female, or too critical in their man’s eyes, they lose some if not all of their natural ability to keep a husband.

The root of devotion is female love. It follows next post. Magnolia’s inquiry stimulated a barrage of connected thoughts that women should hear.


Filed under courtship, Dear daughter, feminine, marriage, sex differences

4 responses to “2473 — Devotion in Response to Magnolia — I

  1. If you knew anything at all about the history of marriage (a method of property rights for men, including ownership of women and their property) and judeo Christian religion (methods of controlling women a d women’s production and reproduction) you would know that you are spewing propaganda, not fact.

    Good thing your ideology is dying out.

    Your Highness GodsGrace55,
    Your bitterness is noted with sympathy.

    • My Husband's Wife

      Dear God’s Grace,
      Judging from your screen name, you must know something about God’s grace—how He sent his Son Jesus for sinners like you and me into a fallen world. Have you seen this verse in Ephesians: “….Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church, and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.”

      I don’t understand anywhere in this verse…or in the Bible for that matter, where it advises early Christian men to own/control women. In fact, it speaks of this to guard against it. I’m sure many men and women didn’t have a proper understanding of marriage even in Bible days, thus the need for Paul to provide direction here and spell it out.

      Therefore, the husband’s headship is the divine calling to take primary responsibility for Christ-like servant leadership, protection, and provision in the home = sacrificial love. And wifely submission is the divine calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband’s leadership and help carry it through according to her gifts = the Church.
      The Bible uses marriage to show us exactly how God relates to us.

      I wonder, God’s Grace, if you’ve been hurt by the men in your life who have abandoned their Godly role in the care and protection of you as I sense anger towards the beautify “mystery” of men and women in marriage that is presented here on the site by Sir Guy. If that’s the case, I’m so sorry for what happened.

      Geoffrey Bromiley says, “As God made man in His own image, so He made earthly marriage in the image of His own eternal marriage with His people” (God and Marriage, p. 43).

  2. gonemaverick

    Sir Guy you are on a roll! Keep them coming.

  3. Sarina

    Maybe this isn’t a right example, but it might be related to a man’s devotion. A family that I’ve known for years came to visit, they have 2 kids with severe disabilities, but the way this man acts with his wife and kids is impressive: caring, protective, patient, tender. I got to see their interactions during an entire week. You would think a man in his position would want to run away to meet buddies, have plenty of drinks to forget his situation, be ashamed of his kids, do whatever to forget and keep himself occupied from such burden, but no..he took his wife and kids to various locations, spent time at meals and simply talked with them most of the time, family was priority, buddies later.
    It’s ironic how some women cannot make their men spend 5 minutes with them and healthy kids and yet this guy is so family oriented in a difficult circumstance.

    Your Highness Sarina,

    Yes, I call him devoted. He pleases himself by pleasing his wife.

    It goes beyond love and into a man’s sense of responsibility, duty as it were, and his ability to do what’s right in his opinion and perhaps to earn wife’s admiration.

    Out of his determination to earn self-admiration, he finds enough and perhaps more satisfaction doing it at his best.

    Nice description, darling. Thanks.


    Oops! I lamost forgot. Give immense credit to his wife. He didn’t get there all alone.

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