2680. Refresher Thoughts — 11


  1. A man is more impressed by a woman full of gratitude, than a woman full of love. She expresses her love to please herself or get something, plus its fairly automatic and easier to express than searching for what she is grateful. He receives her gratitude as just what he is due. Consequently, her gratitude is easier to believe and thus more impressive and appreciated. (Women will do well to take that lesson into bed.)
  2. Divulging her sexual history to a man injects unforgettable poison into their relationship. The more promiscuous, the more toxic. (Sooner or later and maybe without her knowledge, it will be used against her.)
  3. Hard-headed feminine gentleness beguiles males. It adds to her mystique, uniqueness, likeability, and influence. [1905]
  4. Feminine mystique attracts men and holds their interest. An air of secrecy and generally hard-to-get draws men into a woman’s aura of charm. (It keeps her in charge and puts men on the defensive. It’s the opposite of her chasing him, and it forces each man to prove his worth to her—if he chooses to pursue her. When he perceives charming but strong resistance to his first priority, sexual conquest, it pushes him deeper into the role of seller, which proportionally reinforces her as the buyer and intensifies his interest.)
  5. Female modesty tames males. It’s a woman’s greatest counterbalance to male domination. As she uses it to keep men on the defensive, it weakens male domination.
  6. The foundation of a man’s love is respect for a woman signified by devotion demonstrated by his actions. (Romantic love, mostly based on infatuation and lust, does not require a man’s respect. Plus, romantic love fades after a year or two. Enduring love, if it’s to replace the romantic kind and not also fade away, requires his respect that she earned early and continues to maintain.)
  7. Feminine adherence to moral standards helps earn masculine respect. Unless raised by mothers and girls to respect it, the male nature does not need morality. It predominantly serves women and children, when women promote and push moral standards that first suppress extreme male domination, aggression, and violence, and second teach men to use and spread moral values to help smooth out the kinks of living together or in society.
  8. Female-designed and -upheld customs and manners calm men. By women insisting on and upholding social and domestic standards, men learn they must please women to enjoy feminine endorsement, appreciation, and support.
  9. Of course it’s not fair, but men have little interest partnering with only one woman. Unless, that is, women sell and reward their man—however far removed from ideal to her—for both husbanding and fathering.
  10. Men don’t do the love thing as women do. Men expect this first in a relationship: a cooperative, helpful, and likeable rather than a competitive and offending spirit. Next, a man expects respect and gratitude for who he is and what he does. The former invites him to partner, the latter holds him as partner. [1907]

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4 responses to “2680. Refresher Thoughts — 11

  1. Miss Gina

    One of my favorites!

  2. msarianne

    Great list!

  3. MLaRowe

    Dear Sir Guy,

    What are your thoughts as to when there is a problem with addiction with a spouse and one gets to the point where they just aren’t sure they want to keep trying to make the marriage work anymore. The addict is unable to reach their full potential and the children are starting to (or have been) suffering.

    Can’t an addiction be sort of like another woman? It’s pulling the loved one away from their responsibilities.

    On the other hand the vow in marriage was : “in sickness and in health” on that end isn’t an addiction a sickness?

    Please let me know your thoughts.

    Your Highness MLaRowe,

    My thoughts are just like yours.

    The following thoughts are impressions rather than statistical. In society, neither prevention nor intervention seems very successful.

    I believe the cause is low self-esteem implanted as an infant and low self-image developed by the child under the influence of well-intentioned but misinformed parent(s). Kids enter adolescence aimed without resistance and eagerly seek drugs for the uplift they expect, WADWMUFGAO.

    Those who start drugs as adults have encountered experiences that reduce their self-image to that of a loser. Men lose their ability to admire who and what they are. Women lose their conviction that they are important to self and others. In both cases, their mate can be the instigator.

    The politicized educational self-esteem movement worsens the problem, but parents dumbed-down by politics and educational theory buy into it without examination.

    Guy

  4. Ms. New to This

    Would you explain or provide example of this? “Hard-headed feminine gentleness beguiles males”.

    Your Highness Ms. New to This,

    A woman who can’t be talked down off her ledge of self-protection earns respect of a man for her hard-headedness. She’s unique in ways he can admire, which means it’s a virtue.

    A woman that pursues the feminine pathway in life provides significant mystery to a man, and it earns his admiration, which means it too is a virtue.

    Gentleness in a woman appears so stable and unusual to a man that he can admire her uniqueness. Again, another virtue.

    Men seek to marry a virtuous woman. Virtues beguile because they stir his imagination. What would it be living with her compared to his present life?

    Guy

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