Hello Lady Femme!
The process to get married doesn’t have to be complicated. I understand that things have changed in society and so good women pay the price for other women who are promiscuous or whatever. Many women are very aggressive and many men are very weak. I get you. But you’re seeing the glass half empty. Look at the situation from a different perspective. When men face a sea of unworthy women, a good woman stands out, so you are at an advantage.
I’ve said this before on this blog, but I guess it needs to be repeated: women who succeed in today’s dating market are very proactive. I’ve noticed that a lot of people, both men and women, constantly blame circumstances, or the other sex, or whatever, in today’s market for “everything that’s wrong and why I can’t get a chance.” Or something along those lines.
Women, and especially younger women, also have very high, sometimes unreasonable expectations. They want lots of chemistry (which by the way, is very overrated), someone tall, dark and handsome, with a good career, and the list goes on and on. I’m not saying not to try, but it might be difficult to meet all the criteria. WOMEN CONSTANTLY REJECT TOO MANY GOOD CANDIDATES. Otherwise, how to explain how many are single for years and years? Every woman has suitors. Go out on dates regularly (at least once a week) and then choose the best able of your suitors. The whole process from the moment you start actively dating shouldn’t take more than 2-3 years. There are many good men out there, although most are not worthy of you.
He should be very devoted to you and demonstrate it from day one. Pursue you, respect your boundaries. You should share the same goals and values. He should also support you on your goals in life (and you him) and love your children and want to take care of them. He should make you feel like a princess and want to give you everything you wanted in life.
Manage your emotions so that you don’t get too emotionally attached to any one man until he proves that he’s worthy of you, which in my opinion is one of women’s biggest stumbling blocks today. They meet someone and don’t give him time to become the seller. Instead, they become the sellers themselves! You can achieve not getting too attached by dating other men. Never give explanations about it either.
I’ve noticed also that a lot of women date men who are out to take advantage of women. Narcissists, and the like. Some women waste their most fertile years dating players or men who use them. I suggest that such women seek professional help first, deal with her own demons, and then, once she’s able to date in a healthy way, get back in the game.
But this musical chair thing is ridiculous. They want someone who’s sexy, who’s accomplished, who looks like Henry Cavill (a woman can dream, right?) lots of chemistry, you name it. Instead of just choosing someone who is devoted and stable. Or sometimes women don’t even know what they want. They lack the vision. Without that they will get nowhere.
Give men a chance, ladies! There are many good men dreaming that you would. Wanting to devote themselves to you. Get out there. Screen really well. Don’t yield in your values. Be true to yourself. Have fun while you do it. Dress up! Enjoy being feminine. Draw from your internal resources– confidence, happiness. You can do this. It’s not hard, I promise.
Let me know how it goes. Many blessings.
NOTE to Magnolia: I recognize the extra effort you put in to make this so clear and understandable. Wish I could write so clearly and impressionable.