2598. Supreme Importance of Women


At 2594, Her Highness Femme likes a particular model of how the world works. She wonders, “Why aren’t we taught this at school?” Other phenomena about human motivation also go untaught, unmentioned, and pretty much unnoticed, but they energize the model to make things happen.

Shown below are behavioral results that we inherit at birth and that guide our lives whether we wish it or not.

First phenomenon:  Femme cited this one as new info. Men spread their seed liberally, mother-love raises the children that result, and life is all about women capturing a man to help raise the next generation. That’s why we are all here, to fulfill God’s intent (or Nature’s randomness if you prefer) of perpetuating our species.

Another phenomenon: Compatibility of the sexes is the most essential ingredient for success in that model. What is compatibility? Respect and trust for and successful dependence on the other sex, primarily made mutual by actions as perceived by men and words more than actions as perceived by women.

Whether gift of God or Nature, both sexes are born well prepared to be compatible living with a member of the opposite sex, and which both actually prefer to single life. But neither prepared nor preference is the same as dedicated.

Women prove their supreme importance; they are the worker bees. They generate and sustain compatibility. They keep its benefits aimed at relationship success. Men can’t, won’t, or don’t. Manly and even husbandly interests lie elsewhere until women show men the advantages available with womanly values and expectations about making the present brighter for their man and the future brighter for themselves.

Another phenomenon: We are all born to get our way associating with others. Taught early in a good childhood, we learn that letting others have their way can be in our own self-interest. Yielding to others signifies respect, trust, and mutual dependence and sits atop compatibility as both foundation and ingredients of love.

Another phenomenon: As people grow up, they differ over compatibility. Women pursue it, but men shy away. Men don’t instinctively know how to take it—beneficial, unfriendly, or women seeking to dominate? They question whether it fits into their anticipated roles in life. Men prefer not to yield their discretion to another without proof they will gain (competitive spirit, you know). Women apply feminine pressures to compensate and get men to live up to womanly expectations. It remains an antagonistic concept to men, however, until one woman sells one man on the concept. She successfully shows how living with her is best for him.

Another phenomenon: Self-interest is the universal motivator; we all live by the guidance it instinctively provides. Each child learns first hand or is instructed how to merge their priorities with the priorities of others who also seek to get their way. The result: We learn early in life that we face hopeless realities, suffer easy frustrations, and often want more than we get. Shortages promote frustration, initiative, and cooperation; they also provoke, determination, ambition, and competition.

As children develop and grow up, the sexes differ in their methods for getting their way with others. Males learn to utilize competition and relative competence with little regard for compatibility except with male friends. OTOH, females learn to focus on cooperation to build and sustain compatibility; first among their sex, then with males, and later within couples responsible to raise another generation.

Consequently, the more we get our way by having earned it, the more we deserve, and that’s how pecking orders develop in home, social and domestic arenas, and even on the job. We intuitively take care to see to our own interest first in support of getting our way with others. Wives and mothers know their self-interest includes care and consideration for their mate or child. Husbands and men must be taught those niceties of living together.

Another phenomenon: Without this balance-of-power phenom, one sex would have millennia ago been enslaved by the other. The balance comes from God blessing us with both a dominant and superior sex.

Obviously, males are dominant, because they act that way and the self-fulfilling prophecy confirms it. Far less obvious, seldom discussed, and acted upon too little for the self-fulfilling prophecy to confirm it, female is the superior gender. Not superior to overpower the dominance of men, but more competent in females getting their way with indirectness, patience, charm, and ability to outwit, outsmart, and outmaneuver their opponents, especially men (and daddy). Thus, women keep the power balanced or suffer the consequences.

Another phenomenon: Blame is the antithesis of womanly spirit of cooperation and toxic to compatibility. Consequently, bashing men or one’s husband accelerates the decline of precisely what women seek to generate or preserve. People don’t pursue or support that which puts them down. Put downs pressure men to recoup their rightness or dignity, and it is inconsistent with buy in of mutual respect, trust, dependence, and compatible life.

All those phenomena sit astride the path between men spreading seed and mothers raising future generations. They enable women to generate and maintain compatible relationships at both gender and couple levels. They enable the superior gender to lead the dominant gender out of the unpleasantness of single life. Recognized as unpleasant by women but not men, women have to sell men on a pleasant life without men knowing unpleasant. Dull or empty perhaps, but generally not unpleasant. It’s quite a challenge, but women are well-born prepared to do it.

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4 responses to “2598. Supreme Importance of Women

  1. 1jarofclay

    Beautiful. Crazy thing is, a lot of what was discussed here, I’d written on the previous post before I read this. I guess it’s confirmation about the conclusion that I got to while I was on my morning walk as to how I handle my frustration with hubby.

    I got back home and the verses from I Peter 3:1-6 in the Bible came to mind. Then I read this post and boom! It’s no coincidence. Thanks again, Sir Guy.

    Magnolia

    Your Highness Magnolia,
    Amen 1 Peter, sister. Sweet guidance, uplifting attitude when a woman carries it.
    Guy

  2. AlabamaGirl

    How does a man have casual, emotionless sex with a woman? How is it that he can have numerous sexual partners and it’s considered completely normal? If the Bible says to abstain from sex until marriage, the man has the ability to control himself as well, correct? PLEASE, I just don’t understand this concept. Sex is the most intimate act 2 people can experience. And…the woman bonds during sex and the man does not??? WHY??? is this so? Why did our Creator make us to be so different in this area? It’s so confusing and hurtful. When a relationship ends (both loved each other) the woman is sick for months and months while the man seems to be able to move right on to another relationship and not give his (past love) a second thought. I just don’t understand.

    Your Highness AlabamaGirl,

    Welcome aboard. I love it when pretty women join us on this cruise on WhatWomenNeverHear.

    NOTE: you’re lower case, MY RESPONSE IS UPPER CASE. YOU’RE A NEWBIE, SO MY RESPONSES MAY APPEAR UNUSUALLY BLUNT. FEEL FREE TO FOLLOW UP ASKING FOR CLARIFICATION OR FURTHER DESCRIPTIONS.

    How does a man have casual, emotionless sex with a woman? IT’S EASY, IT’S HIS NATURE, THE WAY HE’S MADE AND PROGRAMMED BY GENETICS AND HORMONES. HIS NATURE IS HIT AND GO. WOMEN HAVE TO TRAIN MEN TO BE MORE CONSIDERATE.

    How is it that he can have numerous sexual partners and it’s considered completely normal? HE FOLLOWS HIS NATURE. WOMEN DON’T LIKE IT BUT THEY DON’T USE THEIR SUPERIOR STRENGTH, TALENT, AND RELATIONSHIP EXPERTISE TO DISCOURAGE IT AND RESHAPE A MAN’S THINKING ABOUT WHAT HE OWES A GAL THAT HE RESPECTS AND TRUSTS. AND THERE IS THE PROBLEM, WOMEN HAVE TO EARN A MAN’S RESPECT FOR HIS LOVE TO DEVELOP, AND ABSTINENCE IS ABOUT THE ONLY WAY AND BY FAR THE BEST METHOD.

    If the Bible says to abstain from sex until marriage, the man has the ability to control himself as well, correct? ABILITY IS ONE THING, MOTIVATION IS ANOTHER. WOMEN HAVE THE RELATIONSHIP EXPERTISE TO MOTIVATE MEN TO CONTROL THEMSELVES REGARDING THE CONQUEST OF ATTRACTIVE WOMEN. THE CONQUERING URGE IS PRESENT FOR LIFE, BUT ONLY WOMEN CAN ENCOURAGE MEN TO PASS IT UP IN ORDER TO PLEASE ONE WOMAN WHOM HE ADMIRES AND LOVES.

    Please, I just don’t understand this concept. Sex is the most intimate act 2 people can experience. YES, INTIMATE FOR WOMEN BUT NOT FOR MEN. THEY ARE MORE INTO SATISFACTION AND MOVING ON, WHEREAS WOMEN ARE MORE INTO INTIMACY, BONDING, AND STAYING TOGETHER. AGAIN, DIFFERENT NATURES THEY ARE BORN WITH.

    And…the woman bonds during sex and the man does not??? WHY??? is this so? IT IS THEIR VERY DIFFERENT NATURES. INSTINCTIVE, HORMONAL, AND PECULIAR TO WOMEN ONLY.

    Why did our Creator make us to be so different in this area? HE MADE US VERY DIFFERENT IN OTHER AREAS, AND WOMEN CAME OUT SUPERIOR. MAY I SUGGEST YOU READ ARTICLE 2598 POSTED JUST A COUPLE DAYS AGO.

    It’s so confusing and hurtful. THAT’S BECAUSE YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE NATURE OF MEN AND PERHAPS NOT EVEN THAT OF WOMEN. STUDY DEEPER INTO THE BLOG. IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS, JUST ASK ME. I RESPOND TO ALL QUESTIONS AND HAVE DONE SO FOR YEARS. (TODAY IS 9th ANNIVERSARY).

    When a relationship ends (both loved each other) the woman is sick for months and months while the man seems to be able to move right on to another relationship and not give his (past love) a second thought. I just don’t understand. MEN DO NOT LOVE WOMEN AS WOMEN LOVE MEN. COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. A MAN’S LOVE DEVELOPS THROUGH THREE VERY DIFFERENT PROCESSES. MOREOVER, THEY ARE BORN WITH VERY DIFFERENT MOTIVATIONAL FORCES EMBEDDED IN THEIR NATURES. DIFFERENT MOTIVATIONS PRODUCE DIFFERENT RESULTS. LOTS OF INTIMACY PROGRAMS HER HEART TO STAY TOGETHER, SATISFACTION PROGRAMS HIS HEART TO MOVE ON AND SPREAD HIS SEED ELSEWHERE.

    IN THE FIRST PLACE, MEN HAVE TWO SEX DRIVES BUT WOMEN ONLY ONE. HIS PRIMARY DRIVE IS TO CONQUER EVERY ATTRACTIVE WOMAN THAT IS PRACTICAL. HE SEARCHES AND REACHES FOR MORE CONQUESTS UNTIL ONE LADY TAMES AND CONVINCES HIM THAT LIFE WITH HER IS PREFERRED TO THE CONQUERING OR UNFAITHFUL LIFE.

    YOU SOUND VERY YOUNG, SO I SUGGEST YOU STUDY BOTH THE BLOG AND COMMENTS THAT VISITORS MAKE TO THE ARTICLES POSTED AND CONVERSE AMONG THEMSELVES ABOUT LESSONS LEARNED.

    GUY

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