At 2594, Her Highness Femme likes a particular model of how the world works. She wonders, “Why aren’t we taught this at school?” Other phenomena about human motivation also go untaught, unmentioned, and pretty much unnoticed, but they energize the model to make things happen.
Shown below are behavioral results that we inherit at birth and that guide our lives whether we wish it or not.
First phenomenon: Femme cited this one as new info. Men spread their seed liberally, mother-love raises the children that result, and life is all about women capturing a man to help raise the next generation. That’s why we are all here, to fulfill God’s intent (or Nature’s randomness if you prefer) of perpetuating our species.
Another phenomenon: Compatibility of the sexes is the most essential ingredient for success in that model. What is compatibility? Respect and trust for and successful dependence on the other sex, primarily made mutual by actions as perceived by men and words more than actions as perceived by women.
Whether gift of God or Nature, both sexes are born well prepared to be compatible living with a member of the opposite sex, and which both actually prefer to single life. But neither prepared nor preference is the same as dedicated.
Women prove their supreme importance; they are the worker bees. They generate and sustain compatibility. They keep its benefits aimed at relationship success. Men can’t, won’t, or don’t. Manly and even husbandly interests lie elsewhere until women show men the advantages available with womanly values and expectations about making the present brighter for their man and the future brighter for themselves.
Another phenomenon: We are all born to get our way associating with others. Taught early in a good childhood, we learn that letting others have their way can be in our own self-interest. Yielding to others signifies respect, trust, and mutual dependence and sits atop compatibility as both foundation and ingredients of love.
Another phenomenon: As people grow up, they differ over compatibility. Women pursue it, but men shy away. Men don’t instinctively know how to take it—beneficial, unfriendly, or women seeking to dominate? They question whether it fits into their anticipated roles in life. Men prefer not to yield their discretion to another without proof they will gain (competitive spirit, you know). Women apply feminine pressures to compensate and get men to live up to womanly expectations. It remains an antagonistic concept to men, however, until one woman sells one man on the concept. She successfully shows how living with her is best for him.
Another phenomenon: Self-interest is the universal motivator; we all live by the guidance it instinctively provides. Each child learns first hand or is instructed how to merge their priorities with the priorities of others who also seek to get their way. The result: We learn early in life that we face hopeless realities, suffer easy frustrations, and often want more than we get. Shortages promote frustration, initiative, and cooperation; they also provoke, determination, ambition, and competition.
As children develop and grow up, the sexes differ in their methods for getting their way with others. Males learn to utilize competition and relative competence with little regard for compatibility except with male friends. OTOH, females learn to focus on cooperation to build and sustain compatibility; first among their sex, then with males, and later within couples responsible to raise another generation.
Consequently, the more we get our way by having earned it, the more we deserve, and that’s how pecking orders develop in home, social and domestic arenas, and even on the job. We intuitively take care to see to our own interest first in support of getting our way with others. Wives and mothers know their self-interest includes care and consideration for their mate or child. Husbands and men must be taught those niceties of living together.
Another phenomenon: Without this balance-of-power phenom, one sex would have millennia ago been enslaved by the other. The balance comes from God blessing us with both a dominant and superior sex.
Obviously, males are dominant, because they act that way and the self-fulfilling prophecy confirms it. Far less obvious, seldom discussed, and acted upon too little for the self-fulfilling prophecy to confirm it, female is the superior gender. Not superior to overpower the dominance of men, but more competent in females getting their way with indirectness, patience, charm, and ability to outwit, outsmart, and outmaneuver their opponents, especially men (and daddy). Thus, women keep the power balanced or suffer the consequences.
Another phenomenon: Blame is the antithesis of womanly spirit of cooperation and toxic to compatibility. Consequently, bashing men or one’s husband accelerates the decline of precisely what women seek to generate or preserve. People don’t pursue or support that which puts them down. Put downs pressure men to recoup their rightness or dignity, and it is inconsistent with buy in of mutual respect, trust, dependence, and compatible life.
All those phenomena sit astride the path between men spreading seed and mothers raising future generations. They enable women to generate and maintain compatible relationships at both gender and couple levels. They enable the superior gender to lead the dominant gender out of the unpleasantness of single life. Recognized as unpleasant by women but not men, women have to sell men on a pleasant life without men knowing unpleasant. Dull or empty perhaps, but generally not unpleasant. It’s quite a challenge, but women are well-born prepared to do it.