2499. Love and Sex That Never Die

Of all the motivational forces working inside males and females, two stand out as both strongest and unchangeable. An inborn and primal love for females and an inborn and primal sex drive for males. As motivating equivalents, they are the hardest to blunt or change. They are not opposites to be balanced, however, and only women can make relationship harmony out of the difference.

Mother love is unconditional and the most powerful and reliable form of love. Returned or not, it’s a love that never dies but spreads easily and comfortingly to both sexes.

The male sex drive to conquer attractive women for first-time sex together is equally compelling. Whether fulfilled, appreciated, or not, it’s a drive that never dies. It’s an activity, however, that is kept in the shadows with no social or domestic benefits redeemable by unmarried women.

This difference makes female the superior gender. Mother love spreads splendidly with more children. It makes better mothers, easier-to-raise children, and is contagious enough to even make better fathers. It supports the innate female drive to be good, do good things to prove it, and induce men to do good in order to be better men. The more mother love that spreads around, the better are both society and the cultural values and standards that follow and support it. Father love is generally not contagious, as love is not a prime male interest.

One instinctive motivation reinforces men as the dominant gender. Men affirm their dominance to hide determination to be different from women, especially to fulfill the primal urge to conquer the unconquered. Conquest does not grow the man, does not make him a better person, Consequently, the conqueror as such contributes little to making society better and can destroy his own family by fulfilling that primal urge.

When exposed to good mother love spread over many children, a man’s interest in conquest deteriorates in favor of devotion to those he can love more if he disregards the lures outside the home. Mother love favorably influences fathers, and the more the better. It is indirect leadership that lures the male nature to join the lovingly pleasant atmosphere that mothers develop. Two abiding strengths of mother love are plenty of smiles to confirm acceptance and guidance with few complaints to lead positively. Those are the same wifely behaviors that deliver home life satisfaction to husbands.

You heard it here first. That is why families should plan for six children so they will end up with at least five and can handle seven or eight. The indirect but pleasant pressures of mother love make more responsible fathers out of irresponsible men, outstanding mothers out of average women, potential good parents out of children, and matriarchal dynasties for grandparents. The source of all is the love of mothers for offspring, and the more children the merrier for all involved. Selfishness disappears, self-centeredness morphs easily into family-centeredness, tendency toward narcissism is suppressed by need to be accepted.

Thus, it is proportional. Multi-child responsibility brings out more of a woman’s natural managerial talent, skill, and enthusiasm—that for which she is born with a supremely superior ability. The admiration of husband and father exceeds that of a virtuous woman; she becomes his superstar with about the fourth or fifth child. It’s God’s design, nature, and hormones in operation.

When mother love dominates families and society, the superiority of it shines in many homes. At the earliest stages, kids learn good and bad, moral and evil, respect and love. We all benefit in society when mother love is widespread and dominating both social and domestic  landscapes. It takes more children to bring it out in the open.


Filed under courtship, Culture & Politics, Dear daughter, Home CEO, marriage, nurturing, sex differences, Sociology 101

7 responses to “2499. Love and Sex That Never Die

  1. Miss Gina

    Dear Sir Guy,

    Absolutely true, and almost no one has had the insight or courage to say this recently. Few narcissists come from large families, and the management of large families forces personal growth in parents to unforeseeably great levels. Love it!

    Your Highness Miss Gina,

    Yes, and thank you. Very perceptive.

    Forcing personal growth in parents produces two highly desirable effect with the kids. First, parents have to respect the kids because they depend on them. Second, they leave the kids more to themselves for self-development, which is the way God intended, nature equips them, and hormones energize them.


    • My Husband's Wife

      Good comment, Miss Gina! And I always have wondered about the increase in narcissism being correlated to small families as the children receive so much undivided attention. There’s also the issue of over sensitivity that kids of today have to any perceived slight (aka bullying) that could also be a result of the helicopter parents over focused on just one or two children. With bigger families, kids just learn deal with it all!

      Your Highness My Husband’s Wife,
      Another perceptive insight. Thank you for the support of large families as best for women. They get to do what they do best without it being laborious.

      • Miss Gina

        Exactly, Lady MHW. Parents also are forced to figure out how to train their kids because they can’t do it all for them and have to let go, as you say. I have known a lot of large homeschooling families. Funny how love for the kids inspires dads (particularly) to work harder and smarter and be very responsible. I saw a lot of really creative ways parents met the needs.

  2. My Husband's Wife

    Yes, indeed, Sir Guy! And I agree with Miss Gina’s comment above—very courageous…especially for you to state the following: “You heard it here first. That is why families should plan for six children so they will end up with at least five and can handle seven or eight.”

    Encouraging women to have small families/no children has been another whole angle of feminism that’s hardly mentioned. And the women who suffer from being childless are many.

  3. I have always felt sad when thinking about how elusive love can be in women’s lives. I never thought about it’s significance in the life of men. I’m realizing now, though not surprised, that elusive love doesn’t play a significant part in a man’s life. What men must find sadly elusive in their lives is the need for importance and of their lives being significant. If their primary motivation in life is gaining sexual conquests of new women then the drive they have to achieve that actually leads them away from the affirmation of lasting importance. They might realize that the very thing they pursue is the very thing that threatens to make them irrelevant in the lives of their family (wife and children). For when we die, the only thing, for most of us, of lasting importance we bequeathe the world is our children and the lessons and love we shared with them and therein our heredity.

    Your Highness Femindiscerner,

    Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.

    A delightful comment. You’re welcome here anytime and I hope you return. You have a lot to offer many women thirsting for such wisdom.


  4. MLaRowe

    I adore this post.

    Back when I had two children and wished for more I would comfort myself by saying that I would spread my mommy love to the other children who come into our lives (via friendship etc.) and that did help me feel better.

    Then I was blessed with a third child unexpectedly and that one has brought me such joy. By the third child it was easy (plus I have the help of the older kids).

    Now, I do (secretly) wish I could have another child but again I comfort myself by saying I will help children in other ways. So now I am a special kind of reading tutor.

    It takes a certain amount of faith to bring a child into the world so if one is lacking that it’s much harder to have a child (which was my problem for many years).

    Also since one’s financial assets will be used it takes a lot of unselfishness. That is the resistance part for so many.

    Such a wonderful post.

    Your Highness MLaRowe,
    My response is today’s article, #2500.

  5. Amanda Wells

    You addressed this but I thought I would add my two cents. I have seven children and realized recently that wives don’t actually want their husbands to help out with the housework ( I always feel guilty when he vacuums or picks up toys but I do enjoy his cooking Sunday breakfast) but they want the children to do it. However since many women don’t have more than a few children they don’t realize what a resource they are because they can still technically do it all. With a large family it becomes physically impossible for mom to do everything and forces the wife to require child help. Of course when the first few are very young some of husband’s help might be needed (during late pregnancy for example) but if more modern women had been raised in large families they would know how brief this stage is and how much a four year old is capable of…..

    Your Highness Amanda Wells,
    Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.

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