At post 2466 Magnolia inquired about men and their willingness to drop one woman for another. She asks, “Should we expect it … or does it hit some men and not others?” Devotion tends to keep a man home; lack of it weakens him for temptations.
As with life itself, we are all motivated by self-interest. It’s a woman’s job to turn two individual self-interests into mutual self-interest. Why her? Men are capable of temporarily generating it in order to coax and wheedle sex from an unconquered woman. Other than that, they have limited interest in sustaining but not creating it.
A woman should expect to be surprised if she doesn’t screen her man thoroughly before she ever goes to bed with him. He’s not very screen-able after that, just as predictable as she determined or surprising as she didn’t. But even pre-conquest screening is not much good for what happens after romantic love fades in a year or two.
On the bad side, some men cheat, go for a trophy, or act immoral. Some find their wife too critical, rotten at living peacefully, or turning unlikeable beyond tolerance. But readers know many reasons that make peace and harmony dissolve into turmoil.
A woman’s devotion is embedded in her ability to love. If they get either, men learn it from good and mature upbringing, finding that it fits their character and helps fulfill their lives, or both.
On the good side, some men devote their lives to their mate. Some devote to living up to something or someone bigger than themselves. Some develop devotion to family responsibility in the name of being a reliable father. The most fortunate men find a spouse that understands the role, importance, and process by which a man’s devotion develops and is kept undisturbed by a good woman acting for her own betterment.
In both good and bad outcomes, couples have one thing in common, a woman or wife. She is the problem causer, preventer, or one who remedies. However, women don’t know the nature of men and much of what they do know is wrong; for the past 50 years they have listened only to feminists tell them about men. By listening and believing so fervently, they lost their ability to screen well for themselves, anticipate and prevent marital eruptions, and resolve cracks in the marital façade before it crumbles into separation. By following feminist propaganda, women paid attention to the wrong thing—blaming men instead of learning how to screen one man for reliable character and his attention to devotion to someone or dedication to something bigger than himself.
Women can act with mature and feminine judgment, which encourages husbands to view them as admirable and virtuous. When it happens, feminine strengths and other advantages enable women to screen, select, and produce good and reliable stay-at-home husbands. By acting adolescent, unrespectable, less admirable as a virtuous female, or too critical in their man’s eyes, they lose some if not all of their natural ability to keep a husband.
The root of devotion is female love. It follows next post. Magnolia’s inquiry stimulated a barrage of connected thoughts that women should hear.