Men and women possess these dynamic motivational forces that trace back to when they were born. You are likely to get confused, so let me familiarize you with the major terms: be good, do good, do better, be better.
Both sexes are born to be better, to improve themselves in their self-development, but with men it means independently and without reference to others. Men can be better without doing good; they can do bad or even evil, and they need only call it better for them.
Women OTOH lack that freedom. Also born to be good, it pressures them to do good, which makes them better. They cannot sit around and claim to be a better person by doing nothing. They are instinctively inspired to prove they are good, and that action confirms both their goodness and self-improvement.
Men lack those dual and primal interconnections of self-development. They are, however, born capable to do good. But they lack the motivational energy to be good in the process of making themselves better aka improving their abilities. Until, that is, they are prompted or pressured by someone else, usually a woman they respect.
Consequently, women are not as self-centered as are men. They parlay their importance greatly by inducing men to do good, which diverts a man from doing less bad or evil. Thus, he becomes better, which confirms her as being good, which elevates her self-importance as his partner and his appreciation of her worth.
It is an instinctive reaction. Great satisfaction arises in a wife’s mind when she gets her man to do good things. She makes possible bad and evil thoughts vaporize, which makes him become a better man to himself by feeding his psyche with thoughts favorable to others. He becomes better simply by allowing her to guide him to do good things. It takes his enormous respect of her to allow it. Contrary to what she thinks, it is not her love, but his respect of her as living and productive example of a good woman. She confirms that he choose correctly, which is extremely satisfying to a man.
Men thrive on a woman’s goodness, and when she also adds other feminine traits, he can lose himself in her. It’s what women expect and want to see, but they have to know where to start, which is intensifying her feminine side. To be womanly earns a man’s respect; to also be feminine earns his love.