2478. Leftover Thoughts on Marriage — 04


  • The smart wife recognizes her and hubby’s domains are different; she stays out of his and find ways to persuade him to stay out of hers. Divided responsibility can be lived with, but amicably shared responsibility isn’t likely because pressures cause it to breed spousal competition, at which men are determined to win.
  • The culprit is the feminist challenge to male dominance, the hormone challenge that divides the sexes. It requires outside help in the form of politics and public pressure to help prove women right and men wrong. In non-politicized life, both are right and wrong; harmonious mutual self-interest solves the problem.
  • With her free will and ardent desire to get her way, feminine women see the nervy win as coming with submission now and doing battle some other time in some other way.
  • He expects their home to be a bright and welcoming spot in his life. She’s available for sex, of course, but that’s not all. He may expect her cooperation in high jinks, fun, games, and noise at his instigation. But when he wants peace and quiet, he expects her to take charge and produce it. IOW, he expects to reign but listens to his queen when she makes more sense than complaints.
  • Husband is direct in expressing feelings and opinions. He expects wife to be the same, but it’s a trap of unknown origin. Her nature and early experience living with him teach her to be otherwise—indirect to present her position on matters, patient about considerations and decisions, and submissive in spirit in order to eventually get her way. Spontaneity is good mostly for fun and games with him. If well balanced over time, he comes to believe that she’s very wise and satisfying.

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2 responses to “2478. Leftover Thoughts on Marriage — 04

  1. “Divided responsibility can be lived with, but amicably shared responsibility isn’t likely because pressures cause it to breed spousal competition, at which men are determined to win.”

    I loved this. Competing is all well and good if you’re having a pillow fight or something, but competing is really something to be avoided. That can be a real problem because we live in a culture of egalitarianism that practically mandates it. We really don’t want to be fighting and competing WITH men, we want them to be fighting FOR us. Not physically, not as in having to forever try to earn our respect, but simply as a gentle and natural order of things. We seek their protection and provision. We seek to be what they want to protect, serve, and cherish.

  2. Meow Meow

    That final sentence is so sweet and true, insanitybytes!

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