Of all the motivational forces working inside males and females, two stand out as both strongest and unchangeable. An inborn and primal love for females and an inborn and primal sex drive for males. As motivating equivalents, they are the hardest to blunt or change. They are not opposites to be balanced, however, and only women can make relationship harmony out of the difference.
Mother love is unconditional and the most powerful and reliable form of love. Returned or not, it’s a love that never dies but spreads easily and comfortingly to both sexes.
The male sex drive to conquer attractive women for first-time sex together is equally compelling. Whether fulfilled, appreciated, or not, it’s a drive that never dies. It’s an activity, however, that is kept in the shadows with no social or domestic benefits redeemable by unmarried women.
This difference makes female the superior gender. Mother love spreads splendidly with more children. It makes better mothers, easier-to-raise children, and is contagious enough to even make better fathers. It supports the innate female drive to be good, do good things to prove it, and induce men to do good in order to be better men. The more mother love that spreads around, the better are both society and the cultural values and standards that follow and support it. Father love is generally not contagious, as love is not a prime male interest.
One instinctive motivation reinforces men as the dominant gender. Men affirm their dominance to hide determination to be different from women, especially to fulfill the primal urge to conquer the unconquered. Conquest does not grow the man, does not make him a better person, Consequently, the conqueror as such contributes little to making society better and can destroy his own family by fulfilling that primal urge.
When exposed to good mother love spread over many children, a man’s interest in conquest deteriorates in favor of devotion to those he can love more if he disregards the lures outside the home. Mother love favorably influences fathers, and the more the better. It is indirect leadership that lures the male nature to join the lovingly pleasant atmosphere that mothers develop. Two abiding strengths of mother love are plenty of smiles to confirm acceptance and guidance with few complaints to lead positively. Those are the same wifely behaviors that deliver home life satisfaction to husbands.
You heard it here first. That is why families should plan for six children so they will end up with at least five and can handle seven or eight. The indirect but pleasant pressures of mother love make more responsible fathers out of irresponsible men, outstanding mothers out of average women, potential good parents out of children, and matriarchal dynasties for grandparents. The source of all is the love of mothers for offspring, and the more children the merrier for all involved. Selfishness disappears, self-centeredness morphs easily into family-centeredness, tendency toward narcissism is suppressed by need to be accepted.
Thus, it is proportional. Multi-child responsibility brings out more of a woman’s natural managerial talent, skill, and enthusiasm—that for which she is born with a supremely superior ability. The admiration of husband and father exceeds that of a virtuous woman; she becomes his superstar with about the fourth or fifth child. It’s God’s design, nature, and hormones in operation.
When mother love dominates families and society, the superiority of it shines in many homes. At the earliest stages, kids learn good and bad, moral and evil, respect and love. We all benefit in society when mother love is widespread and dominating both social and domestic landscapes. It takes more children to bring it out in the open.