As shown earlier, logic and reason so favored by men actually turns the dark days of “You shall submit” into a greater day of “If it pleases me to do so, I will.” The real world takes on quite a different hue when wives are freer to harmonize their relationships. The numbered situations described below provide a deeper understanding of the problems wives may encounter trying to figure out how to make their submissive nature work to brighten their husband’s submission-expected future.
Remember that this series is framed within the primal nature of men and women without considering their personal situation or connections. Women have to figure out their situation from principles they can use.
The situations that follow make women aware of the multitude of challenges that can develop. Each requires her attention. No condition ever stands alone in a relationship. However minutely, each spouse has an interest in what the other thinks and does. For every right decision, there is another person who can and might judge it differently.
Mistakes are ubiquitous because someone does something and the other calls it wrong, often without thinking. Therefore, in most of the following situations, recovery is possible for women and not an issue for management by men. Locked narrow mindedly into the concept of submission, men philosophically have little or no talent for relationship management. Women, however, have the inborn adaptability to bond multiple home voices and conduct them harmoniously.
And you say, ‘but a good alpha male knows how to provide the leadership that leads to harmony’. And I say, don’t believe it. Knowing and doing are different in relationship management. Alpha males can be dictators; they demand order, which increases the need of harmony by wife.
Women shine when they are fully aware of their situation. It keeps them focused naturally on doing a harmonizing job and works best when their husband has been conditioned to listen instead of boss everybody around.
- Major differences exist between these two terms. Submission is energized by competitive intent, the man’s staked-out side of life. “I’m the boss.” Submissiveness is energized by her cooperative spirit. “Us comes before you and me” is part of a woman’s life until she is driven away from it or learned otherwise earlier in life.
- Even were it not in the Bible, male dominance spurs men to impose their will, expect female submission, and to get their way. The female nature dodges it in order to get her way. Women expect to employ their natural submissive spirit to do what they think is best. When disagreements turn into competition, husband intends to dominate. When wife smooths competition into cooperation that doesn’t offend his masculine prerogatives, husband goes along to get along.
- It takes awhile for men to learn it, but if they want their castle to resound with harmony, they must pay more attention to her. Otherwise, harmony among multiple personalities will not prevail under the males’ hard-hearted leadership. However, two hard-headed personalities can negotiate a settlement out of mutual respect. But, his hard-headed versus her soft-hearted personality is doomed that one submit. That’s the balance they are born with.
- Women live by and foster submissiveness, when they like themselves as female, their man as a mate, and their relationship for permanency. It helps capture a man, hold him, and prove that women don’t play the male game of competition but are very willing to play the far more harmonizing female game of cooperation.
Can you use some more wife-promoting situational awareness? Come back tomorrow. The list continues at #4 of this series.