Both sexes are born to get their way. Consequently, competition thrives as the primary motivator to drive human interaction. Being the man’s game, however, competition doesn’t work well for women across gender lines. Ancestors mastered the art that enabled women to get their way, but modern pressures seem to disconnect women from that artistry.
Recognizing themselves as dominant, men compete naturally against Nature, men, and to shape human events. However, they avoid competing directly with women, especially their own. If confronted or pushed by women, men make sure they win. The male psyche avoids losing self-respect by losing to a weaker opponent. It’s not her losing as much as his nature winning.
Recognizing themselves as the physically weaker sex, women learn early in life to win against men. They succeed by specializing in cooperation rather than competition. (Conquest is the exception but a story for elsewhere.)
Cooperation enables women to compete with men indirectly, patiently, and in background rather than with confrontation. Depending on indirectness and patience, each develops the ability to outwit, outsmart, or outmaneuver her man in order to eventually get her way. When not overdone into manipulation, it has the effect of keeping her man satisfied with her and also confirms and satisfies her natural need of self-importance.
Done without disturbing husband’s satisfaction with her, a wife can even make her competitive man appreciate her way of getting her way. Dating, courtship, and engagement are battle grounds for each woman to earn her spurs for marriage. Spurs she can use to eventually get her way in domestic matters that generates marital success.