NOTE: Unless addressed directly in this series, presume that mutual love is present but not the only influence on what happens inside a couple’s relationship. (I’ll cover the subject of interactive love sometime later, so remind me in a couple of weeks if I haven’t. I’m contemplating a temporary relocation that will eat up much time and relax my short-term memory too much. And, anyway, I love it when pretty women remind that I dropped the ball.)
- Women condition their Mr. Good Enough for whatever relationship they can generate with him. She does most of the planning, developing, and encouraging him to invest himself in her rather than just pursuing sex. She waits and waits—often beyond her patience—while he finds ways to convince her of his merit for husbanding and potential for fathering. (The really hard part begins after they marry and keeping husband satisfied that he did the right thing. Given the modern woman’s expectations about men, it is all too easy to do the opposite.)
- Both sexes are born with intent to get their way. Unfortunately for marriage, women have adopted the man’s way from political pressures learned in life. Nowadays, marriage shatters on the wife’s conviction that she can’t be wrong; it’s her way or the highway. She stands mockingly for what men stand for naturally.
- Most men are willing to marry after they work diligently and invest themselves to get the woman they want to win. If one can’t possess it, why would one want it? or so the male nature inspires men. If a woman isn’t ‘owned’ by her man, why would she want to ‘slave’ over and after him just to please herself, to prove herself important, to make her marriage work? Owned and slave are spirits easily ‘conquered’ and used to smart advantage by feminine wives.
- How can a man walk away from a woman with whom he’s had months of romantic and sexual love? Women don’t seem aware of this trait of men. Lucrative investments appeal to them. If the risk is small, so is the likely return on investment. If there’s little risk of losing her, she’s not as worthy once she is won. Men don’t throw away big investments without good reason. So, if he earns her too easily, he can walk away just as easy. Not being hard to get, her worth never grew much in his heart and mind.
The bullets above describe what happens without reaching the conscious level, not the results that women expect. They hide and sometimes shrink beneath the cloak of romantic love, which keeps them unaware of what happens beneath the surface. They have been dumbed down to believe that men are dumb. Consequently, relationships fall apart over minor disruptions about which women have the ability to forgive even though they can’t always forget.