2672. Refresher Thoughts — 07


  1. Dominance among families comes in several colors. Dominant mate or the head, dominant nester or the heart, and most cherished family leader or dominant leaned-on shoulder. Marriage works smoothest when that sequence matches this: him, her, and either.
  2. Girls dream of a happy life with the right man. Men know they are the right man for any woman they pursue. Consequently, women inherit two tasks. Don’t trust what a man says but favor what he does. Make each man prove he is at least good enough and hopefully right for her.
  3. After conquest, a man’s pursuit stops. He paid her price and now “owns” their sexual agenda; it’s the conqueror’s right. The maximum influence she wielded before conquest fades to much less. Worse, he quits looking for her weaknesses, so he stops uncovering her virtues.
  4. Women like to think love conquers all. Not so. Of vital importance to a lasting marriage are these: the absence of demeaning irritants and frequent hassles, and lack of gratefulness for him and affection for her. As one’s likeability dwindles in their spouse’s heart, they become worth less and less as a mate.
  5. A female eager to accept a male as sex partner bypasses the process by which she earns his respect. It means that little within him grows to keep him committed to her after lust and infatuation fade in a year or two.
  6. One lady claimed femininity added color to a man’s B&W world. Moreover, femininity works best to civilize men, balance male dominance, suppress male aggressiveness, inspire men to prove their worth for one woman, and reward men for acting responsibly as husband and father.
  7. Female independence gained through masculine-style sexual freedom makes marriage dwindle in importance, vitality, longevity, and appeal to men.
  8. Feminism brought into the home changes the cooperative battle of the sexes into an unnatural and competitive war of the sexes.
  9. The more that wives take feminist theory and dogma into the home, the more readily husbands decide to continue as husband or ex. Feminism is foreign and abrasive to the point of incompatibility with the male nature.
  10. Successful marriage flows out of lessons that girls learn while insisting that boys honor feminine values, standards, and expectations. Teen sexual activity short-circuits that process, and girls learn that easy sex leads to the recycle bin, but both sexes are quick to blame anything and everything but sex. [1902]

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